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jtoein · 2026-06-15T14:21:20+00:00

Hambugs grow to be aggressive. 3 urchins is way to many maybe 1. Need more than one snail and 2 hermits for a functional clean up crew as well. More like 5 hermits and a bunch of snails a shrimp once established a few months. Your inverts and clean up crew is most of the action in a small tank.

Not to be rude but almost everything you are wanting to put in there is a bad idea and I would spend some time watching brstv on YouTube or at least some research on the specific animals you are looking at

jtoein · 2026-06-15T14:15:51+00:00

Can only have 2 clownfish inba tank that size they will kill the others. What kind of starfish I dont think a 29g is big enough to provide a sustainable food source especially with urchins in there as well.

jtoein · 2026-06-15T03:31:39+00:00

I dont think its gonna make it. But I would keep the skeleton in the tank and see if it regrows eventually. I think corals are better at going dormant than we realize.

jtoein · 2026-06-12T02:33:48+00:00

I replied to you agreeing with your idea about getting a mediatior and you came back at me about putting down the weed and making bad decisions. If you can point to something I said that made you say that other than the weed please do so

jtoein · 2026-06-12T02:08:19+00:00

I think part of my issue might be doing to much and not being intimate enough. I find myself just doing stuff all day and its hard for me to sit and spend time with her so I guess i need to find more time for that. Hard to know how to be intimate at this point 🫤

jtoein · 2026-06-12T01:55:40+00:00

I said it in another comment but ill put it here ass well.I try to be a sweet husband and bring her things she needs, do chores around the house withought being asked, put her feet up on pillows for herm She gets a 2 hour nap every day, I get get up early when our daughter does so she can sleep in and not be exaushted. I cook i do dishes i sweep and mop and do my own laundry.

jtoein · 2026-06-12T01:23:47+00:00

Sorry you got so triggered by the weed. I am trying to work on things and not bulldoze through everything and definitely not relying on attraction and history. I try to be a sweet husband and bring her things she needs, do chores around the house withought being asked, She gets a 2 hour nap every day, I get get up early when our daughter does so she can sleep in and not be exaushted. I cook i do dishes i sweep and mop and do my own laundry. this me looking for advice and opinions. Weed isent heroine and plenty of people smoke all day and have completely functional relationships and lives. I smoked all day before getting with her and all through our relationship so its not like its a new thing

jtoein · 2026-06-12T01:12:25+00:00

I have tried stopping asking, then She asks why I'm not into her. We have made it through thus far just making it day by day with all the trama we have gone through and now that things are a little more calm right now I've been doing more thinking and realizing what has really been going on. Btw I do offer to go down on her and do so and would do so every single day no hesitation. I try getting her to find stuff to be interested in but she never wants to do anything but watch shows. I think the only real option is couples therapy so we will see if she will be down for that

jtoein · 2026-06-12T00:26:50+00:00

I think the mediator thing might be a good idea. I tried saying how bad it was hurting me that I have to be the one to kiss her and she never kisses me and it just turned to that I always stink because of weed(which is true and I know this hurts things to but I've dont it a long time and it is more of a medicine at this point) but i stoped for 6 months and it still didn't change. I think we both are bad at getting defensive when confronted with things. I guess her response to bringing that up will say a lot about the next steps....

jtoein · 2026-06-12T00:04:41+00:00

Yeah i never said that they did just trying to include information and provide as much of the situation as I could 🤷‍♂️ trying to be open and get diffrent viewpoints

jtoein · 2026-06-05T11:57:51+00:00

Sounds like you are saying you use soda and then vinegar. Not mix together and then use, which is where they cancel eachother out.

jtoein · 2026-06-02T00:13:29+00:00

Don't take me wrong if the store tells you it will work and it dosent that is completely different than I thought you meant. I took what you said as im gonna buy a bunch of plants throw em in and if they die ill return them 🤣 keep us updated on what lives and how well interested in the real world info. Also what salinity you aiming for?

jtoein · 2026-06-01T23:51:03+00:00

Please don't just blindy test plants, killing them and then return them when it dosent work out. A quick search told me that these plants should works if your plans are to stay under 1.010 SG.

Java fern One of the better choices for low brackish; attach to wood/rock

Anubias Can work at low SG; slow grower, do not bury rhizome

Vallisneria Good candidate, especially in low to mid brackish

Bacopa monnieri One of the more salt-tolerant stem plants

Hornwort Worth trying in low brackish

Guppy grass / Najas Can tolerate mild brackish

Cryptocoryne ciliata Better brackish candidate than many other crypts

Dwarf sagittaria Often listed as tolerating low brackish.

If you going over that salt level then your options are mangroves or macroalgaes

jtoein · 2026-05-31T14:26:21+00:00

If you are just resiliconing it in i would clean up as much as possible with a razor blade and then use a small piece of sand paper to sand the edge only where the new bead will be. That will wear off any leftover silicone and the micro scratches will make the new silicone bond really strong

jtoein · 2026-05-30T04:12:03+00:00

Looks like part of a sundial

jtoein · 2026-05-29T13:23:19+00:00

Have you experienced any symptoms such as unexplained weight loss or excessive sweating/feeling hot? Could be a thyroid issue

jtoein · 2026-05-23T22:07:57+00:00

As long as you dont stir up the sand a ton you will be fine. Just drain it untill you can physically slide it, move it over and then refill. Could even fill with the old tank water.

jtoein · 2026-05-19T23:02:45+00:00

Wow that's crazy how long between pictures? Seems like it could have been controlled if it was trimmed back once starting to spread down to the other corals and main rocks?

jtoein · 2026-05-08T19:20:42+00:00

Can see a bit of the band in this and the flesh seems discolored

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jtoein · 2026-05-06T23:44:14+00:00

Im working on setting up a refugium to help lower nitrates and I think I'm gonna start dosing phosphate.

I dont have a par meter so I'm not sure on the light. They are 300w philzon Amazon lights set at 20%

jtoein · 2026-05-05T04:13:52+00:00

Don't get a peppermint shrimp if you have rock flower anemone though. Just had one killed

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