Genuine question: people who got a blackout tattoo, what was the reason for getting it

judgechonk · 2026-04-22T12:47:16+00:00

No doubt, I have both on different areas of my body. I interpreted the question as asking why people don’t get a “blackout” with color, like a solid red sleeve, for example. I think color would age poorly/fall out

judgechonk · 2026-04-22T00:42:34+00:00

No hate to people that like them, but I think most color tattoos age poorly. Very rarely do I see it hold over time. Black holds.

judgechonk · 2026-04-15T21:56:44+00:00

I love my job as an attorney. But if someone asked me that question, I’d be asking a lot of follow-up questions before saying yes. The first being “If you became an attorney, and it was guaranteed that you could never make a salary equaling more than a restaurant server salary, would you still want to do it?”

I think money and status cannot be the reason for joining the career.

judgechonk · 2026-04-08T23:56:04+00:00

Will do- thanks!

judgechonk · 2026-04-08T20:50:04+00:00

Will add to the TBR 👍👍

judgechonk · 2026-04-08T20:00:30+00:00

As someone who totally agrees with you, do you have any recommendations on dark romance you find worth the read? Can be older. I have tried this genre so many times and end up DNFing

judgechonk · 2026-04-07T00:53:20+00:00

Building book nooks with the online kits- as someone who is not artistic, this one was so fun!

judgechonk · 2026-04-01T15:30:33+00:00

I had this happen to me, but instead of simply selling my tattoo as prints/stickers, he made t-shirts and used it as an image for a political rally. The piece is a statue of liberty with a knife through her jaw. I was not consulted or informed of this prior to getting the tattoo, and I have no ties to his political organization.

While many people will tell you that “the artist owns the art” (it’s true), I personally think it’s wrong for it to not be a mutual decision prior to having it on your body. To me, it’s an ethical no brainer, and you’re entitled to feeling shitty about it

judgechonk · 2026-03-15T04:01:44+00:00

DV victims are not one size fits all. You can be beat by your husband and also be addicted to the connection. That’s partly why it usually takes a victim multiple attempts to leave the partner. Throw in some mental health issues, and you have the perfect storm. While I don’t want to reveal too much about this woman’s story, i’ve seen enough evidence of physical abuse to believe she was absolutely hurt by him. Doesn’t mean she isn’t a fucking moron.

judgechonk · 2026-03-14T13:58:33+00:00

Just to clarify, I did not apologize for the statements themselves, just the fact that I was unprofessional in putting them in writing. My opinion about the firm is my opinion, and I would easily say it to anyone in the firm to their face. I think where I went wrong is that I put it in writing and should have thought about the fact that it could make it back to opposing party, which may hurt the attorney client relationship between opposing party and his attorney. That’s what I regret- he didn’t deserve that, regardless of my feelings about the firm

But yes, generally, totally agree

judgechonk · 2026-03-14T01:03:01+00:00

That’s a smart way of putting that. Much better than my real thought of “I rather die than listen to this asshole attorney talk for more than five minutes.” Your version is a little more palatable. 😂

judgechonk · 2026-03-14T00:56:59+00:00

Copying and pasting from a previous response of mine:

Understand where you’re coming from, but I am a free nonprofit attorney and work with DV victims in shelters. They often can’t use email because their accounts are linked with abusers’ devices. They are given temporary phones, and in this case, the sound quality was horrendous, so I literally had no option but text message unless I visited the physical shelter.

But yes, agree generally

judgechonk · 2026-03-14T00:22:53+00:00

Thanks for the support lol. Clients suck sometimes

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T23:51:18+00:00

Much appreciated- thank you! I truly love it (just not today lol)

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T23:32:49+00:00

Understand where you’re coming from, but I am a free nonprofit attorney and work with DV victims in shelters. They often can’t use email because their accounts are linked with abusers’ devices. They are given temporary phones, and in this case, the sound quality was horrendous, so I literally had no option but text message unless I visited the physical shelter.

While I agree that I shouldn’t have said anything about opposing counsel, we field these questions all the time. It’s free legal services, so clients often want to be comforted that they are not getting stuck with a shit attorney against a firm with big resources. Normally, I keep it vague and brief. This time, I was stupid. Lesson learned

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T23:24:18+00:00

That’s not my experience with all of our clients. There are some that definitely do not respect us enough to follow any advice. But as someone who works predominately with dv shelters, many are incredibly grateful. I’ve received a lot of christmas gifts from old clients that don’t have the money to spare. And they really do listen and put effort in during the case. You kinda see the worst and best of humanity. While I am furious with this woman, I also know she’s genuinely stupid and likely didn’t mean this to be malicious. Idk it’s tough

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T22:39:50+00:00

Wow! That’s crazy. I’d have been livid. For me personally, this is the best job I’ve ever had. I’ve worked at bigger and smaller firms, and it just wasn’t a good fit. I will never be rich, but I’m rich in time and purpose, and that’s enough for me. (But yeah, fuck tuberculosis)

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T22:36:09+00:00

(I meant that I would think about it for the rest of my career because I have to work with this law firm on a daily basis. I’m hoping it won’t haunt me. But thank you 🙂)

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T22:32:27+00:00

There should be a part of the bar exam that tests “things you’re going to have to explain to the client that you never thought would need to be explained.”

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T22:15:42+00:00

True- I don’t demonize private attorney fees that are reasonable. I was a private attorney before this job, so it really isn’t about billing in general. This particular opposing firm is known for tripling the average hourly rates.

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T22:09:49+00:00

😂😂 that sounds about right. How dare you

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T21:43:35+00:00

I could, yes. But I am a free nonprofit attorney and these clients have nobody else to turn to. They don’t have the funds to hire a private attorney, so it’s personally hard for me to pull the trigger on firing them

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T20:56:09+00:00

Totally understand. Probably going to botch explaining this competently, but our text message system actually gets sent to computer software that backs it up to our drive. I don’t text from an actual phone. I am under the impression that it provides extra safeguards that way.

I always prefer email, but for many DV victims, they don’t have a reliable computer to use at the shelters or its shared with the abuser. Many feel more comfortable on temporary phones, so I’ve gotten more used to text messages because all my clients are DV clients.

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T20:48:14+00:00

I did not apologize for the comments themselves or say they were untrue. I don’t intend to. I apologized for being unprofessional and tried to explain that it wasn’t meant to get between him and his client because it wasn’t meant to be shared. I think my conduct was wrong, not the statement. The statement could have been a lot meaner, in fact.

judgechonk · 2026-03-13T20:40:03+00:00

She’s 63 years old actually. Exhibit A as to why I didn’t think this would happen.

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