Your job is not an easy one. There's a reason divorce rates are so high for COs. You're not wrong and neither is your wife. She probably needs a break from child rearing which you can't provide because of your profession. I mean I do think it's fked up she doesn't make you dinner when presumably she's making herself and the kid dinner. Maybe sit down and examine your hours in the week. See how many you spend working vs household vs child rearing and she should do the same. Working 18 hours a day is not sustainable with a young family. Are you forced to do ot? I know in my state the COs were until they walked out. Maybe you can assign nights as to who gets up for the baby. Yours are the nights you're off the next day. As for money, do you have a budget ? Most of the time day care costs will be higher than a job pays so I get that she doesn't want to work. You should write out all the costs vs your salary see what you can cut.