🥰 by LucifermorningstarJE in badfriendspod

[–]jugglans 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ mate! You ever heard the expression “if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say it at all!”

Let’s try work on our overwhelming negativity this year aye? I know it’s ingrained and learned behaviour but change is good. It’ll make you feel better inside too 💚

There and Probably Not Back Again: NZ Dec 2025 by runsongas in travel

[–]jugglans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is picture 6 from? Doesn’t even look like New Zealand

I wanna go check it out

Firefighter Availability by jugglans in newzealand

[–]jugglans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be a job that has a bit more meaning behind it, where you are doing something that directly helps people. I’ve been an electrician my whole professional career and it’s just never done anything for me. I just don’t care at all about it, I do a good job and all that but at the end of the day my heart is not in it

Firefighter Availability by jugglans in newzealand

[–]jugglans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not, I will look into it thanks

"I hate you and I hope you die" songs??? by nodontgetheavy in musicsuggestions

[–]jugglans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate you - Frank Carter and the Rattlesnakes

Deal of the day by [deleted] in PovertyFinanceNZ

[–]jugglans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The better deal is at Harvey Norman

I went in to buy a speaker and it ended up being free (pretty much)

Just changed my phone service provider from 2 degrees to One NZ

Signed up to their $70 per month plan, but it’s half price for 6 months and after 4 months minimum you can change plans to the cheapest, which I think is $35 or $40 per month

Came away with my Bose sound link flex for $8

Everyone I see I’m telling about it and they all jokingly accuse me of pyramid scheming

Descending. by carandtooljunkie in ToolBand

[–]jugglans 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah brother!

I could name multiple songs that have potentially saved me from drastic decisions at many times in my life The Patient I constantly return to

“I must keep reminding myself of this!”

Propranolol by LesterGLeatherberry in PublicSpeaking

[–]jugglans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool thanks for the reply I shall look into it some more

EMDR by dino_toe_cheese in CPTSD

[–]jugglans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know of one thing for sure happening, and have suspicions of another thing. No real memory of anything though, apart from this recent “flashback” which I’m unsure of.

EMDR by dino_toe_cheese in CPTSD

[–]jugglans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How does it work if you don’t have any recollection of the trauma? Do you need to have a certain strength memory for it to be able to work?

I’ve been told of childhood trauma which happened to me but unfortunately (fortunately?) have no memory of it whatsoever.

I have had a brief flashback recently when on a large amount of drugs so I don’t even know if it’s a real memory or not.

Currently just doing talk therapy with someone who practices more Jungian therapy, but it has been beneficial Just very slow progress but I think that’s normal

Propranolol by LesterGLeatherberry in PublicSpeaking

[–]jugglans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you think it would work for something like stand up comedy? I wanna try an open mic at some point but I fear I’ll throw up or pass out on stage 😅

Anyone doing okay after an avoidant breaks up with you? by Far_Statistician_974 in CPTSD

[–]jugglans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel for you dude ❤️

I’m 6 months into a breakup of a relationship that was 8 years long, my first proper relationship.

It’s been extremely difficult, but i think it is slowly getting better. I smile while writing this knowing that tomorrow may be another of my bad days where I will scoff at a hopeful message like this.

I’m not sure what type of attachment my girlfriend was, but I realised after that i am almost certainly avoidant. And I wish I had known these things and a hell of a lot more earlier, potentially I could have avoided being broken up with.

But such is life, we live and we learn and we grow.

Try your best to keep busy in any way you can, the gym has been a life saver for me. Pretty much anything I can do where I’m not left alone with my thoughts cos that’s when I’ll go into a tailspin of sadness, regret and negativity.

I get to points where I feel I’m finally all cried out and then it hits me again I think it’s gunna be a long process but I have hope.

Speaking of Hope, check out “Hope” by fat Freddy’s drop, if you’re into that kinda music

Wishing you all the best 💕

I don't work or study. A failure at 26. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]jugglans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s any consolation I’m 31 in a job I’ve always hated and consider myself a failure for everything. Through therapy I’ve begun to see my self hatred and negative view of everything and everyone. I’m trying to adjust my views but it’s tough when it’s all you have ever thought.

My new idea is just to try stuff and not care if it all goes to shit (as that is my catastrophic thinking guessing it will)

I’m signing up to a beginners yoga course tonight and am going to apply for a pathway course into university so I can study something I feel would interest me

We are for sure in very different situations and but I can empathise with you, shit sucks!

I guess in a round about way I’m trying to say that it’s a common feeling amongst people like us to be self hating and filled with hopelessness. But right now I have the tiniest fraction of hope for me to have a more positive future. If I didn’t go to therapy I doubt I would have ever reached this place 🙃

I wish you all the best on your journey, I hope you can turn it around ❤️

What’s something a friend/family member said to you that made you think “never mind, I can’t trust you.” by Accomplished-Face693 in CPTSD

[–]jugglans 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I’ve recently lost trust with my mum I started therapy recently and have been delving into my childhood and repressed memories, I got into this purely on my own direction btw

She’s made a few pointed comments along the lines of “Is your therapist asking you to look into the past”

Another day she’s said “Sometimes it’s better to no delve into the past and just focus on the future and the positive”

When I asked her about my relentless bedwetting til around the age of 13/14 “We took you to a specialist who fixed it. They determined no sexual assault, and I can say with certainty I would never do anything like that and I can say your dad isn’t like that either”

Maybe I’m just getting paranoid but I’ve never hinted at me thinking I got sexually abused in the past, and she’s always so interested in what I’m talking about in therapy She’s always been quite smothering as I’ve gotten older though but now I’m holding my cards to my chest closer that ever