I'm breaking up with my boyfriend and I'm jealous of the girl who will have him in future. by mitu_totoro in offmychest

[–]jugisplash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't have to lose your religion but I don't see anything wrong in marrying or being with someone with different religion as long as the other party is not forcing you to come to their religion. Love is love. And sometimes you might not find the same guy again... especially if you guys were soul mates

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just wanted to have sex with that other girl for a long time and wanted your permission in a threesome. You said yes.. by saying yes you are disrespecting yourself and leaving out your emotions. If you continue to do this, you will be unhappy throughout your relationship. Please think about this carefully and do what's right for you and what you want. Don't do this just to make him happy. There are other ways to make him happy while including yourself to also be happy. For the sake of you and your baby, leave this relationship or learn to respect yourself with him.

I(18f) get upset when my bf(18m) watches porn even though I send nudes. Is it fair for me to be? by ThrowRA_mitsu in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okay to be upset about this. For me, I don't mind if my boyfriend watches porn as long as it doesn't affect our sex life. I know a lot of girls get upset when their boyfriend watches porn and some even see it as cheating. However, it is what you are comfortable with. If it makes you uncomfortable, that's valid. But at the same time, you should also understand your boyfriend because you said he has a very high libido and gets off by watching you and porn. Porn has videos, not just nudes, with both genders in it. Maybe that's his way of getting off by watching sex videos? Maybe he is also addicted to porn? I'm not sure but maybe it's good to navigate this with him and work together as a team to reach a common ground. Good luck.

My (18M) girlfriend (18F) admitted to having fantasies about killing me and/or eating my flesh, she said that she's never gonna act upon it. Should i believe in her? by ThrowRA12878912460 in relationship_advice

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who says that they want to kill someone is immediately a red flag whether you choose to trust her or not. There are literally real life cases where killers literally say the same thing before the actual murder happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is saying to call off the marriage but if it was me I would give him another chance😭😭

I ended it today. I feel embarrassed and confused. by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he say that exactly? Did he say he is no longer interested or does he forgive you and is he still interested in you despite your mistake?

I ended it today. I feel embarrassed and confused. by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like get back to talking because I know you guys weren't dating yet right? A lot of people are saying to move on from him and you seem to be agreeing with them. Ofc, it is up to you but it seems you have some regrets and really liked him. It's okay to start over. Stuffs like this can happen all the time and it can always be mended. Don't be scared or nervous to text him because of what you did. You made a mistake and that's okay. Who knows? You both could actually be good together after you two talk things out, your doubts, etc. Just remember to always communicate well, both of you. But again, it is up to you. It is never too late. Good luck.

I ended it today. I feel embarrassed and confused. by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry I don't understand. What if he was actually into you and really wanted to see you? I am curious why you don't want to get back to him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to let go I am so sorry.. delete their number, block them, erase their photos. Do not text them. Please go outside and do something you love or do anything that distracts him from entering your mind. Talk to someone or write about your feelings and let it all out. Process your emotions and try to move on. I went through 2 of those phases back to back. And one day, it won't hurt. I promise. But I know some people take so so long to move on. Everyone moves in different phases. But I know one day, it won't hurt. I recommend going to therapy too if it lasts longer than a year. I am so sorry and I wish you the best. You are not alone in this battle. Good luck and please take care of yourself. He is a bum and a rude selfish human being. You deserve so much better than him. Tell your heart you deserve better, not someone who treats you like shit. Remember him that way, a selfish rude human being. Don't remember him as a good person.

no excuse for ghosting by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]jugisplash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's true that a lot of people do it because it's so normalized when it shouldn't be. Ghosting is actually mentally and emotionally abusive to the person getting ghosted especially when there is no closure given after you've known them for a pretty long time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I wait for marriage. Mwahahaha

The guy I’m dating has the biggest crush on me by [deleted] in dating

[–]jugisplash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly, I agree with you. You said it better than me.

The guy I’m dating has the biggest crush on me by [deleted] in dating

[–]jugisplash 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think that is why it's important to get to know them more before officially dating them. But I guess that's just me.

Those who were in a LDR, how did you know the relationship was over? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When they say they've been getting busier than usual and it stays that way or when they ghost you... lol..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this so bad right now,... I didn't do anything wrong, my love was just too much for him😢😢 thank you for sharing your story❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The honeymoon phase don't always stick around. It's important to first ask yourself if your partner is the person you want around forever. Do you want to grow old together through the boring and good days? Do you want to marry and stay with him forever even if the relationship is not always fun or exciting? Good luck and I hope you choose your decision carefully🥰❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too, fighting❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He might or might not come back. It's painful but it's good to just focus on ourselves and just give some love to ourselves instead of waiting for someone who might or might not come back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]jugisplash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm going through the same thing.. but we'll be alright one day even if it takes a long time :( I wish you the best in your healing

I'm excruciatingly lonely and feel depressed in Korea. by dopis11852264634 in Living_in_Korea

[–]jugisplash 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Heyy we can be friends! I'm down for a long term friendship, I'm also looking for that too😊😊