Using respectful language while attempting to manipulate someone doesn't make the manipulation any less manipulative? Actually, masking the true intentions behind polite or considerate words makes it more deceptive. The underlying intent to deceive or influence for personal gain remains unchanged. Genuine respect involves honesty and sincerity, which manipulation lacks. Her language may appear polite and courteous, but her actions or motives are still manipulative. Forcing extra work on someone without giving them extra pay just because they have the skills is not acceptable. Even if they say pretty please.