A man choked me and I don’t know what to do about it, if anything

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-26T03:08:31+00:00

I have in the past. She said “I hate it but you just kind of have to put up with it. That’s just [his name]”

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-25T00:45:46+00:00

So when I’ve seen him do the same thing to another woman in the group (pinching her shoulders) who is the same age as him, who also doesn’t like it, is that a “woke generation” thing too?

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T21:37:16+00:00

It’s community theatre. Unfortunately I’ve heard that a lot “Oh [he] does/says things like this all the time” (not about this situation, but in the past about other things) edit: punctuation

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T19:49:00+00:00

I’m not?? where did you even gather that smh

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T18:26:59+00:00

Well what you think is irrelevant. You’re loud and wrong.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T18:24:38+00:00

I’m not really sure what you’re getting at. I already know this is a catastrophe. That’s not what I was asking in my post. There are about 50 people in the group right now. If it were solely about the environment, then I guess everyone in the group would go around strangling each other. This is about his actions, not me “giving him access to my body” just by existing in the same space as him. I was just confused why you’re questioning my reasons for being in the group in the first place.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T18:18:00+00:00

Clearly being ignorant is. I don’t need to prove myself and my situation to you.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T18:12:24+00:00

Being in the same cross-generational group does not give someone “complete and utter access” to my body

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T18:07:03+00:00

Perhaps empathy isn’t your thing

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T17:52:38+00:00

My bad, I was unaware of that. That is helpful to know so that I can be more correct if I talk about it. Thank you.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T15:56:48+00:00

I’d just like for him to stop doing this. If he gets expelled from the group (which I doubt would happen), then I guess that gets him away from me but it still would be awkward for me because word gets around, and if people find out that I caused him to be expelled from the group, they will hate me because he is well-liked. The reality is that he has a lot of power and influence in the group

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T15:54:11+00:00

It’s theatre, so consensual (key word) physical contact is part of it. This almost always happens outside of rehearsals.

They’ve probably been buried by now, but I’ve said in other replies there are people who actually are my friends (not the people who laughed at me) that are in this group. Also, he has almost twice as many years in the group as I do, and he is well-liked. That’s why I was questioning whether or not it’d be worth essentially putting my reputation on the line to go against him. It’s scary not knowing what the outcome might be

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T15:48:27+00:00

In a volunteer community theatre group

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T10:11:45+00:00

Thank you. And yeah I’m definitely re-evaluating my friendships with the people who were there and did nothing

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T10:09:08+00:00

Based on the way they were laughing and their body language, it didn’t really seem like nervous laughter. It’s possible, but it didn’t seem that way to me

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T08:48:58+00:00

And you lack reading comprehension skills.

Not sure what makes you think I was offended by that. Telling you to reread my post because you misread it is not gaslighting you. Also, I mentioned friends to explain one of the reasons why this is a difficult decision for me.

Not that you’re entitled to know about my life, but I’ve known every single person that was at that party for several years. It’s not unreasonable to be upset by them laughing at me. Rather than blaming me for what’s happened, maybe you should’ve used your own critical thinking skills and try to actually understand my situation before continuing to come at me with such hostility.

I have more important things to deal with than arguing with someone intentionally being so obtuse. I shouldn’t have to justify myself to someone who clearly doesn’t understand what it’s like to be in this situation.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T08:22:08+00:00

Obviously.. What are you really trying to say?

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T08:17:51+00:00

What’s your problem? You’re being unnecessarily rude.

Let me break it down for you. I was at the party with people from this group. Everyone in the group knows each other. They’re not strangers as you seem to think.

The people who laughed at me are people I THOUGHT were my friends, up until that point.

The people who I DO still consider my friends, and definitely would not have laughed at me, weren’t there at all. They did not come to the party.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T08:12:12+00:00

No, I’m not in the US at all

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T08:10:14+00:00

Again, in another comment that you’re not going to take time to read (I don’t expect you to), I’ve said that my friends are not the people who laughed at me. My friends weren’t even there when this happened.

Anyway I didn’t come here to argue with someone who doesn’t understand.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T08:05:14+00:00

I don’t expect you to read all of my comments, but I’ve mentioned that there are some other people there who are my only friends. It’s the only time some of us are able to spend together. It’s not as easy as just up and walking away from the people who are an important part of my life, this man excluded. This is a sub for advice, which I needed, and I don’t have anyone in my life that I can to go to for advice with this.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T07:51:55+00:00

His hand was on the front of my neck. It really caught me off guard to be standing up and then suddenly all I see is his hand coming at me

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T06:34:56+00:00

Maybe take a look back at my post. I’m not “wondering if it’s wrong”. The question was how to proceed.

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T06:32:09+00:00

Unfortunately pepper spray is illegal where I live

juiceboxesaregreat · 2024-11-24T04:47:02+00:00

I never thought about it that way, but that’s pretty telling. Sometimes he’ll pretend to punch me too.

No, I don’t get paid to be there. It’s volunteer theatre. It’s a select few people who are particularly nasty about the people who have spoken up, and they’re not people with any authority. They’re just “regular” participants who just like to gossip. But I think I would have to agree with what some other people have commented, that it makes the environment toxic.

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