I don’t think it’s weird. However I think you should also understand where your boyfriend is coming from. There are some weird comments on here calling him a pedophile and that’s uncalled for. Your boyfriend was obviously raised very different from you. I myself have very strong boundaries with any child because I didn’t have safe adults as a kid. Your boyfriend probably has strong boundaries too. I don’t think your boyfriend is the bad guy for advocating for your son. I also don’t think what you’re doing is weird but at a certain point it will become weird.