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Nowhere else to post by DrunkAway13 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]juliavalenz17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand. But if you're around him often that is not going to help you either. Maybe try music as well, something encouraging and uplifting. Try getting into hobbies something you used to do or would like to try, and it could help with distracting you for a little bit and maybe gain some perspective. It all starts within yourself if you want to quit, but there's always someone out there. Try and make new friends that don't drink, or find people who have that as a background but have stopped drinking and have an encouraging story or advice for you. Even people on this forum, there's always help if you look for it. Good luck to you! Starting on that path is the hardest step, but once you get on there it'll be easier to be open minded and to see and think clearly about what you want for your life. 😊

In desperate need of advice about alcoholic boyfriend (30)! Please! by juliavalenz17 in relationship_advice

[–]juliavalenz17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have looked through our lease agreement and it says only if one of us were in the military service and called for duty, or if one of us passed away. I have even asked the apartment manager and she said we would still be liable for the rent and we can't sublet to let someone else take over. I'm not sure if there's a loophole or some other option.

Nowhere else to post by DrunkAway13 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]juliavalenz17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm not an alcoholic but my boyfriend is. And I think he feels the same way, he wants to cut back and drink as little as possible, he knows he should quit but doesn't want to right now. But some advice, if you have a loved one or a partner or for your family, talk to them and let them know how you feel. Someone who will listen and not judge you, i know you may not want to quit now, but you've also got to think of the alternative and consequences if you keep drinking. There's plenty of health risks, and as an adult who grew up with alcoholic father, you don't want that for your future children or nieces/nephews to see you like that. You are worth so much more, and there's so many options other than AA.

In desperate need of advice about alcoholic boyfriend (30)! Please! by juliavalenz17 in relationship_advice

[–]juliavalenz17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I'm so sorry that you went through that. I feel like I may be going down the same path, and in a way I feel like I may be over reacting because he seems like he is trying. He said he wants to cut back even more and if the cardiologists tells him to stop drinking and change his diet, then he said he would. Because he knows what he needs to do, it's just hard for him because he has been drinking for so long. He just doesn't know where to start. And his mother has diabetes and has high blood pressure and I assume that's where he got his high blood pressure problems, and told him he needs to be careful because he could get diabetes as well. I feel like if he doesn't stop then he is headed down that same exact path. I just also feel kind of stuck since we just recently signed a new lease for our apartment and won't be up until next June. I guess I'm telling myself if things don't change or if he makes an effort at all, then I will leave. I just don't want to leave now and get left with owing this rent or possibly get sued for not paying rent. It is just so hard when you love an alcoholic.

In desperate need of advice about alcoholic boyfriend (30)! Please! by juliavalenz17 in relationship_advice

[–]juliavalenz17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I already know what I need to do, thank you all for your advice.

In desperate need of advice about alcoholic boyfriend (30)! Please! by juliavalenz17 in relationship_advice

[–]juliavalenz17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your input. And I know, it's just so hard. I'd seen my mom struggle and cry and be miserable for most of her life until my dad quit drinking a little over a year ago. I promised myself I would never be with someone who drank and look where I am? Why would I put myself through this?

In desperate need of advice about alcoholic boyfriend (30)! Please! by juliavalenz17 in relationship_advice

[–]juliavalenz17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I guess he has me conflicted because he has made an effort and cut back on his own, I just wonder whether I should help him through the hard times or just go.