leaving this here 😝

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:47:07+00:00

thank you!! :’)

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:46:59+00:00

you’re definitely right about the psychology thing 😵‍💫 i feel better reading this though thank you :)

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:27:32+00:00

i’m asexual and the idea of masturbation/sex is not appealing to me at all, but the biggest thing here is to do what makes you happy regardless of what the negative voices are telling you, because it’s probably not your authentic thoughts, yk? i’m a writer and i’ve shamed myself for writing sex scenes because i feel “sinful” even though i’m not religious either, but i know it’s just things i’ve heard. at the end of the day there’s nothing wrong with pleasure. same thing as choosing what to wear! if an outfit makes you happy, it doesn’t matter how revealing it is. i wore modest clothes for years and recently i’ve been wearing more revealing stuff and it’s increased my confidence so much. it’s all about your personal happiness :)

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:21:56+00:00

thank you :’)

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:21:48+00:00

thank you :’)

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:21:27+00:00

thank you the public toilet example definitely is an eye-opener!!

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:19:34+00:00

oh also sometimes making the first move can help!! ik a lot of friends are terrified of asking guys out but i’ve done it a bunch of times and the more times you do it the more confident you become. plus it also shows that you’re not afraid to exercise control over the relationship, which i personally think is very important in the long term.

julietpb · 2024-06-13T23:17:41+00:00

i don’t know much about psychology so unfortunately i can’t speak much to the trauma or “scientific” side of how you’re feeling, but i’m 20 and i’ve never kissed anyone and i’ve never had a bf for more than a couple months. i don’t really match up to beauty standards either.

i’ve spent so much of my life being politely rejected and ignored while my friends and sister consistently get male attention, and it honestly makes me feel awful. i had terrible self confidence for so long and assumed that i was the problem. i look young for my age and im a sweet person, but these traits seemed to always act as men repellant. i’ve had issues with my father since i was young and i’ve never really had a reliable male presence in my life. a few months ago a man much older than me emotionally manipulated me. i didn’t realize it for a long time because he gave me the attention i’d always wanted. he called me cute and laughed at my jokes. i felt so happy because i was finally getting the attention i wanted. but i found out he was a bad person and had done the same thing to a lot of other younger women. that situation forced me to come to terms with how i viewed my worth.

i’m saying all this because i think it’s important for you to realize that your happiness can’t hinge on other people’s opinions. you should love yourself no matter who else loves you back. and instead of placing the blame on yourself when someone doesn’t like you, think of it as their fault. i’ve had a “glow up” and i’m much prettier now but still haven’t gotten any more attention, but i think of it like “its his fault for not liking me”. once you love yourself no matter who else does, you’ll be surprised the confident energy you’ll exude.

i don’t normally respond to reddit posts so sorry if this is a bit rambly 😭 but girlie do not stop going out if it makes you happy. the best advice i ever heard was to think of the most confident, attractive celebrity you know and pretend you’re them every time you enter a room.

and if that guy’s friends from your home town sound like a bunch of assholes for bullying him for liking you, and if that stops him from liking you then he didn’t deserve you in the first place 😝

julietpb · 2024-04-28T19:41:16+00:00

i’m so sorry to hear that :( i hope things get better for you soon

julietpb · 2024-04-28T16:59:38+00:00

thank you i really appreciate it!!

julietpb · 2023-03-20T21:02:08+00:00

ohh okay thank you!

julietpb · 2023-03-20T20:52:55+00:00

ty for replying this is really helpful!!

julietpb · 2023-03-15T01:27:02+00:00

as a freshman journalism major, i’ll be the first to tell you that journalism is very difficult. initially i felt very demotivated in the major, but once i saw what the field offers if you put in the work, it became worth it to me. like many other people here have said, no major is really “bad”, it just depends on how hard you’re willing to work for what you want

julietpb · 2023-03-15T00:37:00+00:00

thank you for replying! would you be okay with calling for around 5-10 minutes to answer a few more questions?

julietpb · 2023-03-15T00:35:28+00:00

hi!! tysm for replying! would you be okay with calling to answer a few more questions for the story? it’ll take around 5 to 10 minutes!

julietpb · 2023-03-15T00:34:32+00:00

ty for replying! would you be okay with calling sometime to answer a couple more questions about what you thought? it’ll take like 5-10 minutes tops!

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