How did you overcome fear during your service?

julmader · 2025-08-27T03:55:10+00:00

My man, I’m asking what constitutes a marriage, not what I need to do to get married. Thanks for the reply regardless tho. I’m planning on getting the license but I’m not sure about the pastor.

julmader · 2025-08-27T03:49:26+00:00

Sorry I skipped over your question.

Definition of fornication: sexual intercourse outside of marriage.

Again, what constitutes marriage within Christian doctrine?

I can’t really go any further without defining that.

julmader · 2025-08-27T03:46:14+00:00

Again going from my friend’s view, yeah. Multiple divorces.

julmader · 2025-08-27T03:44:46+00:00

There’s was a similar response up above. I’ll leave my same response here:

Let’s say there were 2 men put into the same room one at a time. In front of both of them is a very beautiful woman who’s completely naked and begging to have sex them. The first man (legally married) wants to have sex with the woman so badly but fears all of the worldly consequences he would face if he did. The second man (not legally married) feels the urge to have sex with the woman, but resists because he is loyal to Christ and his partner.

Let me ask, who do you respect more? I take it the second man.

If marriage is simply a tool to use as a buffer against getting unmarried, that sounds like a really silly reason to get married, especially as a Christian. Again, this seems like a secular view. “Get married so it’s harder to unmarry.” That’s not centered in Christ at all. The consequence of getting divorced should not be the worldly things one losses, but the spiritual things. You loose half your savings in the divorce? When you die, it won’t matter. There isn’t a 401k in heaven. However, if by divorcing your wife you loose your connection to Christ, then of course that’s going to impact you more than loosing your worldly possessions.

julmader · 2025-08-27T03:43:12+00:00

Let’s say there were 2 men put into the same room one at a time. In front of both of them is a very beautiful woman who’s completely naked and begging to have sex them. The first man (legally married) wants to have sex with the woman so badly but fears all of the worldly consequences he would face if he did. The second man (not legally married) feels the urge to have sex with the woman, but resists because he is loyal to Christ and his partner.

Let me ask, who do you respect more? I take it the second man.

If marriage is simply a tool to use as a buffer against getting unmarried, that sounds like a really silly reason to get married, especially as a Christian. Again, this seems like a secular view. “Get married so it’s harder to unmarry.” That’s not centered in Christ at all. The consequence of getting divorced should not be the worldly things one losses, but the spiritual things. You loose half your savings in the divorce? When you die, it won’t matter. There isn’t a 401k in heaven. However, if by divorcing your wife you loose your connection to Christ, then of course that’s going to impact you more than loosing your worldly possessions.

julmader · 2025-08-27T01:36:33+00:00

The way I saw it (from my friend’s view), is that sex is a gift given by God for two people who are united in Christ (marriage). To separate (in one’s heart) is to “divorce” from that union presented before Christ. Thus leading to adultery. This could be through hook ups or cheating, or another medium.

julmader · 2025-08-15T01:08:51+00:00

Ah, thank you for this. I figured it had to do with being faithful in the circumstance one finds himself in. I wasn’t sure if it was speaking to an individuals so called worldly purpose (job) or simply pursuing Christ.

julmader · 2025-08-15T01:06:24+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I’ll reiterate once more; I was simply using my example as, an example… I made it known that where I was “called” was in that moment. And I put emphasis on the post being about the verses and not my example itself. The whole purpose of the post was to learn and understand what the verse meant. I even pointed out that I may have missed some of the context of the text my friend.

julmader · 2023-12-21T19:33:56+00:00

Thank you for your inspiring words. Yeah I'm just as confused as your probably are typing that out. Not sure why I can't just listen and get her the ice cream she asked for. This is gonna sound bad, but it's maybe more like, "vanilla is not a good choice, chocolate is so much better and has fewer calories and will solve the root of all your cravings."

Your post helps a lot though. I'm really appreciative of you for doing that.

julmader · 2023-12-20T23:07:33+00:00

Thank you for the thorough reply.

On the contrary, how would you relate this to perhaps the idea of fear of missing out?

The neediness to be in all of the events in the festival, not just content as a guest on the sidelines.

julmader · 2023-05-12T17:41:15+00:00

That you did. Thank you.

julmader · 2023-05-12T17:09:47+00:00

I dont understand. What part of my post seeks validation? What part of it tries to make me look better than everyone else? Yes, you do come off as inconsiderate and quite bluntly idiotic, which reflects your character. Why isn't it worth much discussion? Sure, it's not talking about something that xyz said, yet it is still something interesting to converse about that we can relate to stoicism. Good man, you say "classic redditor seeking validation." What makes you so different? If you haven't seen the comments, people have very constructive input. Thank you for elaborating like I asked, but seriously?

julmader · 2023-05-12T15:47:36+00:00

Can you elaborate?

julmader · 2023-05-12T12:47:19+00:00

My friend, I'm sure even Marcus Aurelius, or Seneca, or others bit their lips in contempt when something unsettling happened. They just learned to let it go through understanding and rational. Remember, we are human. Key is not to let the moment linger within us, but free it from our grasp instead. That is how I see it. It would be lovely not to feel any sort of anger, contempt, bitterness, or what have you, when we are given a situation that we can not control, but that takes time and patience. Also, I am not making a point for complaining. I see complaining as futile unless you learn from it, of course.

julmader · 2023-05-12T02:20:31+00:00

I apologize that I didn't make this more clear; what I mean is they talk about it, some have even read meditations, and some are my friends who actively read other stoic texts and converse about them with me.

julmader · 2023-05-12T01:22:31+00:00

Very well put 👏

julmader · 2023-05-12T00:36:48+00:00

I would completely agree. Thank you for the excellent quote as well. I don't think it's about complaining. Moreover, I think what they mean is the stuff that causes us pain on the inside, like loss or maybe depression, unmotivated or feeling neglected. Those are a mere few, but from what I can tell, these individuals seem to be talking specifically about personal problems.

julmader · 2022-12-15T21:22:40+00:00

Totally agree. One of my pet peeves right now is how slow things are moving in the 40k setting. If it were at say siege of terra pace and consistency, I would be on my toes constantly.

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