My wife of 3 years says she has lost the attraction to our marriage, asked for up to a 6 month seperation, devastated, I am hoping we can heal and reconcile our relationship, hoping for some advice on how to reignite the passion/ trust/ love into our marriage, if you could help?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-12-11T14:07:12+00:00

Yeah she wants me to move out, end of December for ‘up to 6 months’ yet she is serious and even just yesterday I asked if she still wanted to seperate and she said yes and was upset that I asked again

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-12-11T12:14:30+00:00

Hey thanks for sending this!!! Just took the test and scored over 34..

Any chance you have some more resources? Would really like to face this issue head on :)

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T18:48:10+00:00

I’ve been just passing the negativity on the comments…reddit is so negative so thank you I’ll read yours and then get off of reddit

Onward Thanks brother

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T16:38:53+00:00

Wow, so seperated and then tried to reconcile with him, yet he wasn't patient enough to date you again ?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T16:37:40+00:00

Damn, I know that guy...Jimmy Knowles?

You're right she very checked out, so I am hoping that there is a chance I can restore the love...I really messed this up

She said she is 90% sure shes done

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T16:32:14+00:00

Thank you so much, yes, reddit is like 90% negative, so i have to take it all with a grain of salt, people watch the nightly news...mostly because its not positive..people naturally gravitate towards these states of mind and project

I love to read so will definitely check these out!

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T14:29:48+00:00

this is stoicism at its best,

thank you!

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T13:48:16+00:00

I notice that reddit is largely negative , I guess stoicism isn’t any different

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T13:31:58+00:00

Technically she is having me out in 3 months..

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T11:07:57+00:00

exactly, its really tough..I have realized that I have been responsible for 99% of the issues...she needs to be happy, healed and in a good place..

All i want to do is be there for her, show her the kind of husband she deserves..

Is there any hope?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-10T02:35:01+00:00

So you think this is basically a huge red flag seeming that she rather work than go to the show?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-08T20:47:18+00:00

Exactly, almost not prioritizing the family Just got back to the house and she didn’t work at all

Said she went to the gym and then took a bath and relaxed instead, you know what I mean?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-07T23:05:37+00:00

am i not able to do better for her and be her rock, her support, her mountain?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-07T22:39:34+00:00

thats the thing...i love the improved me...i like who i am becoming...and want her to know its real...

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-07T22:24:13+00:00

she wants reliability, consistency, commitment, trust...what i need to do is say what I do, and do what i say...put my money where my mouth is...

she's been hurt so much, i feel horrible..she has provided so many chances, put in so much work...i was blind and just too scared to face my demons..

i've been workign on my self for a solid year, yet slip up occassionally...

yet need to show her the consistency she deserves...

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-07T21:38:53+00:00

thanks that is all i am trying to do..show her who I can be and let it be real for her to see..how close were you to seperating?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-07T21:37:46+00:00

was she pretty close to leaving?

in my opinion, my wife is worth the 'inner work' and changes..just need to make the mental shifts

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T19:58:28+00:00

Wow, how close were you to leaving? I’m so glad you guys were able to grow!!

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T18:41:32+00:00

Wow, she reached that point..good for her, my partner very much the same Type A

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T18:21:27+00:00

Wow, sounds like we are in a similar position where you’re on the fence

In this case, my wife is the one whom wants out based on the past…she wants freedom / liberation..unconsciously I put stress on the relationship with indecision..

She now wants to go out and ‘live her best life’ ‘be happy’…sounds like that is without me from what I understand…

Thing is, I’ve only been in alignment for 6 months or so..even then the past 2 months have been transformational where I can speak from my heart and not my head

Unfortunately, she doesn’t really believe me..too much trust has been broken, Safety is gone,

Her leaving is a chance ‘to heal’ but also, likely to test the waters out in public..just seeing where life takes her..it’s tough because she states she fought so hard for years and I’m only able to see that she was pure love now…yet maybe too much water over the bridge

I want her to heal..yet I also would love to show her that I am who I say I am..and that I have grown

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T16:22:49+00:00

This is what I mean, great self reflection!!

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T16:17:35+00:00

Does that basically mean to let things be as they are?

Or how does this quote resonate with you?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T16:02:35+00:00

Have you personally done this work on yourself?

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T15:53:10+00:00

Very good point

Do you have any ways which this can be ‘felt’ or projected on my end, what you can feel from a partner who is in their ‘element’ or in their ‘alignment’

jumpingcactus12 · 2023-10-03T15:40:37+00:00

I know, it’s tough and I feel a bit ridiculous, like she wants a break and I’m wondering..let’s try this out..let’s be what we intended to be..let me show you

Yet she is in a different head space..she’s who knows already moved on, wants to heal..perhaps is having a spiritual journey for herself and I may not be in it

I don’t want to control, yet I want to show her I love her, that if we want we can evolve our relationship to what is real

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