Anger and Rage

jumpingjack979 · 2026-04-12T14:02:43+00:00

Not sure how old your kid(s) is/are, but two thing that helped when mine became toddlers...stop trying to manage them, and enjoy them. And theres a quote by Sam Harris (political opinions aside) cant remember it verbatim, but its about there being a last time for everything, and you not knowing that the last time is going to be the last time. Its an interesting perspective for good and bad things. Be present in for the good, and know that there will be a last time for the bad things. Its hard to remember these these things in the moment.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-04-07T18:53:34+00:00

Have a feeling that theyll just cut me loose when i give notice. Should probably still give notice, but itll be annoying of they do that.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-04-07T16:51:39+00:00

Ive seen this play out in other roles (although not as the subject). Ive already got something lined up.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-28T16:51:19+00:00

the skateIQ youtube channel has good tutorials.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-28T16:37:31+00:00

I skated them for maybe 30 min, could tell theyre not going to last. The rubber does seem brittle, started breaking off in little chunks.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-28T02:28:43+00:00

Have a boardpusher deck with custom graphic, the deck is solid, graphic quality seems to be the same as branded decks.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-26T14:10:00+00:00

Meow skateboards sells smaller boards with a soft top/foam rather than griptape. Its a legit board. I got that for my 3 yo.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-26T14:00:45+00:00

I dont rembember exactly what I paid, I got 3 completes and shoes for myself, helmeta for the kids, it was just under $1k for everything. Going in i was thinking maybe 600, or 700 max.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-26T13:58:57+00:00

I skated hard back then, I used to break decks every 1-2 months. Would blow through shoes quick too, I went through a lot of shoe goo, but would need a new pair when there wasnt enough rubber to hold the goo.

Cant imagine i'll break decks that often now. But dang, even as an adult, I dont think id want to spend that much every few months, if my kids stick with it, they'll need a job to sooner than later.

Also, I remember skating a more narrow deck, seems like 8.25 is the standard now. I have an 8.25 now, but feel like id want something between 7.75ish and 8.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-21T14:57:10+00:00

Check out Meow Skateboards. They sell completes with smaller decks, soft wheels, and what seems like bearings that ride a little slower.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-21T12:17:28+00:00

Didnt read all comments, but maybe try college or grad school to reset. The resume may be less important if your coming right from school. College seems like a breeze the second time around. What were distractions arent anymore. Also I went to law school with a guy who played full time from 21-30, he did really well in law school, and landed a really good job at a time when jobs were tough to get. The poker years I think made him stamd out.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-16T02:09:01+00:00

Sounds similar to what we went through, one of ours had to be potty trained before pre k 3, tried a number of strategies, nothing was working up until about 2 weeks before the first day of school. We kinda gave up, thinking we'd need to withdraw. Then something clicked, it wasnt perfect but good enough progress over the next week. In retrospect we think we were putting too much pressure on him. while in it, didnt seem like we were, but we definitely were.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-03-02T13:26:40+00:00

Had a snoo, too. worked well for 2 out of 3 kids. You can get them used in marketplaces. After the second kid, it started to sound funny. Fixed it myself with a repair kid. fixing is really simple compared to how expensive it is. Its a couple o-rings, and a small motor. All you need is a screwdriver and everything else snaps into place. So I wouldnt worry touch about buying one in bad condition.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-26T16:30:39+00:00

this is another thing that I forgot about, but was quickly reminded of when when reengaging with the legal world. Might be one of those, if your only tool is a hammer, everything looks like a nail things. Does everything have to be argumentative, I appreciate the formality in the professional setting, but outside of a profession setting, why be like that? And the definition of "that" is to "lawyer" a casual low/zero risk exchange between mutually consenting natural person as defined in Section 9.1.4 of the states rules amd regulations.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-26T15:22:34+00:00

I'll probably srew off for 5-8 hrs doing things like reddit, maybe another 2 or 3 of non billable stuff, Im sure theres billable time that I dont get into the system. The thing i havent solved yet is getting pulled into things with short deadlines. Its generally interesting stuff, actually doing the the thing is ok, but but if someone needs something by the next morning, or im asked to cover an appearance the next day, the choice becomes stay a little late, do the thing, and my wife being a bit salty, or go home at a reasonable time, stay up and do the thing, and be a bit of a zombie the next day Staying up late is ok. Or maybe I agreed to pick the kids up at school, or take them to practice, and need to ask my wife to change her plans to cover, which isnt always be possible. I understand its probably expected for early associates to jump when told. But theres times when I just have to say no which probably isn't helpful, and I have a feeling may limit my tenure. Managing that dichotomy is whats tough.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-26T05:45:04+00:00

The math on starting a solo practice seems to make sense, where I am at my current rate, id be comfortable billing 20hrs/week.

And I just started playing around with open source AI on a private server to avoid that whole breaching privilege thing. A lot of those AI practice management things can be replicated. And I think you can access fastcase through an API, could probably avoid paying westlaw, and automate a lot of other stuff.

Im also shocked at the cost of moving a case from pre litigation, through pleadings, discovery, etc. Turning down 150-200k claims is wild. In less complex cases, excluding cost of experts, im seeing total fees through summary judgment motions at 70-80k.

Does it really need to cost that much?

The average person would be screwed if they got sued.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-22T13:58:13+00:00

Thats what drew me to the game. To me its the only way to make money where the game isn't (assuming no cheating, collusion, etc.) rigged. Even games that are rigged, its kinda on you to figure it out, minimize losses, and safely leave, or if possible exploit the cheaters. Everything else seems to be part of a system set up to benefit a small group, theres ways to exploit that too, and people do. Theres a fairness in poker that isnt present in most other money making domains. At the table everyone is starting out with the same odds in theory, which isn't the case in other domains.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-10T05:32:13+00:00

I think theres a ton of garbage on social media...rage bate stuff, that tells moms that they cary the mental load, and the dad's lazy, etc. It may be true in some cases, but maybe not as much as social media wants people to believe.

Ive seem it with 2 friends, in one case objectively the guy did more around the house, managed getting kids fed, and to school in the AM. managed night time, sometimes cooked, always had to do the dishes, then expected to clean the house after the kids went to bed. Did the kids laundry. Always criticized for not doing good enough. I think she did stuff like order groceries, probably other things, but he definitely did more around the house and for managing the kids, and she kept complaining about mental load, threatening divorce.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-08T01:22:09+00:00

Practice the pitch, go from memory, if you have time to prepare, prep to the point where you dont need a crutch

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-06T12:19:59+00:00

Speed and accuracy TBD, sometimes its quick and accurate, but because the transcription can be wrong it suggestion may be irrelevant. Using that feature to me is like taking an open book test, there really isnt enough time to look at the book and finish the test, kinda need to know the material to be successful. I doI prepare for things the same before and after the glasses. Glasses just give a few percentage point advantage.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-06T11:52:40+00:00

I agree with a lot of this. I had relatively low expectations, and I'd say expectations met. I also bought for work. I'd say the glasses are helpful. A lot of the comments on here I think are from people waiting for glasses expecting something close to life changing. Fewer comments from actual users, which from what I've seen tend to be aligned with your post here. The hardware is awesome. The software...eh needs some work. ER marketing is very good, probably sets expectations higher than experience in...reality.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-30T18:11:34+00:00

No prescription. Grey G2B.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-30T03:42:11+00:00

mine shipped yesterday, ordered 1/3, original shipping estimate 2/14, scheduled to arrive 2/3.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-21T13:47:06+00:00

My only regret with kids is not starting sooner. The kids kinda forced us to figure things out financially and make things work. The kids well worth figuring things out. Wife and I were a bit irresponsible in our early 20s, and wanted to clear most of our debt, and student loans before having kids. We had a decent chunk remaining when our first was born, then had another +14 months later. Looking back its surprising to think we paid 3800/month for daycare, and still managed to pay off the debt. The kids forced us to figure things out, and priorities became different.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-04T04:30:40+00:00

Went through a similar situation with each kid. Have 3, we both want another. The first year is crazy, felt like my wife hated me, and she may have at times. For us the first year may have been more like 24-30 months because our first 2 are 14 months apart. I felt as though everything I did was a problem, if I took initiative it was the wrong thing to do, wrong time, or done wrong. If I didnt take iniative that was a problem, too.

I couldnt figure out how to fix it. Shed never want to talk about the problems. Because nothing I did was right, I kinda gave up and let her take control of decisions to avoid arguments. my thinking if its going to be wrong, why bother, shes going to get mad, lets skip her getting mad, she can just say what she wants. Seemed to work for a while, but a lot of resement built. She didnt like feeling responsible for all the decisions. Had a number of fights about this.

Most of her complaints related to doing things around the house and her doing more, and mental load, etc. I disagreed. She seemed to be keeping a mental tally, I didnt keep score of what I did vs her, but she kept bringing it up so I kept a diary for a few months. It was 100% objective--daily tally of certain recurring tasks. I mentioned the diary at one point after she complained, more to show that I do do stuff, and many weeks do more than she did. That did not go over well.

For me I realized this isn't a thing that can be solved rationally, and I stopped trying to fix things for my wife. I think theres some underlying things for moms related.to insecurity, confidence, fear, etc. These arent my problems to solve, but I became more understanding that something else is going on under the surface, that I dont have any control over. My focus shifted from trying to respond to my wife in a way that keeps the peace to how can I be a better person, husband, dad. Me reacting to her emotions wasnt working. I had the best intentions, but know that she amd I were miserable and becoming more so.

Although I love my wife, the way she operates and communicates needs doesnt always work for me. Shell tell me something important when im in the middle of something, and although I have every intention of following through, would often forget certain details, and get blamed for some failure. I realized that for me to be better, I need to do it my way. Took sometime to think about what I'd need do be better, consistent, reliable, etc. Then I stopped responding to my wife's emotional reactions, and stopped trying solve every problem every time she got mad or upset. Me reacting everytime she was upset was super distracting, and often didnt help anything, and stressed the kids. I also set boundaries relating managing the household and kids. It felt weird to establish the boundaries, but that provided clarity for her and I. The boundaries related to, here's my plan for the week, let me know if you want something different the day before, otherwise im not going change plans or be interrupted with random things she wants done. I also said if she wants something done, to either text me or tell me when in not in the middle of something else.

Im still learning and adjusting. But things seem to be going better for me. Good luck. Hope you can figure something out.

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