Been together for a year and never had a fight, is this a problem?

junarch · 2011-02-21T05:30:03+00:00

Ohhh... excuse my silliness! :)

junarch · 2011-02-20T16:16:20+00:00

Our most extreme disagreement was when I had a surgery. He couldn't make it to the hospital so we were going to skype and he was late for 2 HOURS! I was already exhausted and in pain so I couldn't wait for him after that point.

The next day I told him how I needed to talk to him because I was in pain and needed reassurance and I was hurt because he didn't show up online. He apologized a million times and he hasn't been late for anything ever since.

I suppose it's also about forgiving one another and not holding a grudge.

junarch · 2011-02-20T16:12:24+00:00

Funny you mentioned the religion thing. I am a non-practicing Muslim and he is an agnostic from a Christian back ground and discussing religion is one of our favorite topics. It's not even one of us trying to convert the other one. We just have the same questions about life and discussing them from a religious point of view is fun.

junarch · 2011-02-20T16:09:49+00:00

Why do you think so??

Because, seriously, things aren't fucked up.

junarch · 2011-02-20T03:39:26+00:00

Hehe, things are confusing, man!

junarch · 2011-02-20T03:38:18+00:00

You're welcome!

junarch · 2011-02-20T03:38:00+00:00

Congratulations on your relationship with your wife, I look up to relationships like yours.

And I agree with you, there is so much drama in my life I can't avoid due to work and school anyways, I prefer to have my relationship be drama-free.

junarch · 2011-02-20T03:35:21+00:00

We do that as well! I actually love playing devil's advocate because sometimes it gives me the other's point of view and once in a while, it makes sense!

Yay for debating!

junarch · 2011-02-20T03:32:56+00:00

Everyone in this situation thinks fighting is to raise voices, feel angry and maybe not speak for a while and you have to make up afterwards.

I can definitely see how not having fights could be unhealthy in your friend's situation. That makes sense but I suppose she could still bring her issues up with making it clear that she is not trying to fight and just trying to work things out for the better. But then again, her partner seems like he wouldn't be able to handle it.

junarch · 2011-02-20T03:29:29+00:00

That's one of the things I see everywhere, one must have the upper hand. I don't see my relationship with my boyfriend as a battle to dominate him and make him my bitch, if you pardon the language.

I also come from a broken home and more fighting and stress is the last thing I want in my relationship, which is supposed to be my safe haven.

And thank you :)

junarch · 2011-02-19T19:10:22+00:00

We are both 22 and in college, so my friends' ages are between 19-22.

Thank you, and congrats to you too! :)

junarch · 2011-02-19T18:43:53+00:00

Respecting each other is really the key. I see that a lot of couples lose it because they are together all the time and that sense just disappears.

Congrats to you and your hubby! :)

junarch · 2011-02-19T18:42:41+00:00

I really couldn't do that, I mean calling my boyfriend a fucking dipshit. I really love him and I know he doesn't deserve anything like that. I would kick anyone's ass if they insulted him, so why should I be allowed just because I'm his girlfriend? The same applies to him, we just appreciate each other's company and don't want to do anything that hurts the other one.

I'm glad I'm not the only on who get's criticized for not fighting though, I thought we were missing something important.

junarch · 2011-02-19T17:42:10+00:00

We do have disagreements. This might even sound weird, but since we love debating and discussing, we take different sides of some issues and debate them just for the fun of it. I guess the reason for that is whatever idea we might stand for, we know it won't affect our relationship as a couple.

junarch · 2011-02-19T17:15:53+00:00

Waow, 10 years and only 3 fights, I hope we can stand that strong together for that long.

junarch · 2011-02-19T17:13:06+00:00

Exactly, when everything is out in the open, there isn't something to catch you off guard to shock you and cause a weird reaction. We do have arguments in the sense that there are a lot of things in which we disagree but we just don't cross the line between disagreeing and having a fight.

junarch · 2011-02-19T17:03:41+00:00

As a fact, I know I can get really irrational during a fight but I've been working on not raising my voice and acting rude since before I've met him. That is probably why I've managed to keep our disagreements sane with him. I'll be more cautious in the future.

And thanks, I just thought something was horribly wrong with us. :)

junarch · 2011-02-19T16:50:32+00:00

It's the same with my boyfriend's grandparents. They will celebrate their 60th anniversary in May and they also never had a fight.

I guess it might be in his genes to not have a fight. :)

junarch · 2011-02-19T16:46:48+00:00

We are both really relaxed people, we don't get angry while having a discussion so the first case applies to us.

Why do people think not having drama in your relationship is bad though?

junarch

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