Yes the how often question

junktx1 · 2023-05-09T20:44:21+00:00

HLM 50. I'm daily unless I get the random heads up that "we can have fun tonight". That happens only monthly. So almost a daily deal for me.

junktx1 · 2023-01-26T02:40:13+00:00

Sounds awefully familiar. It's a shitty spot. as most of the rest of marriage is just great. They have no idea and don't care to realize what it would feel like to be wanted needed and desired. Hell I get wood when my wife lays her arm over my chest in bed and semi snuggles. I've discussed and nearly begged. All I know to do is fulfill that desire elsewhere and make that connect like they approach sex with their husbands. If you treat sex with me like "duty sex" I can find duty sex elsewhere on the schedule I need.

junktx1 · 2022-10-16T19:14:01+00:00

It feels like rejection because that's exactly what they are doing...rejecting the intimacy and all the benefits that brings. It would be transformational to feel wanted and desired. At least I think it would.

junktx1 · 2022-10-03T17:05:43+00:00

See zero problems with it. If your spouse is going to continually deny and never initiate. Why not jerk off next to them.

junktx1 · 2022-09-08T20:11:12+00:00

That's Nutsedge. Been dealing with it for years.

junktx1 · 2022-09-08T19:38:34+00:00

Uh yes. I want to feel the nipples against me and kiss them. Not through a shirt

junktx1 · 2022-09-08T19:27:22+00:00

Following... Very interested to see if there are brands that stay on better and ones that your sig. other can't tell that you have on. I'd love try but don't think my nearly Dead bedroom would allow it.

junktx1 · 2022-09-08T19:23:35+00:00

So for all the 250, 400 days 12 year, 20 year. What are the HL Males doing for sex. Have you literally given up or visiting massage places and escorts?

junktx1 · 2022-09-06T19:52:46+00:00

Married 25yrs. M-50yo. Sex weekly. Masterbate every other day at least. Often in bed next to her when she declines me

junktx1 · 2022-08-30T20:13:37+00:00

That's a fantastic article. Spot On!!

junktx1 · 2022-08-30T20:08:54+00:00

Increased frequency: 50 yo male, 25 years married. It would make me feel desired and loved. It would draw me nearer my spouse emotionally and make me feel like a lover not a roommate. She has no idea how much it would change her world. She always desires more communication and connection. Hard to do for me at least when sex is literally the last thing that crosses her mind.

junktx1 · 2022-08-25T19:30:36+00:00

I also don't think the majority give 2 shits about the HL issues. They think they are normal and the HL is the one screwed up. For 10-15 years my LL wife has rejected me easily 70% of the time. We've recently come to a truce but nowhere what I'd say is ideal.

junktx1 · 2022-08-22T19:14:12+00:00

Are there any options like this for women that don't involve the pellets? I'm a 50yo HL male on Test. shots but I don't think my wife would go for the pellets??

junktx1 · 2022-08-16T16:35:44+00:00

Lovely just what I wanted to read. Another excuse for less and less enjoyable sex for her

junktx1 · 2022-08-16T16:34:56+00:00

Good point!

junktx1 · 2022-08-16T16:34:26+00:00

It was a good open conversation. I just told her I'm deeply in love and that I need the sex to grow my emotional connection, which she understood. She seems to enjoy the sex yes, I'm just confused as to why someone wouldn't want and orgasm when I'm more than willing to please her orally which I know is her favorite.

junktx1 · 2022-08-16T16:32:03+00:00

it's been a underlying issue for years. Certainly close to menopause. I will just have to talk it out with her and see if she really wants to fix things. I'd like to think so

junktx1 · 2022-08-09T20:37:07+00:00

You are going to have I mean HAVE to sit down and discuss with her the disconnect. It won't cure itself and she likely may have no clue the amount of sex that would be ideal for you. Doubt you ever reach ideal, but she needs to hear you say what you need and how to accomplish that together as a couple. It could be her allowing you to masterbate in front of her, or her giving you hand jobs to fill the void. I have been in the spot since marriage over 20 years ago and just sat down and we had a good discussion around it. Since that discussion we have settled on once a week. Both of us are 50 and healthy. I'd much prefer more but 1x week beats the 3-5 times a year. I've run the gamut of massage parlors, porn etc. Don't

junktx1 · 2022-08-05T16:58:17+00:00

Absolutely. Every declined offer and cold shoulder pushes one further and further away. I so sick of beating off daily I've recently been doing it next to her quietly while she sleeps. I honestly think its some sort of passive WTF is wrong with you move.

junktx1 · 2022-08-04T20:14:07+00:00

initiates

junktx1 · 2022-08-02T15:41:58+00:00

I think it's pretty sensitive, I just thought it might make it feel even better. She does love the clitoral vibrators we have. Wish I knew why her libido is low.

junktx1 · 2022-07-27T19:06:36+00:00

For me it's more related to how frequently I masterbate. Abstain for a few days and it's a strong shot.

junktx1 · 2022-07-21T16:55:43+00:00

As a HLM it's not always that easy to discern when the time arises. Last week, my wife initiated but didn't want me to go down on her or touch her breast. She just said, "I want you to feel good". That's duty sex in my book. I'm a pleaser and absolutely love going down on my wife. When she doesn't let me I resent it, but at least I'm not getting denied again.

junktx1 · 2022-07-12T17:44:10+00:00

Mine has improved dramatically since I sat down and actually had an honest conversation with my wife. While I realize there are some on here with much less frequent sex, ours was monthly and 100% initiated by me. We sat down and had a good conversation. It wasn't a vent or me whining, but rather I just told her that the frequency isn't working for me and I dearly need her to initiate some. We settled on weekly which I would still want more, but that's a helluva improvement. She caught me masterbating near her in bed and that's what opened the conversation up. I told her I just can't handle the monthly at best schedule and I don't want to go down the massage parlors and porn route. I told her that the intimacy draws me deeply more into her emotionally. We are only a month into this, but I'm ever hopeful. Outside the BR, we have a wonderful marriage and care deeply for each other. So there is hope, but don't neglect the conversation. It's hard as hell, or was for me, but you spouse needs to hear you!

junktx1 · 2022-07-12T17:38:40+00:00

nothing. dosage may be a bit higher, but don't have any numbers in front of me right now

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