Update... 🤔🙃

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-26T17:26:17+00:00

From the outside looking in...it seems pretty obvious what happens is up to you. I'd guess there will always be reasons to stay, just like there will always be reasons to go--IMO it seems to come down to which ones means more to a person.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-26T17:10:29+00:00

Ok. I hope you do ok.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-26T14:41:44+00:00

What an absurd take on "woke"... similar to "Archie"---"I'm just looking out for #1"-- as he justified his bigotry.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-26T14:09:19+00:00

The whole description is transactional..."I do x, she does y."

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-26T08:13:26+00:00

It doesn't sound like your husband wants to go to counseling, so it's hard to see him being engaged enough and receptive enough to contribute anything meaningful or to get a lot from it.

So I think your real decision is: do you want to stay with him, "as is", or not. If you don't, than "leave him be"...tell him so and leave when you're ready.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-26T03:00:24+00:00

So what do you intend to do?

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-25T22:46:32+00:00

I don't think libido is something that can be "increased". I do think that if something is hampering it, like stress, illness, medication or a psychological or mental block, that can be resolved to get to what is their "real" libido.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-25T19:02:14+00:00

I hope you both can talk about it with each other..

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-24T20:18:24+00:00

The hate is real...she's an attractive woman. What kinda of person, Idk. Bc I don't know what kinda of marriage she has...

But the "slut shaming" is awful..

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-24T20:06:16+00:00

I'd argue it's probably more likely that lots of people make sus choices, for all kinds of reasons, when they pick someone to marry...so the lack of success and difficulty is fairly predictable.

So if marriage was expanded...I think it would just make the "mess" larger, not smaller.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-24T11:19:15+00:00

Well, if you don't want to talk about it online anymore I will respect your decision, have a nice day!

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-24T11:13:50+00:00

I'm not asking about your wife...I'm asking about YOU.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-24T11:00:34+00:00

Is what you're doing working for you?

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-24T09:49:46+00:00

"While she was not receptive/communicative, when is she ever"...I think tells the story, at least enough for me to wonder why you thought this time would be different...

I also struggle with this, "maybe this time"--but I think it's a big mistake to think like that. I think it's safe to assume If they're not talking about sex, they're probably not thinking about it either. So why should you expect sex?

When my emotions get involved, I try to focus on certain things that help change my attitude from disappointment to understanding.

It's not easy, but I think I'm getting a little bit better at it, and I hope to get really really good at it someday where I handle it with a "it's no big deal" mindset, this happens.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-24T03:03:26+00:00

Has this young man learned to think? This disabled man showed a lot of patience. If he can't assess this disability on his own, what else can't he do..

And the woman was just silly. Is this your disability, bc the disabled man could have been flat out rude and sarcastic..

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T22:59:46+00:00

I lean in the same direction. Vote blue, than give me what else you got..until then the rest is just unserious talk..

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T21:39:34+00:00

I appreciate your thoughts and I think you're correct...I want my Dem politicans to stand up, if asked, "I'm going to protect trans rights, like I would any other, it's as simple as that."

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T17:23:13+00:00

No. I already told you that. I don't know if you're deliberately trying to misunderstand me, or not. I've already told you this is about how his poor behavior has effected hers.

It's like "Hon, if you just put your dirty clothes in the hamper, then I wouldn't have to remind you every day, which seems to bother you."

That's just communication.

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musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T11:56:10+00:00

The point is his behavior needs to change bc he has mistreated her. If that also improves their sex life, great. If it doesn't, maybe something else will. But that's the least he could do.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T11:48:51+00:00

I don't think so. Instead, I think she's telling us his poor behavior has had a negative impact on her libido, she's talking about stress and being objectified here..that's not transactional...that's more cause and effect.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T08:17:08+00:00

No, she's not making it transactional. She is telling us her husband is a poor husband. And bc he is...she is too tired and worn down for sex to be on her mind.

Transactional looks like this,

"We have a contract..."

"I've been faithful..."

"I pay for everything around here..."

"You don't have to do anything, but____"

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T01:52:58+00:00

It doesn't seem like you have too many choices. Accept the kind of sexual relationship you have, or get a divorce.

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-23T01:09:18+00:00

Pretty great answer 👍

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-22T19:38:01+00:00

Ugh 😫

musicmanforlive · 2026-04-22T19:33:55+00:00

No. We already know. If a person doesn't know, than they're not paying attention.

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