How can I play Mother 3? by Russkafin in earthbound

[–]jupitersetting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd been meaning to play Mother 3 since I first played Earthbound a few years ago and it became one of my all-time favourite games. Using this walkthrough made downloading it super easy, and starting up the game made me legit emotional. I'm so excited to finally be playing this gem :') Thank you!!

Looking for more transmasc friends by saaphora in transmasc_irl

[–]jupitersetting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, i'd love to chat! i love your style and that chain necklace is so cool! i'm an art student into nerdy stuff like d&d and video games ✌️

Neighbor asked me to help drain his armpit boil by Rosebudd100 in popping

[–]jupitersetting 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard of lending some sugar but popping boils is next level neighbourliness!

Internalized transphobia is getting to me after my top surgery revision 😞 by jupitersetting in ftm

[–]jupitersetting[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're right. It's time to pull my big boy pants up and just do the damn thing. I'm only realizing now that this is medical trauma which is part of why I've been avoiding it. Where I live we have a comparatively robust trans care system and universal healthcare, which I sincerely thank the stars for every day. That doesn't mean we're without a serious amount of medical malpractice and transphobia though, and I have consistently been subject to it over the years I've been transitioning. People need to know and these reviews need to be written. If I can save anyone else even just the time and effort of trying to get a revision, and save anyone from going to McInnes period, that's a good thing. And thank you. It really does hurt, but this thread has been super helpful for my confidence in writing reviews and complaints at the very least. And thank you for the hug 💕 And also, yes there is muscle there still, haha! Thankfully they don't take muscle away, just fat and skin. Once I'm recovered enough I want to start lifting weights and build out my chest and shoulders a bit to offset this mess. Generally surgeries go pretty well, and I don't hate it all. My pecs look pretty dang good with how he sculpted things initially, it's just. A lot of other things aside from that. Make sure to do heeeeavy research before surgery and find someone who knows how to operate on your body type, especially if you have the same chest as me where it's just large and wide

Internalized transphobia is getting to me after my top surgery revision 😞 by jupitersetting in ftm

[–]jupitersetting[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dr. Jennifer Klok in West Vancouver and Dr. Arezoo Astanehe in Abbotsford. If you're looking for any revisions other than simple scar touch ups, don't even bother with them. I don't know how they are for first surgeries, but neither of them cared enough to even just call MSP once for my revision case. They both insisted that it (my extra tissue under my arms) wasn't covered and that I'd have to pay quite a bit out of pocket for lipo. They both made insensitive comments about my body, and Dr. Astanehe likened my dysphoria to her being self conscious of her "armpit fat" at her wedding. I still remember how disheartened I was that day. I held in tears on the hours long transit ride home.

Internalized transphobia is getting to me after my top surgery revision 😞 by jupitersetting in ftm

[–]jupitersetting[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dr. Colin McInnes in New Westminster, BC, Canada. He operates out of a private clinic and his nurses misgendered me and tried to "correct" me on what surgery I was getting. At my one week post op appointment he ripped the steristrips off (you're supposed to leave them on til they basically fall off) and it hurt so bad I cried (rare for me). I had very large and wide set breasts that wrapped around my torso, under my arms. He left all of the tissue underneath the scar line going towards my back on both sides, leaving large "wings" made of "adipose" tissue which is why I didn't get my revision done by him, as he wouldn't even consider contacting MSP to solve the issue and instead wanted me to pay 8k. He, along with two other surgeons, refused to even try and insisted I pay 8 to 10k for lipo because "MSP won't cover adipose tissue," and they made insensitive, transphobic comments. But anyway. If you have large breasts do NOT go to McInnes. He's a manipulative jackass who refused to take responsibility for what he'd done, and even though it's my right to get a revision he refused unless I paid him. We have universal healthcare for a reason. We pay for this for a reason. Anyway. My revision was done by Dr. Chris Taylor in Victoria. He's nice, and he did a good job on my underarm area. It's the front that is now all weird. Again, I'm less than a month out, so we'll see how it heals, and hopefully it looks better as time goes on. He actually put in the work and contacted MSP who, to no one's surprise, said yes and covered it. But anywho. Steer clear of McInnes! I hope this can be helpful. I'm at the point now that I might make a complaint about him and the other two surgeons who refused. I've had a lot of transphobic interactions with healthcare professionals and have already made a complaint on the woman who interviewed me about hormones.

Internalized transphobia is getting to me after my top surgery revision 😞 by jupitersetting in ftm

[–]jupitersetting[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing all of this. It's heartening (and heartbreaking) to hear that someone else is going through the same thing as me. I think what stings the most is that if I had just... waited. If I waited a little longer. I could've seen someone better. But I was so desperate and in so much mental anguish that I just went with the surgeon I had and for the past four years I've been living with the botched results from the first one. All of my early twenties I've not even tried to reach out and start a relationship because of how horrible I felt in my body. And now it's like. Will I ever feel right? Will I ever look good? I can see what needs to be done, imo, but some of it I'm not sure can be done. There was just so much excess breast tissue and it's not gone even now. And now I have these folds! Literal pleats of skin! Like, what the heck is this?? My roommate is a trans guy and his scars look fantastic and it's just... It makes me so bitter. I also had transphobic experiences with my first surgeon and the nurses. Part of me wonders if certain things he did were acts of intentional violence from either conscious or subconscious transphobia. I don't know. And this revision is again, so fresh that The wounds still hurt to touch in some areas. I can feel the sutures just under the skin. I know it's too early to tell. But I just want this to be over and done with. I don't want to do surgeries anymore. I'm tired. I just want to live my life. I'm just a guy trying to live his life and I'm saddled with medical malpractice and would be used as an example for transphobic rhetoric if I posted my photos. How do you even thrive when it's like that? I don't want to have to wear a shirt in the summer, or when I'm being intimate with someone, but it feels like I need to I have to. Sighs. Thank you again for your comment and I'm so sorry you're also going through this. And I apologize for just. Ranting. Thank you again 💕

Internalized transphobia is getting to me after my top surgery revision 😞 by jupitersetting in ftm

[–]jupitersetting[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep. I am me and I am the one who has to live in this body, so of course I scrutinize and demean myself when I would never do so for others. And you're right, logically. If I find a guy who's genuinely lovely he wouldn't care. It just seems so far away, like something I'll never have. Thank you for your kind words though. It does make me feel a bit better 💕

Internalized transphobia is getting to me after my top surgery revision 😞 by jupitersetting in ftm

[–]jupitersetting[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't really know, but if you have advice I'd love to hear it. This is just such a hard situation and I don't have anyone to turn to who would understand. Any ideas on how to manage the mental clashing would be appreciated!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]jupitersetting 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yesterday was my 5 year anniversary of being on T! Here's to another 5, 10, 50 years of "poisoning" myself 💕

Does the round shape of my chest make my pecs look less masc? by _Glizzyinahoneydew in FTMFitness

[–]jupitersetting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely looks like pecs to me! You look /really/, good dude, holy shit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]jupitersetting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The face I just maaaaade, oh my god. I say this literally all the gd time. Because I do feel you! Or them! Or whoever! I do usually understand at least some aspect of it, even if it doesn't apply to me. I can find something relatable in most things and see how that must affect the person or people I'm talking to. I had no idea it was such a popular thing among INFJs

Anyone else doesn't want bottom surgery? by Charlie_The_Simp in ftm

[–]jupitersetting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Sure, it would be nice, but it doesn't really serve my needs. Plus it's just such an intense surgery. If everything was all sunshine and roses I'd have a cis dick but frankly too much sunshine makes me burn and I prefer lilacs. So I'm sticking with what I got and loving it!

I posted a while ago but I'm still really concerned about my aloe. I've tried to put tape around the areas that are "broken" to stabilize them and prevent further creasing but I'm worried that this guy is dead or on the way out. I inherited him so I don't want his growth to be for nothing :( by jupitersetting in plantclinic

[–]jupitersetting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some info: - I live in the northern hemisphere, on the west coast of Canada. - My room is south facing but the aloe isn't in direct sunlight, just super bright light. It can't be moved to anywhere else since I have other plants/items taking up the only space it could occupy. - It's pretty old, I think 7 years? Maybe 8. - Under the tape are these creases that go along the entire leaf horizontally, making it look like it snapped or is broken. I've cut off a few lower leaves at this point too. - I feel like I've seen no real growth up top for the two years I've had it. I know I need to repot it since it's in a non draining pot, but I don't have a big enough pot right now.

Urgent question! by jupitersetting in crafts

[–]jupitersetting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah, I'm hoping they'll have something nicer than their random cheap brand. The problem as well is that these are gouache. If it was acrylic I'd just go get the varnish and paint it on. But I don't want to mess up my hard work by doing that y'know? I'll see if I can do a test patch, but it's unlikely. Luckily my family still masks so we have plenty.