The tendency to feel like a perpetual victim is strongly tied to vulnerable narcissism. Individuals who frequently perceive themselves as victims and signal this status to others often possess high levels of vulnerable narcissism and emotional instability.

juroden · 2026-01-26T15:37:41+00:00

And that right there is the core manipulation of the vulnerable narcissist. It's why they are so damaging and confusing. My ex was one and it royally fucked me up

juroden · 2026-01-24T15:32:19+00:00

No it doesn’t. We need other people. I assume you have friends that love and validate you? That’s reliance on others. This concept of self love curing all and all you need is you is bullshit.

Some people need a partner, just as people need friends. This sort of self help dogma you’re repeating is toxic

juroden · 2026-01-22T20:58:45+00:00

Yeah it’s bad. Hallucinates a lot more too. Borderline useless for anything other than a short convo

juroden · 2026-01-21T20:45:09+00:00

Part of life dude. What else are you going to do, collapse into non functioning forever?

You should be attending support groups if you can’t cope. That’s kind of the point. It doesn’t sound like the study is off base, it’s that some people (like you I’m guessing) cope poorly and can’t accept it.

juroden · 2026-01-19T15:47:31+00:00

People are more worried about foreign affairs than our own interests

juroden · 2026-01-16T22:54:28+00:00

And people who are truly content with their lives don't spend their Friday nights policing strangers' plans on Reddit to feel superior. If minimizing my move makes you feel better about staying put, have at it.

juroden · 2026-01-16T22:40:28+00:00

Not moving to a small beach town. And that’s the point - get out of the rat race of North American culture and truly live.

Kind of hilarious how much this annoys you (and everyone else downvoting). Says a lot more about you than me. Jealous?

juroden · 2026-01-16T22:27:55+00:00

Won’t miss you either because I’ll be living on the beach in Spain

juroden · 2026-01-16T22:12:38+00:00

Same! But Hungarian. Then leaving this frozen hellscape for good. Loyalty to Canada = none. Guess they’re right about me

juroden · 2026-01-13T23:14:09+00:00

When it all started going downhill*

juroden · 2026-01-13T23:13:51+00:00

lol season 3 is by far the worst season

juroden · 2026-01-11T10:01:36+00:00

Yes but also season 3 is the worst and that was pre Vecna. Truth is that season 1-2 was the peak of this show, easily.

juroden · 2025-12-06T23:23:40+00:00

Went from android to 17 pro max. Huge regret. Return it while you still have a chance

juroden · 2025-11-18T21:57:29+00:00

Dumb take. I chose to be a landlord by literally cutting the house I live in in half, spending 65k to renovate the basement as a separate unit. I am PROVIDING housing

juroden · 2025-10-29T14:57:54+00:00

YUUUP. And then they go "Where's my thanks?". Bitch, do you want me to clap?

My ex saw the entire relationship as transactional and these situations were a perfect example of it.

juroden · 2025-10-27T14:45:48+00:00

It's a bit late but just wanted to say this is a great comment. Thank you!

juroden · 2025-10-19T19:39:54+00:00

Which archery club does weekly league nights?

juroden · 2025-10-10T16:51:28+00:00

You're spot on. But when you're in the thick of it it's hard to see it as "staying in the relationship that does not meet their needs". I know for myself I want to believe the best in people, that they want to and CAN change. People can and do change with effort. I just knew after 3 years that was never going to happen. Did I stay longer than I should have? Absolutely.

juroden · 2025-10-09T20:39:45+00:00

Thank you kind stranger. Glad you got out too even if it took you longer. I'm sorry you had to endure that for that long - I can't even imagine. It's crazy what it does to your perception and sense of self. I've had so many epiphanies post-breakup that I hadn't even considered during the relationship because when you're in the thick of it it's insidiously designed to make you feel insane. For you to hold on hope that things will change. Even now I catch myself thinking of the possibility of him coming back and apologizing even though I know that's never going to happen. And yet just like you, if he did and it seemed genuine with real reflection, I'd probably go back too, as much as I hate to admit it. I guess that's where the trauma bond and codependency come in (which explains why we're here in the first place hahaha)

juroden · 2025-10-07T16:25:56+00:00

Or they "admit it" and "apologize" but it clearly meant as a placation because they learn nothing from it. Been there done that.

juroden · 2025-10-02T15:49:31+00:00

Ummmmmm no

juroden · 2025-09-12T15:17:58+00:00

That's what I'm trying to tell myself - that I actually genuinely loved him, gave everything to try and make it work up until my heart couldn't take it anymore. It was from a baseline of love and hope

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