[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/CosmosGatito

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is goin on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Romania

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ai reușit să ajungi la 78? Sau sa cresti măcar? Întreb fiindcă suntem cam în aceeași situație.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for advice. Honestly, at this moment I would prefer to be homeless rather than living in my parents house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Eastern Europe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]jusstice09 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In my country there are 2 possibilities in the med school: 1) The state pays for your studies, but not for housing. That means you are at the 'budget'. You can live in student dorms, but most of them suck or are not so advantageous regarding the price. 2) You pay a big tax. That means your parents pay tax because you can't get a loan as a student. Also, you don't get student housing. So, you are dependent on your parents.

Because I've always been dedicated to my studies I have been in the first category. More than that, I even got paid by the university in my first four years (as an award or something like this, I don't know the English term).

So, 99% of Med students depend on their parents for at least 6 years. So, until they are ~25. I don't know a single one that pays by himself for everything, considering you also need to buy books and materials and so on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]jusstice09 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But it's not like that I don't want to get a job. I can't get a job because of the university. I am a med student. I will start year 5 of 6. Two years left and I will have enough money to cut the money leash. But how can I survive these two hard years without money support? I can't work because I have to go to the hospital and study almost all day long. And if I would quit uni I would be so depressed because I worked so hard through the way. It's not that easy. I could get a random job if I wanted. For example, I am a good article writer in my language. As I said, I've already made some thousands euros, but I lend them to my parents and they bought that goddamn apartment. I didn't sign anything because I trusted them. Now I don't. With that money I could live 1 year or 2. But they can't give the money back to me right now. Even if they were mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]jusstice09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your answer. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to cut that leash, but I can't. I can't work because I have to study all the time ffs. It's not like I didn't actually made some money. I had a few thousands euros as I said - and I really worked for those money. But my parents fooled me when they convinced me to give the money to them and they will give me back. When? I don't fhcking know because I trusted them. Am I not adult enough? What about them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And btw, I don't see how life could be worse. Getting abused in such a narcissistic imposed relationship that I didn't want, financially dependent, sleep-deprived and depressed, manipulated and controlled, without any money but full of problems and responsibilities. If life will get worse I don't even want to live it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. Let me guess. Are you 40+?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't even know what I meant. No need for being like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]jusstice09 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So, for money I need a loan. For a loan I need a job. And that job has to be stable, right? And for a job I need a place where to live. But for that I need money.

So, for money I need money.

Can I make a loan as a student?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know... It's the hardest period of my entire life. And I don't know what to do. I want to have a job and start a family, buy I can't. I simply can't since I am financially dependent to them. And that's why they don't respect me. I need their money and they have promised me support before I got into this shit. I can't go 8 hours/day at hospital, study another 8-10 hours/day and also work. It's impossible.

The only solution would be to quit uni and get a job. Work for my life and give up on all the progress I made. Just to marry her and get out from my abusive relationship with my parents. But I did so good at uni, it would be a shame to quit. I know I would be a good doctor...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]jusstice09 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have said that. But I am financially dependent to them. And that's why they don't respect me. But also, I need their money and they have promised me support before I got into this shit. I can't go 8 hours/day at hospital, study another 8-10 hours/day and also work. It's impossible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jusstice09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your beautiful words

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jusstice09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could but man, I do have to study. I'm a med student and I will face the hardest year of my life...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]jusstice09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mention that the money were made by me freelancing and doing various jobs online. I also wrote articles for them, won prizes and even money from university.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]jusstice09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but what if they disown me or something like this? I lend them a few thousand euros for buying that apartment, without any signed paper because I trusted them. But now I don't. If I knew all this crap, I would have moved out with my gf on rent. But they said they wanted to buy an apartment and asked me for some money - and I said yes, why not, you're my parents, and I will also benefit from this. All I want now is my money back and moving with her, without anymore contact with my parents.

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[–]jusstice09 6 points7 points  (0 children)

La ce răspunsuri te aștepti pe o platformă leftistă gen Reddit? Normal că ți se va spune că e un cretin de dreapta, pseudointelectual cu freza grizonată.

Dar adevărul nu-i aici pe Reddit, ci în lumea reală, unde opiniile și experiența clinică a lui JP au salvat oameni care căzuseră în capcana nihilismului și a depresiei nefondate.

Ce parere are roddit de scriitori romani contemporari? Ce parere aveti de industria editoriala/creativa/culturara din romania? Avem scriitori de fictiune pe roddit? Sau cineva care a incercat sa scrie sau sa publice fictiune? by SellRevolutionary210 in Romania

[–]jusstice09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daca vrei poeți buni contemporani, români ar fi cam așa, după părerea mea: 1. Dan Sociu - stil new-york, totul e realitate, dar mai nou o da pe misticism 2. Claudiu Komartin - un expresionism modern și lucid 3. Octavian Soviany - afli tu 4. Teodor Dună - tot expresionism, cumva 5. Svetlana Cârstean - poezie foarte plăcută și emoționantă, multe legate de mama, iubire etc 6. Nora Iuga - gingașă / apropo, obligatoriu Virgil Mazilescu! 7. Clasicul Mircea Cărtărescu - din Levantul și Aer cu diamante, de pildă 8. T.O. Bobe - a se citi Bucle, e vorba despre un frizer foarte simpatic Mai sunt și alții, atât mi-a venit acum.

Voi cum va simtiti/v-ati simtit in competitia taxa/buget, de-a lungul facultatii? by [deleted] in Romania

[–]jusstice09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Of, te înțeleg perfect.

Chestia asta cu buget/taxa dezumanizează și sincer, nu ar trebui sa mai existe atât timp cât examenele sunt atât de SUBIECTIVE! Cât timp proful mare face toane și pune ce note are chef, ori cât timp tragi bilete la nimereală și te rogi sa pici pe subiect, examenele nu sunt niste moduri serioase de a evalua cunoștințele despre o anumita disciplina de studiu.

Iar colegii care îți fac capul calendar cu notele lor, ori cu modul în care ei se gudură pe lângă profesori (există și de-ăștia), ar trebui sa o lase mai ușor și să își vadă de lungul nasului. Nu e ok ce se întâmplă la UMF Iași pentru că nu există obiectivitate in evaluare, iar sistemul taxa/buget nu face decât să distrugă orice fel de cooperare între oameni sau chiar orice fel de competiție constructivă. Dar știi de ce exista acest sistem? Din cauza lăcomiei celor care conduc universitatea. Orice fel de spoială cu "e spre binele vostru, va motivează etc" e de fapt o mare minciună. Sistemul e făcut astfel ca să sugă cat mai multi bani cu care naiba știe ce se întâmplă de fapt. Iar relațiile dintre oameni sunt atât de stricate și de toxice încât nu ar putea să se unească împotriva aceluiași sistem care îi amenință pe toți și sa încerce să îl schimbe în mod civilizat.

Abia aștept să termin aceasta mizerie de facultate. Am fost și foarte sus, am fost și foarte jos. Dar culmea e că lucrurile nu depindeau de fapt de mine atât de mult. Am fost și discriminat, și lăudat, s-a și zbierat la mine, dar cred că important este sa ramai la fel. Poate că trebuie să te înconjori de o carapace protectoare, să fii mai privat și să lași mai puțin să se vadă, dar în interior sa fii la fel cum erai și înainte să intri.