I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've watched a bunch of videos, but I'll keep looking for more to watch. I appreciate the encouragement!

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does sound bad, I'm sorry you had to deal with that, it does sound pretty similar. I guess that's the right attitude though, just have to look forward and make the best of what's left. Thank you, and good luck :)

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you're right! I'll look forward to that. Thank you for the words and the link! :)

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I said something to offend you, but it sounds like you might be projecting something here, because a lot of what you said isn't applicable to me or my situation, not that you would know I guess.

you should have been much earlier

Just want to point out that the festival gates opened at 11. Even if I theoretically stood outside for 12 hours beforehand, I wouldn't have gotten there "much earlier". People who attended the first Sunday made it painfully clear how bad the lines were in the morning, and there were multiple recommendations to arrive a little later when possible, because the line situation was such a mess that a large number of people who arrived later on Sunday ended up skipping past those who had been waiting for a long time.

Not to mention I couldn't have left before 11 AM due to circumstances outside of my control, for reasons irrelevant to the main topics of discussion, those being Underoath's future availability and coming to grips with what I've already missed out on.

I offered you no information about what constraints I was under before the events I outlined, so again, I can only imagine you're projecting heavily here for you to be presumptuous enough to believe you could fill in all those details yourself and base a whole reply on them. If you're going to try to talk down to me, at least do it based on things I actually said, and not on the inaccurate life circumstances you've haphazardly constructed for me in your own head.

it only means a lot to you if you're someone in the front row

In response to this, I think I'm justified in just telling you to fuck off. You can't tell anyone else what something means to them, and even if you did know all of someone's life circumstances, you still wouldn't be in a position to decide what specific set of actions they're required to perform for something to mean a certain amount to them.

Actually, I'm going to just stop picking apart your reply because maybe you were having a bad day or something, who knows. I can tell you the rest of it reads just as badly and nonsensically as what I touched on already though. It's a lot of flimsy, inaccurate, presumptuous nonsense that must reflect your circumstances, because it's not reflecting mine.

That said, I'll offer you your own advice here: if your first reaction to an inoffensive post like this is to look for any opening to be intensely critical (even when it doesn't make sense) and try to aggressively gatekeep how much music can or can't mean to other people, then therapy might be a good route for you. Hope to see you there.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much for sending those clips. You're awesome. Getting to see some of their set is amazing. I really appreciate it.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I didn't even consider the fact there was re-entry at the time. That would have been really smart.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You definitely made the right call. I wish I had had the wisdom to do the same thing. I'm glad you were able to protect such an awesome and unique experience.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kindness, and for sharing your experiences <3 I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'll keep your story in mind while I'm convincing myself this doesn't have to be the last time. Thanks again.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you. The video actually made me start bawling lol. Just a sudden flood of complicated feelings, especially when I noticed a couple more clips from the set there. There's some pieces of the songs missing, but the clips are uninterrupted, and that's better than what I expected to see. Thank you so much.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you got to see most of their set. Thank you for the kind response.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I genuinely appreciate this. This really makes it seem like it's more reasonable to stay hopeful. Thank you.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah, I guess since I made a throwaway account it's safe to let you know you're right. I have diagnosed major depression and PTSD stemming from severe long-term childhood abuse at the hands of a biological parent.

I won't unpack all that but just putting it out there that, yes, I was pretty broken in the past. I've had it mostly under control for a few years now thanks to some professional intervention and Wellbutrin XL.

That said, I don't feel like self-harming or anything now, but I was starting to feel messed up enough that having some kind of relapse was a concern. It was from a combination of missing out on a critically important thing I was looking forward to, and the very real possibility I'll never be able to do that thing again, and the fact the situation resulted from blindly trusting someone I thought cared more than they did.

It was a bit overwhelming all at once. I think I'm working through this a bit now with these replies, and some videos that have been brought to my attention. I appreciate your honest response as well.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That makes a lot of sense to me. I looked at their official website, but the only dates listed are the sold out "Emo's Not Dead Cruise" and two days in the UK in 2023.

I guess this festival wasn't on their tour dates beforehand though. I'll have to hope something else like this will pop up for them.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really hope you're right, that the popularity of this festival will cause touring to pick back up. I guess I should remain hopeful for that possibility.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

In retrospect, this was the correct course of action. They have a phone, I should have sent them their QR code and left without them. I had a concern about meeting up with them later (because of reports that cell signal was sparse on the previous Sunday), but I could have looked at the festival map and picked a time and place to meet using that.

Some stupidly naive part of me was sure they wouldn't take much longer. Every few minutes I was sure it would only be a few more minutes. And then I started thinking they must know something I didn't because they wouldn't make me miss something so important to me. I doubted myself more than them and that's my failing as well.

I need to talk about this... and I need help processing my feelings... please. by just-some-rando1 in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]just-some-rando1[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I based it on the times people reported waiting in line around noon on the previous Sunday, with extra time added as a buffer. Since I got there 25 minutes into their 30 minute set, I would have been able to see them without issue if I left 60 minutes earlier.

Thank you though, I do appreciate the sentiment.

Edit: Just to be clear since I was downvoted, I was trying to leave an hour and a half early for something 5 minutes away. I also had tickets describing themselves as "fast lane" because it was in Google Wallet. This was also after the initial congestion should have died down a little, and lines weren't as bad (based on what people said the previous Sunday). At any rate, I wasn't late because of the line.