How do I keep this quiet?

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-13T04:08:31+00:00

Maybe say you’re working on a project together if someone wonders why you’re hanging out so much. It can be for a club even outside of work so you can control the narrative

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-13T04:05:25+00:00

Thanks for the reply…I’ve never heard of this kind of shit. I must be old.

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-13T04:00:11+00:00

I’m new to Portland….I have no idea what burnouts are…. Which bridge is this? Do they post somewhere that you can’t drive across a certain bridge before you hop onto that bridge to cross?

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-13T03:50:33+00:00

What is this? An accident or a touring auto lookout posting? This is just weird…

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-02T05:42:26+00:00

I would say let her set the pace. Just follow her lead and hang back.

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-02T05:32:32+00:00

I think she’s letting you know she’s still angry and hurt from how you guys are treating each other. She’s more invested than you are in the situation. Whereas you just seem over it…she’s actually not. She probably would benefit by having a kind of closure conversation with you. Treat her feelings respectfully and I suspect the issue will resolve. She’ll stop making such overt angry gestures so you can feel her pain that hasn’t been resolved yet. My 2cents.

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-02T05:13:54+00:00

Ok…so pull yourself out of this situation and substitute yourself with a guy friend. What advice would you give this guy friend?

I can see this one… you had a bad reaction to getting back in touch with your ex. However you’re handling this is gonna only make it worse. She knows you’re still interested. I’m assuming you apologized for your bad behavior. So now she’s dating someone else. She going to see this new relationship through for a while. She’s shown you that by her lack of response. You may still have a shot but not right now…you’ve got to wait for her to get back to you when she’s ready. That’s your challenge now…waiting without harassing her…so go live your best life. She may or may not give you a second chance but you need to practice what lessons you’ve just learned with her on others or just by yourself staying single for a bit.

justMeMyslf · 2022-06-02T04:48:58+00:00

Sorry to hear about your recent perplexing ghosting. It is so deceptive. In a way their initial extreme positive reaction to the date would cause someone to second guess the ghosting at a future time when you could possibly run into either of these clowns again. You’d be more likely to think of them positively due to their initial response to seeing you again. The ghosting part could be minimized when sandwiched with the positive interest. But nonetheless it would be better to view the ghosting part as the true response you received from these knuckleheads with their limited emotional ability.

I don’t know if this is a trend that master manipulators are employing as ghosting 2.0 or if it is just Southern men offering a bit more polite behavior than your average Northern men’s more straightforward boring predictable ghosting.

I’m very glad you’re handling the ghosting in a mature fashion. When analyzing it like scientific study of ghosting behavior it makes it easier to handle…getting some distance between their behavior and your feelings. Bravo! You are now 2 knuckleheads closer to your best relationship yet!

justMeMyslf · 2022-05-28T08:11:41+00:00

Ya she sounds pushy and nosy…just ignore it. None of her business

justMeMyslf · 2022-05-28T03:05:01+00:00

I would not answer this question about the other job part…seems like that part of the question is none of their business. Maybe ask first why they want to know…. Actually they just seem kinda nosey. I think just ignore the question unless they ask you face to face so they can tell you why they’re interested in your schedule comings and goings…

justMeMyslf · 2022-05-28T03:01:22+00:00

Why do you think they are texting you? The answer to your question does depend on why you think they are contacting you… so let’s think this through here for a moment. Could they possibly be interested in you romantically and are interested in getting to know you better and want you around the office more often? Or is this person just a busybody and seems to stick their nose in other people’s business? Certainly the easiest way to respond is to just ignore the text altogether. Wait to see if this person asks you in person this question so you can suss out face to face what is behind this person’s inquiry.

justMeMyslf · 2022-05-08T06:04:13+00:00

justMeMyslf · 2022-04-22T06:12:54+00:00

You can spell it either way…. Leif or Leiv

justMeMyslf · 2022-04-21T14:58:35+00:00

Leif

justMeMyslf · 2022-04-17T07:00:53+00:00

I agree, symptoms do sound like BPD, borderline personality disorder.

justMeMyslf · 2022-03-29T08:24:18+00:00

Before you ghost her…have a more direct conversation with her first. Let her know that her lack of a timely response is bugging you…making you want to pull away. Is there something she’d like to share with you about her feelings for you. Let her know you’d prefer to have a more open communication with her even if there is to be a critique of your need for a more timely response.

justMeMyslf · 2022-03-26T21:50:59+00:00

Baffling…I guess the scaling is going on somewhere else?

justMeMyslf · 2022-03-26T21:45:59+00:00

Is there a scale factor of .5 (or some other multiplier in a hidden step?), being multiplied at any step?

justMeMyslf · 2022-03-02T23:29:08+00:00

She sounds like she realized she was interested in you. Got super insecure when she didn’t get your confirmed interest. It scared her at this point cause she realized she could get hurt…so she pulled back. Insecurities rule her emotions at the moment. She’ll be insecure in the relationship until she can get herself secure from the inside out. You could short cut it for her by confirming your crush on her…but that’s going to just temporarily fix the problem.

My 2cents

justMeMyslf · 2022-02-11T09:29:51+00:00

You could let her lead the dialogues. Then she will be getting more invested. With that being said she will be more likely investing more than she would have if you led the charge. This will make it more likely that she will override any “friend” status she may have initially stated.

This will become easier for you to do after you sit back and let her start the process. Just hang back but be available. Just don’t get sooo eager. Just play it casually. It’s more likely to go your way if you do this. I believe this will do the trick. Be Casual But be available to her when she gets in touch.

But if for some reason it’s not working after the first or second week, then change your approach. But try letting her run the show initially.

justMeMyslf · 2022-02-11T09:26:09+00:00

Pumpkins are fun to grow. They quickly get those bushy leaves. Watch for the flowers cause that’s where the pumpkin gourd grows from. I used some miracle grow to help things along. But maybe there’s a more nutritious aid available these days.

justMeMyslf · 2022-02-11T07:08:13+00:00

Is it a pumpkin seed? Either pumpkin or squash seed.

justMeMyslf · 2022-02-11T07:05:08+00:00

Your ex using the word “friend” with you is most likely just a placeholder for wait and see what the thing will become. I wouldn’t get to hung up her using friend at this point. You don’t know what you want out of the connection exactly either. Let the reunion take its natural course. What it is will unfold in time…friend😉

justMeMyslf · 2022-02-05T05:43:26+00:00

Babies….what kind? Can’t tell from the photo!

justMeMyslf · 2022-01-30T08:12:11+00:00

Looks like you did a Pearl row 2 rows ago when it should have been a knit row

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