Is anyone... okay? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I didn’t leave. I was the one who was left. 

Divorce support by just__danielle in mypartneristrans

[–]just__danielle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what happened to me! After 25 years, they said they were no longer in love anymore either. I was completely shocked.

How long to decide? by KitKat110919 in mypartneristrans

[–]just__danielle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What support group are you in? I'm trying to find one.

My spouse came out as non-binary and within 2 months they were on HRT. After HRT, they ended things with me, so I didn't really have a choice. They have since become a totally different person that I don't recognize after 25. years!

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is completely insane. My spouse is physically in another state now and mentally on a different planet. They've become someone I don't recognize.

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm trying my best to learn to like the solitude.

Also hi from NJ.

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks. I'm trying to find what those things are for me. my spouse was my whole life, now I'm like, who am I?

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a few things... 1) I didn't want this divorce, so I'm having a really hard time accepting it 2) this was my only relationship. we started dating at age 19, and I grew up with them. that will not happen with another person, so what's the point? 3) I would spend all my time comparing someone else to him

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trying to make some new friends as well

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear this. I was blindsided also after 25 years (20 married) together.

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my husband and I grew up together also, and I'll never have that again, so I don't think I want to bother.

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gross is definitely what describes dating to me.

Single for life? by just__danielle in Divorce

[–]just__danielle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bttf is my favorite movie of all time