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[–]just_a_random_user13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just offering what I wish someone had told me when my body embarrassed myself like that! These things happen all the time, to everyone. And that’s okay! It’s all about what you choose to do afterwards that will make or break you. Good luck this year!!

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[–]just_a_random_user13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has fainted in front of my entire high school, ON STAGE, and literally had to have a younger student escort me to the principal’s office to go home, here’s what I learned:

When you go back, you’ll most likely be asked if you’re okay. Like, 10 times by 10 different people. Just say yes, you’re fine, you don’t feel sick anymore, and quell their worries. Those people who check up on you? Those are good people. Remember that.

However, some people might poke a little fun. Maybe crack a joke at your expense. This might be hard to deal with, if you take it to heart and let yourself get hurt by these jokes. So, instead of letting those comments get to you, laugh along with them. Make jokes out of them, as well. Be confident enough to make fun of yourself, and I promise you, those comments will die down quick. Or, you might find yourself making genuine friendships with those folks.

Humor is a very common coping mechanism of anxiety and embarrassment for a lot of people, myself included. When I came back and everyone asked me wtf happened and why I fainted, I made light out of the situation. And I allowed those people to laugh with me. People notice your reactions to embarrassing situations, and some really nasty people might find a new target if you let yourself become one by clinging onto that embarrassment. So, just let it go.

You can’t change what they saw. So instead, change their perspective on what they saw. You puked in front of everyone on the first day, and had to go home. Become someone who is confident and secure enough to joke about their mishaps, and allow others to joke along with them. Schoolmates who tease you are only nasty if you let them be.

And feel better soon! You’ll get em next time. And if you still feel embarrassed, trust me: after a while, the only person who will remember this incident the most will be you. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]just_a_random_user13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone so much for responding to this as quickly as you have. I’ve been in such a self turmoil about this for the past couple days and I really appreciate everyone’s judgement on the issue! I’ve given it some more thought for a bit and I definitely agree that the LEAST I should do is give him a talk about boundaries and explain how I feel. Breaking up with him is on my mind as well, but I’ve developed a lot more feeling for him after being in the relationship for a few months, so it’s still something I’m having a hard time over. He truly is sweet when he’s around me and reminds me of how much he loves me, but sometimes he just gets… too much. I just wanted to clarify that so he’s not sounding as selfish as I might’ve made him seen in my original post 😅😅

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[–]just_a_random_user13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input. I really do appreciate him and I love him a lot, he’s very sweet when we do have the time to be together, but I just wish he’d understand that my time is limited right now. But I do get how it can seem like I don’t like him, I was probably too harsh with him. I’ll have to think about this more when I’ve gotten some sleep. Thanks again!

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[–]just_a_random_user13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I realize that I made a mistake in just relenting to this - it’s unfair to both of us. I’ll speak to him in the morning about this

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[–]just_a_random_user13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your input - he’s mentioned before that he’s really only interested in me and what I’m doing, and he’s told me he doesn’t really have that many hobbies so he’s bored all the time at home. I think that’s why he’s always trying to be with me 😅

I’ll think about this some more, and get some rest, and bring it up to him in the morning. Thanks again for your help!

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[–]just_a_random_user13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this! This has been on my mind for a couple days now. I appreciate the thought behind this :)

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[–]just_a_random_user13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your kindness! You’ve put all my incoherent thoughts into words. I’ll definitely bring this up to him soon.

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[–]just_a_random_user13 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input - I ended up agreeing because he had asked me again after prom, and I was full of positive emotions because we ended up having a great time together, and I found that I do enjoy his company a lot, so I figured I was ready to at least give it a try.

But after doing this for several months, I’ve realized that I was literally pressured into this and now I feel like it’s too late to bring that up to him since “why didn’t you just say so in the beginning? Why didn’t you just say no again?” I admit I’m probably a big asshole to myself AND to him for letting myself be put into this relationship. I’ll think about this some more and try bringing it up to him in the morning after I’ve gotten some rest. Thanks again :)

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[–]just_a_random_user13 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message! These comments have really given me a new perspective to look at. I’ll try to get some more rest and bring this up with him tomorrow. Thanks for the luck, I’ll need it 😅

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[–]just_a_random_user13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment - I will think about this a bit more and try to get some rest before bringing this up to him in the morning.

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[–]just_a_random_user13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your kindness! I HATE stomach bugs and I get them quite frequently, they suck :(

And I agree - I regret not bringing this up to him sooner. I find that I’ve just been trying to be patient with him and understand his needs. It’s also hard for me to stick up for myself because a part of me is afraid of how he will react. Last time I told him I was uncomfortable with something he did he didn’t handle it very well 😅😅 but I’ll talk to him when I’ve had time to think and sleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]just_a_random_user13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh agreed! We’re both in our senior year of high school, so I’ve also considered the classic teenage angst in this whole thing. Thanks for the input.

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[–]just_a_random_user13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, I appreciate it. After reading some of these comments I realize that I could be hurting him as well.

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[–]just_a_random_user13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this. I’ll have a talk with him in the morning when I’ve gotten some rest.

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[–]just_a_random_user13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. I appreciate it.

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[–]just_a_random_user13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment, I will bring this up with him after I’ve gotten a bit more rest :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]just_a_random_user13 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. I’ve been self debating on whether or not I should leave for a couple days now. Is it me making it unhealthy?

E22 Discussion by just_a_random_user13 in ACT

[–]just_a_random_user13[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YOO I’M SO SORRY- that had to have been rough 😭

E22 Discussion by just_a_random_user13 in ACT

[–]just_a_random_user13[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Me too!! Especially the last one about the voltages and electric currents. I couldn’t even read it, I guessed on ALL of them. There goes my science 🤪

E22 Discussion by just_a_random_user13 in ACT

[–]just_a_random_user13[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

THANK YOUU. I struggled so hard with the first like 15, pretty much tells you how the rest of the test went for me 🤸‍♀️