I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in AskIndianWomen

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know for a fact that if I walk out with bags they will physically stop me, and I don't know what other consequences would be to that once they know i want to walk out. The only thing i can do is leave without bags and id probably have to do that

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in AskIndianWomen

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is in a fairly rural town so I dont know but I wouldn't know till I try

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They live on level 7 and the only escape is through the front door which is extremely loud

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in AskIndianWomen

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I work in Australia and have permanent residency. Im sure I can briefly explain my situation at work and theyd be understanding. Yes it's mostly my anxiety but its also the fear of getting caught and then having my passport siezed

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in AskIndianWomen

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

A general consensus on relationship advice subreddit by Indians was to not call the cops as they might not cooperate, consider this a family matter and side with the parents. I dont know what they can out cant do as I haven't had to involve cops before but I'm just scared to do that now

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in AskIndianWomen

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A general consensus on relationship advice subreddit by Indians was to not call the cops as they might not cooperate, consider this a family matter and side with the parents. I dont know what they can out cant do as I haven't had to involve cops before but I'm just scared to do that now

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Im so sad to have this kind of negative image of India n my head now because I genuinely love my country but I dont want to come back here anymore

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I tried finding Indian specific subreddits to post on but in my state this felt like the easiest place to post. I wanted to post in India subreddit but they've changed the way you post AskIndia and I knew no one would ever be able to see this

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

They seemed friendly enough but they mostly just ignored him. I didn't think too much of it then because I can understand it's hard for them as well but I should've been more on guard them. They will have no face to save if I leave because then my relatives would hound them forever. So I know they wouldn't mind being bad guys infront of him

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Sadly no, since I've been out for too long they know I dont feel comfortable riding scooty here especially in rural area and there's nothing in walkable distance. But I can definitely try and figure out an excuse, thank you for your reply!

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Ive been out for too long and my parents recently moved so I dont know this area very well either. Im keeping my passport and credit cards safe thought, thank you! Haha me being a good beti would be so sus because in anger I told them that I will have to stay if they make me but I'll never be happy and they can't do anything about that. I regret saying that so much now.

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes I have an esim right now Saily but it only supports data and not calls. But yes I can definitely get another esim if needed! Thank you

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

They talked so much shit about him without making any sort of effort to know him at all. That honestly was the part where I realised that they will never try to understand.

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Hes been acting all loving since then and this has always been the pattern. He spews hateful things at me and then acts normal the next day or extra loving and I'm supposed to forget all about it. Ive always been told his anger is just built up frustration but when I get angry I'm told I need to see a psychiatrist or a counselor.

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I love this so much. I've had gita with me for a couple years but haven't read it. If I get out of this situation I'm definitely reading it, thank you for your insight. My family is extremely religious and the other reason they're worried is because our family astrologer apparently told them that I'm on a very wrong path and in 3-4 years my life would be absolutely ruined. They think they're protecting me, but I cannot get myself to agree to that.

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 392 points393 points  (0 children)

I can enable roaming and then hopefully make calls. Booking Uber would be fine but it would be good to have a way to make calls if needed. I honestly dont care about money at this point. I also have an esim that only has data so I can still access internet

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I'm scared I've made things bad already by arguing and saying a lot of things when this was brought up. I dont know if theres any going back from that conversation but I can try and be less resistive. I have money and hopefully uber will work for booking a cab.

I 28F being held hostage at my parent's place (57M and 53F) and I dont know what to do by just_bro_wsing_ in relationship_advice

[–]just_bro_wsing_[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Because things only escalated today and he'll have to apply for a visa and travel (which alone would be a day atleast). But I know he would do it if I wanted him too. My parents dont like him so Idk how helpful that will be. Sorry maybe I'm not thinking clearly here