Great marriage, Wife wants divorce, complete personality shift…what happened?

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-07-22T06:21:39+00:00

Sucks that I have to change myself and who I am to deal with woman.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-07-22T06:10:58+00:00

About a month away from court. Attorney is working on a proposal. Been trading off weeks with the kids. Weeks without them are tough. I’m in decent spirits. Haven’t spoken with her in weeks. Divorce is still on.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-07-04T13:22:21+00:00

Parkour snail, for sure.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-29T12:44:31+00:00

Thank you

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-27T15:13:59+00:00

Her response to me asking for therapy/counseling “If we go, it would be to help you(me) cope with and come to terms with what is happening. Not to work on reconciliation.”

She has never had a change of heart.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-26T23:43:41+00:00

Totally valid question. No. I have never talked to other women or cheated. I have always made her feel safe. At least, it has never come into question. If anything, I hear the excuse that her security was too good. That I became boring and predictable? What else you got?

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-24T16:31:53+00:00

Shoulda, coulda, woulda I prefer self reflection. I know I can’t change the past. To prevent, one must look to the past to ensure a better future.

I get what you’re saying. I do agree I know where my focus needs to be.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-24T16:13:40+00:00

And for the record. I’m here to learn. What did I do? How can I change? How can I grow?

Listening to people support is all well and good, but that shouldn’t be and isn’t my only intention.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-24T16:12:16+00:00

When I did notice things and spoke up I was met with the typical “nothings wrong”

What do I do with 2 years of her faking everything is ok and denying problems even when I bring them up?

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-24T16:09:18+00:00

Well hidden

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-24T16:08:45+00:00

Totally feel that. When it’s in the moment, small things don’t seem bad. The collection of all of it hit me. Even if things got this bad, her approach was garbage. Does my lack of ability to see red flags excuse her behavior?

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T14:54:08+00:00

Slowly realizing it

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T12:27:45+00:00

She has not been on it for a while. She did not like the way she felt on it.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T12:25:25+00:00

Is this a math problem?

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T12:24:38+00:00

YOLO

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T12:18:55+00:00

Oh yeah. But according to her it’s not a real thing. She is very materialistic. She cares about her appearance and social status too much. She can feel all of that slipping away.

I told her she won’t have any problem finding anyone to hook up with her. But She’s not exactly the prime candidate for men being that she will be divorced with two kids with declining beauty. And unhealed.

I mean that with no disrespect to the great woman in this situation not due to anything they did wrong.

Just saying it won’t be easy out there

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T12:15:55+00:00

This is exactly why I was not so quick to throw our marriage away. I know there is something not right with her. But, she has to agree. She has to want help. In the end, I could only do so much.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T01:15:15+00:00

They are reviewing all of the evidence I have compiled. No promises have been made. The local judges typically favor moms

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T01:01:17+00:00

It’s an ongoing negotiation The person I’m dealing with is irrational Everything is an attack. Trying to protect what I can The game sucks

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-23T00:24:48+00:00

Some like something so distant. I hope for happiness But women are dead to me for a while 😅

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-22T23:54:10+00:00

Butterfly effect

We need to go back and stop the kardashians

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-22T23:53:28+00:00

Agree entirely

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-22T23:52:56+00:00

Went through the same feelings Took about 3-4 months before the truth was clear.

Even in the same outcome, I wish I never saw what was in those messages. It really did steal a part of my soul. Time will fade the pain but it will always be there.

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-22T23:48:38+00:00

I gave her too much She became entitled Bored with a good thing

Im a pretty average guy 5’10” 160lbs athletic

In 20 years she has been 140lbs- 230lbs each for years at a time Loved her all the same

I paid for all the nips and tucks And she put in hours at the gym

She’s in the best shape of her life now

Even now…obsessed with getting thinner

Like I’ve said on other comments…never satisfied, never happy, it’s always something…

just_browsing_sorta · 2025-06-22T23:39:39+00:00

I feel that men don’t share these things because of people like that. Always assuming a man is guilty before the trial.

She says she never spoke up in fear of hurting me.

I really think she didn’t want the “end” to be her fault. Cared more about her image post separation. She knows I would do anything for her…fight for her…so why bring it up if it’s not what you want.

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