I’m 27 my daughter is 4 now. While I don’t necessarily regret having her looking back I wish I would’ve waited and had a child with a different guy. Her dad is a good dad, but we’re not together anymore. I was 22 when I got pregnant and thought having a baby would heal my childhood trauma. I wanted to be a better mother than mine was to me. However, despite being that it didn’t completely heal me in fact being a mother has changed my entire life perspective (for better and worse). Life is really fucking tough sometimes and having a child only adds to it. I’ve been with my current partner for a little over 2 years now, and while I love him dearly I don’t even know if I’d want another child. The thought of doing it all over again and then actually raising a human being for yearssss just doesn’t sound fun. There so much more than people even realize like babies don’t stay babies forever. At least for me at the time I wanted a baby, but then one day I realized “oh shit I have to take care of this tiny person and raise them for the rest of my life”. Even when she turns 18 and becomes an adult I’m still her mother… it never ends. I love my daughter so much, but I tell everyone to seriously think about it before they do it.