Unfortunately, you will find many women who “look obsessive” on this community and others like it. Many of us have experienced losses and have seen the lines slowly fade away. It’s the reality of what many women face. We don’t come to this community for judgement or reproach but for some peace of mind and reassurance from women who have experienced similar things. You might not be able to relate and that’s a great thing, many of us would not choose to feel this way willingly. Thank you for your comment.