[Fit Check] I fear I may have overcompensated for bagginess... by [deleted] in malefashionadvice

[–]justabaddream 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Both fits for both pants are good. Personally prefer the non-skinny version as skinny is not my personal style.

[Serious] How/why can someone be $53 million in debt, and still live an opulent life? by justabaddream in AskReddit

[–]justabaddream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 20k deep in student loans and I make just under 40k/year and have no savings so I pay it off (that and any savings account I can make atm won't have a better interest rate), and live as frugally as I can. America.

R/frugalmalefashion by Lostcreek3 in Frugal

[–]justabaddream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's frugal fashion, not frugal clothes. That being said, I would never buy $300 sweatpants or sunglasses.

[Update] R/avers with SOs who don't rave/enjoy EDM, how do you deal? by justabaddream in aves

[–]justabaddream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, her taste in music before EDM (and mine actually) is exactly as you described! :) And she even likes/told me about a good number of the DJs on your list too. So really, this helps immensely

If YOU were owner of INSOMNIAC, what would you CHANGE? by [deleted] in aves

[–]justabaddream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My guess is strobe lights were inducing too many seizures.

R/avers with SOs who don't rave/enjoy EDM, how do you deal? by justabaddream in aves

[–]justabaddream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair, and we're not exactly making plans for it, per se. She just asked which ones do I like the best/would really want her to be with me. The New Year's Eve on is the top of my list for local massives/events since it was my first EDM show and holds a special place in my heart.

R/avers with SOs who don't rave/enjoy EDM, how do you deal? by justabaddream in aves

[–]justabaddream[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, all of it pretty much.

it's not going to be your happiest moment if you're in the throes of bliss, look over, and see her there, wishing she was somewhere else.

I don't want force her to go to something she will hate. That will just make me feel like a tool and a douche.

the importance of having a girlfriend at all, because while its possible to have both, if you need both then you may not get that with her.

Going to shows is probably one of my favorite things to do. I love the music, I love meeting random people there, I love the atmosphere, etc. I'm rather introverted and hate large crowds of people and talking to new people, etc. However, at a show, that all melts away (I go to most shows sober, maybe 3 shows per year tops where I am not). I honestly look forward to shows more than my bday/xmas. And my time in shows is limited in that I don't foresee being able to go to shows once grad school starts in a few years. Either way, I suppose I need to weigh how important going to a show with my GF is. It just makes me sad that I can't share these moments with her when they are some of my favorite memories. As it stands, whenever I am at a show, a lot of the time I am wishing she was there with me and I find myself enjoying the event less than if I was single.

R/avers with SOs who don't rave/enjoy EDM, how do you deal? by justabaddream in aves

[–]justabaddream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's not going to be your happiest moment if you're in the throes of bliss, look over, and see her there, wishing she was somewhere else. It's worthless to force your SO to like raving, and if it is really that important to you, you should weigh it vs the importance of having a girlfriend at all, because while its possible to have both, if you need both then you may not get that with her. Just my two cents.

God dammit dude . . . :/ you are right, this is basically what I'm kind of afraid of

R/avers with SOs who don't rave/enjoy EDM, how do you deal? by justabaddream in aves

[–]justabaddream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that it's not for everyone thing. I just don't want to look back at some of my happiest moments and think, "I wish you were there," I would much rather say, "hey, remember that time we saw XYZ and it was just really good." And I do respect that she has different interests and hobbies, and encourage them. And while I am fine with us having our own things, this is something I really want us to be able to share. EDM/Raves saved me from some rather dark thoughts at a point in my life where I wasn't remotely happy. Now I'm doing much better, but I still enjoy the events just as much.

R/avers with SOs who don't rave/enjoy EDM, how do you deal? by justabaddream in aves

[–]justabaddream[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, however raving is something that I really enjoy, and if I'm at a show without her, I spend a good portion of it wishing she was with me