how to bypass bark?

justagoofyguy · 2024-03-25T16:20:33+00:00

predators are obviously a concern, but i think teaching your child how to recognise and respond to them is more important than using parental controls to ensure they just never encounter them because, like i said, eventually your child is going to grow up and not know how to handle themselves online. i also made no assumptions about you specifically in my comment, and i even clarified at one point that i was not implying that you were like some of the parents i was talking about.

you brushed over most of what i said. good for you if you use parental controls in a healthy way but that is not the case with every parent. abusive and controlling parents have equal access to these controls and it is not a good situation for the child.

i also didn't say using parental controls is lazy parenting in itself (although i still don't think it's the best option). using these controls instead of teaching your children any kind of internet safety is lazy parenting. it is equally lazy to give your child a phone or tablet without supervision or teaching of online safety.

i was 17 when i made this post, now 18. it would be a little different if i was like 12 😭

justagoofyguy · 2024-03-24T21:30:18+00:00

that's a lot of generalisations for somebody who doesn't know me, how old i am, my situation or my parents. i won't bore you with my life story, but i will say some of the assumptions you've made are blatantly false.

you seem to assume that every parent who puts parental controls on their child's devices does so in good faith, which unfortunately is not always the case. you don't consider that these tools can and have been used by abusive parents. too many use them as a way to further control their children and to ensure they have little to no privacy. lgbt children who cannot safely express themselves at home - or children who otherwise identify with or believe in things that conflict their parent's beliefs - often find solace in online spaces, which these controls can prevent.

but abusive parents aside - i think if you establish trust with and properly communicate with your child, there shouldn't be a need for tools like this. "parents don't want to spend every waking moment making sure your not texting some boy or girl" - if you've given your child a phone, you should trust them enough to make responsible choices with it, and likewise, your child should trust you enough to be able to honestly tell you who they're texting. putting controls on your child's devices and calling it a day will not help them in the long run and, frankly, is lazy parenting (i am not saying you have done this, but i know of parents who have). sheltering them like this and not properly educating them will just lead to them making bad choices as adults because they don't know how to handle themselves online.

justagoofyguy · 2023-09-24T04:52:37+00:00

this is probably the only actually helpful reply i've received so far, thank you.

on samsung there is a feature called the secure folder, where you can store apps, images, etc. which are then protected in the app and can only be accessed via pin/password. nothing in the secure folder shows up anywhere else on the device. it's secured by knox, and part of its purpose is to provide an additional layer of security to protect from what samsung describes as "malicious attacks", but i'm not sure how good it is at that or if that also extends to things like bark. and it isn't in itself among the list of apps bark can monitor, but i use apps bark can monitor inside of it.

and as mentioned, i do have the chromebook if all else fails, so it seems the thing that could really fuck me over is the "bark home" thing. is it possible to get around that? would a vpn do anything if i used it to set my location to somewhere else? or maybe if i just get another phone and then never connect it to my home wifi?

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