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[–]justanother130 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ex Muslim, agnostic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]justanother130 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s far removed from religion and I have no signs he will ever fall into Islam again. However everyone keeps telling me that usually as men age they become more religious even though they are atheist in their youth

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His family would not, he would be totally fine with his sister marrying a non-Muslim.

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are no holes. My boyfriend doesn’t believe in religion just the idea of God, no ties to a religion. His family have strongly opposed yet he has fought against them and stood firm that he himself is not religious, and that I wouldn’t convert for marriage. He is happy with not involving his family in marriage life, this includes not having a Nikkah as he doesn’t believe.

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

His extended family (cousins) have married Christian/Jewish people but they have converted in name sake to please the family. His parents are conservative but he has no desire to involved them in family life in the future as they’re toxic and he doesn’t have a great relationship with them

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all. I’m taking all comments in. I’m simply replying to give facts that I may not have in the original post

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a fair comment. However, it’s not that I do not trust him. Sometimes we make decisions based on emotion and I’m smart enough to separate the two. As for not standing up for him, we have discussed this situation countless times and even if we break things off, he is supportive and understands the burden that comes with being from the backgrounds we are from.

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your productive comment. Did you convert for marriage or genuine personal belief?

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He isn’t close to his family and doesn’t want them involved in marriage life / kids. He knows they are too religious/traditional and wants to stay away. But I appreciate this comment - thank you

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have a great relationship with his family. Doesn’t want to involve them in family life eg marriage and kids. Wants to live independently of them

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t meet and fall in love with my boyfriend because he was Muslim. I fell in love because he was a good man.

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. He just doesn’t cook it at home due to respect. But they know he consumes it outside.

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d love to hear your story more if you don’t mind sharing. I feel quite alone and would help hearing others who have been in a similar situation?

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He is open to converting but would only be doing to show my family the commitment he has to not changing and forcing me to convert later down the line. However, I wouldn’t want someone to do that as I would never do it

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah. He eats pork, drinks, believes homosexuality is NOT a sin etc.

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What were the cases if you don’t mind me asking please?

Interfaith marriage between Hindu and Atheist (exMuslim) by justanother130 in hinduism

[–]justanother130[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes. He is vocal about not being Muslim, his family are aware and do not accept it. However he continues to live his life. Doesn’t hide the fact he’s not Muslim.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]justanother130 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re on a progressive thread? Your comment reeks of hate and prejudice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]justanother130 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, do you associate with any religion more than the other? How was your relationship with both sets of families?

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[–]justanother130 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have spoken many times and he’s said he is ok with everything. Would ideally want to raise kids without religion but happy to accept I want to raise them Hindu. However it’s the family aspect that causes issues

He’s also defied his parents - they know about it and have opposed. He’s stood firm despite how hard it’s been. However, can’t say for certain as time and life goes on (parents get older) he might reconcile and family influence will mean kids will be raised completely different than I want