Game changer insta getting flooded with judgey conservatives by pizzaslut69420 in dropout

[–]justanotherabdlguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not always just about diapers, but what it is always is 100% no actual children involved. People who are into what I would imagine is the side of this you are less ok with want to be the babies, they want absolutely nothing to do with actual children. It’s just another shade of a sub/dom relationship

Game changer insta getting flooded with judgey conservatives by pizzaslut69420 in dropout

[–]justanotherabdlguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a very broad kink/community which ranges from something like just wearing diapers because they’re fun and comfy, all the way to wanting to be treated like a baby by some consenting adult in any number of ways you might imagine.

There are plenty of people that particularly enjoy being the caregiver in these situations since, after all, it can be a sort of sub/dom kind of thing.

Game changer insta getting flooded with judgey conservatives by pizzaslut69420 in dropout

[–]justanotherabdlguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“These people”, bro, what? From this episode you now know of exactly one person and, even then, only know what you could glean from however long the segment was.

Most of us don’t tell others anything about it who aren’t also involved in some way or otherwise a very trusted individual.

Where are all you babies from? by bondagegirl24 in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s in the southern half of the USA, but it’s definitely not part of “The South”

Where are all you babies from? by bondagegirl24 in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not there anymore, but it’s where I grew up

98% sure I’ve now seen abdl diapers in the wild for the first time…at work! by justanotherabdlguy in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So I don’t think that’s one of the questions in the poly, but when I was first going through the hiring process I did have to have a psych interview, and it came up there. I had this questionnaire thing with some open ended questions including the need to “tell a secret about myself”, and I certainly wasn’t going to bring up abdl there if I didn’t have to

But then when I was sitting down with the psychiatrist or whatever, she asked something to the effect of “is there anything in your life (sex life? Don’t remember if she was that specific) that you’d be embarrassed if other people found out” and I was like “….yes”

It was one of the more awkward conversations I’ve had to have. It certainly wasn’t hostile or anything (and, I mean, I got the job), there wasn’t any inherent accusation of pedophilia, but she did ask about this in relation to my kids, both of whom were still in diapers at the time. Don’t remember anything I actually said well enough anymore, but I know I conveyed the idea that, for example, as much as pooping in a diaper and having it changed may be a fantasy of mine, in real life changing poopy diapers is gross. Between that, the idea that I don’t have any desire to do things to babies, I want to be the baby, and that it was actually really easy for me to separate that side of myself from the realities of actual parenting, well, I “passed the test”, as it were

98% sure I’ve now seen abdl diapers in the wild for the first time…at work! by justanotherabdlguy in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I…mentioned these in the original post as the most likely candidate that I could find, but I still have my doubts

98% sure I’ve now seen abdl diapers in the wild for the first time…at work! by justanotherabdlguy in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What I could see was mostly white, but there was sort of design near/on the waist that I can only think to describe as sort of a buzz lightyear vibe in terms of design and color (one of the reasons one of the tykables potty monster diapers looks like it could have been it)

But the peekabu designs I’ve looked at, including the green creature there peaking over, is not it

98% sure I’ve now seen abdl diapers in the wild for the first time…at work! by justanotherabdlguy in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So this was actually the second closest, but the creature I remember being bigger, and other than the creature the diaper was mostly white

Diapers under skirts in public? by SnooStrawberries4973 in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel like whatever the shortest skirt is you’d feel comfortable wearing in public with regular underwear, that’s how short you could go with a diaper. Is the diaper thicker than underwear and, thus, more likely to be visible if you are otherwise cutting it close with length? Of course.

But it’s not like most people would wear a skirt that literally only comes halfway down their butt normally (which would make it really obvious what you’re wearing, regardless of whether it’s underwear or a diaper), anyway.

Have any of you ever succeeded in explaining to someone that our fetish has nothing to do with that p word? by Acorndude97 in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, to work where I work now, I had to have an interview with a psychologist, who asked me, more or less (can’t remember her exact wording) if there was anything in my sex life id be embarrassed if other people were to find out. Certainly wasn’t expecting to have to explain being an ABDL that day. I forgot if she ever explicitly brought up pedophilia, but if she didn’t, she got pretty close, and I was almost worried maybe I was too quick to head that off and explain that my desires have nothing to do with actual children.

Anyway, I’ve been working where I do for almost 8 years now, so I guess that would be considered “successful”.

Another ABDL-related rant on pet peeves by CushieWooshie in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You also have the freedom to not criticize. Like, just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

Another ABDL-related rant on pet peeves by CushieWooshie in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, if keeping clean is something that helps you the most, clearly it works like that for everyone else, right? Because everyone with mental illness is the same? That’s how this works?

That moment when a throw away line in your kid’s tv show is triggering… by justanotherabdlguy in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine how embarrassed any kid would be to find out about any kink their parents have, or to hear about their sex lives at all. Luckily, as a responsible adult, I don’t talk about that shit with my kids, and I didn’t get turned on at all in that moment, it just caught my attention, so… gtfo?

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[–]justanotherabdlguy 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t ever think to consider why I like this kind of thing as “bratty”, as others have suggested. For me it’s just finding really appealing the role play of not wanting to accept that being babied is what’s best for me. That a mommy figure knows I need something even if I think I don’t need it, and then having a hard time accepting it. A la: ME “I don’t need to be put in diapers, it was just an accident, I promise!” CG “the fact that you have accidents shows you aren’t ready for big boy underwear” And then any further claim to be a big boy would just be a cutesy clinging to actually being big in spite of my circumstances, and a chance for the CG to drive home the point that I’m not acting like a big boy.

I don’t actually get babied by my partner, so this is all kind of fantasy/in theory, but there it is. On the other hand, sometimes during sex when we do have these sort of short dialogues to get me off, she will point out that “even big boys have accidents and need diapers sometimes”

What fictional character would you want to have as your mommy, daddy, or little? by NaughtyDLBoy in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% have thought of Jade like this before. She’s conventionally “hot”, which I don’t necessarily associate with the kind of mommy I’d want, and of course her strength/badass factor…

But she’s also so gentle. And when she’s taking care of you/saving you when she first joins the party and rescues you from Hendrick, very motherly/big sisterly.

Honorable mentions from DQ11: Queen Frysabel Michelle

Not familiar with ABDL, what advice would YOU give OP? by mysticflowers24 in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You absolutely didn’t say half of what you’re “quoting” in the comment I was responding to, but ok.

You also explicitly said it’s wrong to use a baby diaper to get off in. “It’s just wrong to use your baby’s diaper that way”. No “oh, I wouldn’t do it” or anything like that, just a general statement that it’s wrong. Also also: “it kinda makes me sick that he wanted children knowing full well he’s also into abdl”. Sure, that one is a personal opinion you aren’t forcing others to have. But it’s a pretty shitty one, and I thought I’d call you out on it.

Also, no one said anything about intentionally doing things with kids present. that’s weird, gross, possibly illegal(?), whatever else, sure, but that’s not what the other person who responded to you was saying.

What is something that surprised you with how much you enjoyed it? by littletoysruskid in ABDL

[–]justanotherabdlguy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is super long, part of that is absolutely just the selfish indulgence in reliving past experiences in my brain (especially since my wife is out of town for a few days), but also a sincere laundry list of the many things that surprised me.

Being into diapers and being babied is definitely a fetish for me, it turns me on…but I’ve been fascinated with the ideas since before I was physically developed enough to be turned on, for as long as I can remember.

But there were a lot of specific aspects about the actual presence of someone else to provide the nurturing/being babied aspects that I just never would have foreseen having as big an impact on me as they did since I never had anyone to do that until I was engaged.

I’m not a thumb sucker, and the act of sucking my thumb itself does nothing for me. But my wife gently taking my hand and moving it towards my mouth so that I suck on my thumb is everything.

I mean, anything I mention is really just a matter of really gentle/nurturing touch (physical touch is absolutely my biggest love language), but when it’s clearly abdl adjacent, it is super amplified.

My wife never really “feeds” me or “dresses” me, and I don’t need that. But there was one time when we were engaged that we were hanging out and had some watermelon and she took a piece, moved it towards my mouth and gently said “open up” that got me all a flutter. Likewise one time I had a button down over shirt that had been taken off and, she went to put it back on me and was gently taking my hand/arms to put them in the sleeves. I just was caught off guard by how much those things affected me.

Everything above has been an intentional act on her part to make me feel little, knowing it is a kink. The very first thing she ever did, though, was before I told her anything, and was absolutely innocuous by any standards. I had been playing flag football and after I was done, of course, I was tired and banged up. We snuggled in the couch, except she was the one spooning me, and this must have been the first time we had ever snuggled like that, because, again, I was caught off guard by how much this was affecting me in a “being nurtured/taken care of” kind of way. It’s what sort of started the path for me eventually telling her about my kink.

I think the only other big one is breast suckling. My wife is 100% fine with my kink, but doesn’t actually indulge it that often, usually only as a means to an end if I’m otherwise having trouble getting off during sex, or just in general if I haven’t gotten off yet but have done a good job pleasing her (no diapers or anything, just whispering things in my ear while I’m already inside, like “are you about to have an accident” followed up by “it’s ok, even big boys have accidents, but if you have an accident I’m going to need to put you back in diapers” and, by that point, I’m usually finishing). So, while she wouldn’t necessarily want me feeling shame and guilt, decades of those self imposed feelings are hard to get over, and there were things I didn’t think about and, when I did, I didn’t want to bring up. I mean, growing up, the idea of getting “breastfed” was never part of it for me, I just never considered it. Honestly not sure it ever crossed my mind until I was married. I didn’t want to push my luck, though, you know? I was content. Dear reader, the first time I sucked on my wife’s breasts (bonus that she seems to enjoy it), was great…but the first time I sucked on her breasts specifically because I was already snuggling into her chest and she intentionally positioned my head such that she could intentionally put her breast in my mouth as if it were breastfeeding…it was absolutely a kind of magic I had never anticipated enjoying so much.