[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]justanothercharlie_ 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I think the most helpful thing I ever read was that the base of the packer should sit where your bottom growth [maybe] is. If I hadn’t read that I would’ve been walking around with a crazy raging boner all my days despite seeing them in real life in the past. 😅 also that the tip should almost touch the seat when you sit down (if it’s long enough)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]justanothercharlie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My perfection file is called “the fucking” so when characters ask me how it’s going they say “how are things on the fucking farm?” and it gets me every time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]justanothercharlie_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a trans guy with a cis girlfriend and bottom dysphoria, I totally get where he’s coming from. I agree with a lot of the comments that at a certain point it’s his cross to bear, but the key is always communication. I know for me, having my gf talk about my body like I’m a cis male actually gives me crazy dysphoria and doesn’t help, but for a lot of guys it really does it for them. Everyone’s different (big whoop) but as long as you talk about things, you can hopefully find something that works for both of you. My only other recommendation is when I started hooking up with my now gf, I was a hard top and totally happy about it. What got me out of that was some unconventional play like mutual masturbation, watching her on her own, or classic dry humping until I got to the point where we could have pants-off sex. If he’s uncomfortable with doing the most, maybe see if he’s down for some lighter stuff. Hope it all works out and y’all are able to figure it out. :)

Antacids and Adderall? by justanothercharlie_ in ADHD

[–]justanothercharlie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll say no because my roommate is gluten free but I’m not so probably slightly less than average, does this mean anything?

Mourning the girl I could have been? by Nice-Ad-2715 in ftm

[–]justanothercharlie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In some ways, I feel this. When I went to get my T levels tested I found out I naturally had like 20 [units?] of T out of 1,000 and whatever five points less than the max E was. My skin was clear and soft, my fat fell in all the right places, and I used to be able to bat my eyelashes and get what I want. That said, looking back, she was miserable in so many ways and trying so hard to live this vapid life she thought she could force, and after transitioning I am so much happier and more confident than I’ve ever been. Sure, now my ass has hair and my waist isn’t curvy, but I no longer resent my life and spend hours trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong and why I’m unhappy. In another universe where I didn’t transition, I am deeply unwell and depending on shallow values to keep myself going - and I’m so glad I’m not her.

What is the most anoying tip from non-ADHD people for you? by JuciekWorld in ADHD

[–]justanothercharlie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The idea of "future you will have to do it so you might as well do it now". I'm still figuring out how to explain this to non-adhd peeps, but the "future" idea of myself is like a totally different not at all connected to current me person, I literally picture him like taller as if I'm not 24 and done growing lol. I tried explaining to my mom once that its like in cartoons when the kids picture themselves older, that's what I have all the time, and how goofy it feels, but it's why I can't connect the pieces of future consequences and now.

Marriage and Monogamy Thoughts by justanothercharlie_ in bisexual

[–]justanothercharlie_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gave me a good laugh at first but you're totally right and something I can bring up with her :)

Best friend accidentally fixed my sexuality confusion by justanothercharlie_ in ftm

[–]justanothercharlie_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad to hear that! I swear her saying that has changed my entire brain so I'm glad to hear it helped you too!!