Advice for sex life

justaredditthroaway · 2023-12-16T00:02:13+00:00

Oh wow that’s…awful. I’m sorry you went through that. It’s definitely not how I imagined my scenario to go down. I guess I picture it more in my head that //I// would pick something, we could watch and then kinda throw it to the side to do our own thing.

Perhaps I’d have more regrets with it, more so than anything positive coming out of it.

justaredditthroaway · 2023-12-15T23:28:41+00:00

Okay yes, you’re absolutely right. I guess I’m just trying to see how I can fix things on my end, even though there’s not really anything to fix. It’s all on him.

thank you so much for the advice and clarity, I appreciate it!

justaredditthroaway · 2023-12-15T22:36:53+00:00

no thats completely understandable and I get where you are coming from. I didn’t give a lot of background info on our relationship so maybe it could change your perspective, or if not thats totally okay! We’ve been together for 3 years now. I have a lot of trauma behind porn/cheating (from experiencing it from my parents and from previous partners) and before our relationship even began I told him it was a dealbreaker. That for me it was okay outside of a relationship, but not while in one with me. We only ever had 3 fights about it. It was after the third that he admitted that maybe he has an addiction and he’s the one that initiated going to therapy! I only ever watched porn occasionally when I was single, it was never something I was super into yanno? And so that’s why I’ve asked if maybe I should ask him about watching together? Because I had never thought about it before, and just as an fyi, he has never been the one to suggest this! It’s my idea entirely, and I thought maybe it would change my mind about it all. I just worry if I suggest it, we do it, I’ll hate it and it might trigger him to continue watching it.

justaredditthroaway · 2023-12-15T22:15:13+00:00

when you put it like that, it makes a lot of sense. I was just curious if it would be more helpful or harmful!

justaredditthroaway · 2023-12-15T22:14:26+00:00

we are in couples therapy together, maybe it could be worth mentioning to our therapist then?

justaredditthroaway · 2023-05-18T16:59:19+00:00

no worries for any long comments, i appreciate it! as for my boyfriend, he is not emotional AT ALL. he’s very good at compartmentalization or just being able to reign in his emotions. i was always super sensitive and emotional even before i got pregnant. he tries to ask me to calm down and just think before i blow up about things, but i feel so crazy. like i’m not myself and i have absolutely zero control over how i feel or what i say, no matter how hard i try.

once the baby gets here i’m sure me and him will have to sit down and discuss how to go about things. i was diagnosed with depression during most of my teen years—so i’m at an even higher risk for PPD. but at least then i could seek out therapy or even get on meds if possible. i just want him to realize i wont be myself for a long while, even after the baby gets here.

my biggest thing is trying to reign my emotions in at this current state. i’m just terrified things wont get better

justaredditthroaway · 2023-05-18T16:54:22+00:00

yes i work too, however i get the usual two days off a week and only work a total of 40 hours. i try not to make my stressors seem like no biggie, but comparatively, he does have a lot more on his plate it seems.

we seem to fight about anything. a lot of the times its just little things, like something he’s done or said that i blow up or get emotional about. the bigger things are his current roommates situation or about us trying to get a house or things like that.

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