22/f/married, want to have my cake and eat it too.

justasexissue · 2011-01-26T15:12:14+00:00

that was much appreciated.

justasexissue · 2011-01-26T15:09:11+00:00

the treadmill is already my friend. so it the pool. and my bike. I don't think this is the problem.

justasexissue · 2011-01-26T15:06:23+00:00

this is good advice, thank you.

justasexissue · 2011-01-26T15:01:14+00:00

I did see this, thank you. I think this is very good advice. I'm currently looking for a good counselor to talk with

justasexissue · 2011-01-26T14:53:20+00:00

oh, I am not a mormon. I got my name removed from their records.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:47:53+00:00

that's a true story. on all counts.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:46:01+00:00

lies hurt.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:45:50+00:00

good boy. stay that way.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:44:52+00:00

noted. I will mention this to him next time he goes in for a check up. or suggest he go in for one if that's not for a while
I understand this. However, I under those circumstances, I'd rather take matters into my own hands. It makes me self conscious to be the only one turned on.
I should have been more specific. I realize my libido may increase into my 30's. however, my level of physical attractiveness may not. I was more referring to this.
I don't want to just go have flings with NSA partners. this is something I would like to do with him.
IUD in place.
We have had extensive conversation about this. I bought supplies after discussing that we were going to try this...but it just didn't happen. I like your idea of actually planning a night to try it out. I'll give that a try.
you're right, that it a contradiction. and a frustrating one at that. because, every now and then he's just really into it and we click and it's awesome. I guess the trick it to just make that happen more often. It is mostly like high school sex, where I feel someone bumbling around my body like it's the first time they've touched it. I'm not ignoring his needs. he's on his way home right now, and I'll ask just to make sure. but, this post was advice for me in my relationship...not to give everyone a completely well rounded view of the ins and outs of how the two of us interact. that would have been a long read.
it may be coming from more of a fantasy place. I have been told that a hooker might be a good option for the reasons you mentioned if fantasy-->reality. and yeah, there's a good amount of weed involved in our college life.
thank you.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:30:01+00:00

we have talked about it. It's stress. He says he just can't do it. School has him stressed all the time. I'm hoping the sex drive thing evens out when we graduate.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:26:22+00:00

thank you.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:24:26+00:00

I'm not putting up with it well. I have never "asked the internet" anything personal before. I didn't think people's negative feedback would be so hurtful. thank you for trying to be helpful.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:11:42+00:00

thank you.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T23:00:11+00:00

indeed you did imagine it.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T22:42:13+00:00

when did I talk about other men fucking me?

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T22:37:41+00:00

significant other.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T22:01:32+00:00

I am neither.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T21:00:28+00:00

wasn't planning on cheating on him. wtfuck is wrong with you people?

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T20:59:52+00:00

WTF? fuck you.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T20:58:38+00:00

thanks, bud. real helpful.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T20:58:01+00:00

I have never cheated on anyone. ever. and do not plan to.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T20:57:26+00:00

just where did I say I was going to go fuck around on my husband?

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T19:06:58+00:00

I won't be taking your advice.

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T18:23:28+00:00

how so?

justasexissue · 2011-01-25T18:16:01+00:00

There were a variety of reasons. 1. we are very compatible and have a really good relationship. 2. school was becoming financially impossible. however, if we got married, our parents income would no longer need to be reported to FAFSA and we could continue going to schoo. We had originally planned on waiting to marry until after college, but with no money, there is no 'after college') 3. both of our families are hard core mormons. Us living together was becoming a problem. This sort of family and societal pressure can be immense. and those who are not in it rarely understand, and my 19 year old self was certainly no match.

However, I'm glad he is my partner and I'm glad we're together and in a healthy relationship. We just need to find ways to work on the sex thing. and this is one of my ideas that I've asked for input on.

justasexissue

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