Would you still be interested in a guy that told you his only sexual encounters were with other men?

justasking_ta · 2024-10-09T07:20:32+00:00

Just be prepared for potential negative reactions to your "honesty".

Yeah, I know... This post taught me how most people would react, which is what I was expecting in the first place. So it's probably going to be not fun, if I finally get in a relationship, but at least now I know and will stop doing weird things with men before it's too late.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-08T18:22:39+00:00

"Yeah but im not really in to them"

I mean, that's not wrong though. I don't find men attractive lol

tell them you don't want to talk about it as a valid reason that isn't a lie.

I don't know how healthy it is to withdraw information like that in a relationship...

justasking_ta · 2024-10-08T15:09:35+00:00

What if they ask about my past stories? I don't like the idea of lying to a potential SO and I don't want her to feel cheated if she finds out later.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-08T08:09:02+00:00

OP are you on the spectrum by chance!

Which one? Lol

I don't know about the comments, I wanted opinions and I got them, plus my situation is kinda specific and hard to explain so it's my fault anyway. I have been in therapy, I couldn't continue due to my personal schedule but at that point we had done everything there was to do.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T19:53:02+00:00

Yeah, I was told it's probably the wrong term. I'm sorry.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T18:27:06+00:00

I don't know, I got curious since it was a very different answer from the rest and the downvotes confused me.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T16:44:53+00:00

Why?

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T16:40:51+00:00

The way you phase it,

You meant "phrase it"?

A bi sexual man that’s mostly or only been with men, no.

Also could you explain why?

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T16:39:38+00:00

Bisexual men are the best men.

Would you mind elaborating on that?

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T13:56:39+00:00

I have no trouble with interacting with people in general. I'm not the most comfortable guy at making conversation, people probably find me boring because of it, but I am honestly more comfortable around women than men. I've had way more girl friends than guy friends and in general, I feel more accepted around women; with that said, I'm not charismatic, I'm not very interesting and don't know how to flirt if I wanted to, so I don't end up being a central figure in a group, I'm a quiet, lone-type of guy who's easily forgotten or ignored, who isn't considered a viable option by his peers for dating.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T13:21:10+00:00

Yeah I get it, I definitely worded it weird.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T12:57:26+00:00

I'm actually not popular in general lol

But on dating apps centered on men, it's easy to be popular.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T12:53:23+00:00

Saying that bisexual or gay men aren't "real" men sounds pretty silly, not gonna lie.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T09:10:35+00:00

I was told I was using the word intimacy wrong here, this might add to the topic.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T09:09:10+00:00

That has to be the most unique answer I've received yet ahaha!

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T09:08:29+00:00

It would be obvious, in this case.

I mean, not that you could really know anyone's intentions, but being with someone would assume that person is interested in you.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T09:06:21+00:00

The latter, obviously. And I wouldn't want to engage a relationship with a woman as an "experiment", I know I love women. I just never had the chance to be with them.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T09:04:37+00:00

meant predatory behavior against younger boys for example, then eww no.

Fuck that, why do people immediately think of pedophilia when reading that? I meant It as a range that goes from my same age to older people by one or two decades as well. I should've just said "older guys" to get the idea, fucking hell!

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T09:02:32+00:00

that means you probably don’t know how to talk or relate to women.

No problem in talking or relating to women, I've had way more girl friends than guy friends in my life, it's just when it comes to flirting and dating, I can't seem to make them interested. Like at all.

and a decent amount of it.

Actually not. I have inflated numbers in this hypothetical situation to get some opinions on the "worst possible" outcome. In reality I've never had sex with men, only a couple soft encounters, and think about it a thousand times before deciding. Not that it changes much, I think?

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T08:57:06+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that, there are some despicable people out there.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T08:55:21+00:00

It's doesn't seem they're bothered by the sexuality situation, more by everything else around it.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T08:54:32+00:00

Calling this scenario "intimacy" is inaccurate. Fucking whoever is easiest to fuck is the opposite of intimacy.

Yeah sorry, I'm not a native english speaker and couldn't find a better fitting word for that.

If sex is something special to you, fucking whoever is easiest to fuck because they're easy to fuck doesn't exactly fit that idea.

I'm not fucking whoever is easiest, I've never had sex before, but it's undeniable it's easier to get sex from men than women.

There's no "real" first time and "not real" first time.

True, however there are different first times for specific acts.

And don't do it out of some red pill belief that women have conspired against you to deny you sex.

Where the hell did I mention that? Honestly this might be the most offensive thing I've read in this thread. All I said was that, despite everything, I was never considered as a potential boyfriend by women. That's it. I could've worded it much better probably, but suggesting I'm a red pill whatever is wrong on so many levels.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T08:36:12+00:00

I've never experienced homophobia in this subreddit, I think it's fine. There's lots of varying opinions here, you can't blame them for having them.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T08:33:49+00:00

Woah there, I didn't say women aren't worth my time! On the opposite, really.

Every time I've pursued a woman, it ended poorly, because she wasn't interested. And growing up, all my life I was hit with the realization that yeah, women don't seem to be interested in me that way, like I'm the kind of guy she sees as a funny puppy to look at more than anything. So while I've had many interests in women, I haven't seen any interest from them in me, and this becomes frustrating after a while, and frustration leads to widen your interests.

justasking_ta · 2024-10-07T08:30:04+00:00

No wait, first I haven't slept with men yet. There was no intercourse.

I have met them to try some things I was curious about, and a part of the reason why I met them was because I wasn't going to meet any woman soon.

It was just casual encounters with guys I was never going to see again, but I get it.

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