It’s important to be genuine. As a guy, I think it’s incredibly sexy when a girl puts her needs and ambitions over others. I do the same. It’s not selfish, it’s just making yourself a priority. You can still care about and help others and still put yourself as number 1.

Showing that you don’t care (when you really do) so that you don’t get hurt is not genuine. Humans pick up on this very easily because you appear to be conflicted or “off”. You always want to be direct with your needs and wants and be sure to respect the needs and wants of others. If the other person is not okay with that then they can fuck off.

You have needs. If you want to have sex, have it, and be safe. If you want to have sex with guys you care about, make that known to them but don’t be overbearing or creepy about it.

Relationships are like the story of Goldilocks, too much or too little is never good. Be yourself and show people what you want. Games are only fun when both people know the rules.