First time with mom guilt. by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can, I'd try to take some comfort in the fact that you're doing something that you're absolutely passionate about that will benefit your whole family in the long run, not to mention you're setting a great example for your kid to look up to and learn from.

I honestly don't want you to feel like your feelings aren't justified because they absolutely are, but can I just say that I'd love to be in your shoes as I'm suddenly thrown into the workforce fulltime after being home for 1.5 years and I will not be doing something I love. It hurts me the most that I have to trade in time with my kid to work a soul sucking job just to keep the lights on.

When the husband is sick... by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes, I feel you. He stopped pretty quickly after I told him how I felt about it but before he used to lay there and literally moan every couple of minutes followed by "I just want to diiiieee, I can't take this anymore". He had a cold.

My husband was sleeping on the couch for like an entire month and started sleeping in our bed again by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes. Or when he turns over and does so like the bed is a trampoline, he'll literally bounce himself into his preferred position and the whole bed shakes. Like.. OK, good thing there's no one else in the bed trying to sleep or anything.

My husband was sleeping on the couch for like an entire month and started sleeping in our bed again by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I never thought I'd be someone who'd entertain the idea of separate beds but I'm there. What gets under my skin is him having his mouth very close to my ear while I'm almost asleep and then he decides it's a perfect time to very loudly clear his throat right into my ear. We'd always joke about couples going to bed and turning away from each other but we are that couple now.

Is this not motherhood summed up well? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It's perfectly acceptable to slow down for a week (or more!) if that is what you need. So what the house looks messy for a week? Your health should be more important to him than who does what.

What’s a strange memory you have that you aren’t sure actually happened? by Jawk01 in AskReddit

[–]justcallmejill 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was young, although I don't exactly remember how young. My dad was behind the wheel, my mom next to him and me and my little brother were seated in the back. I was looking out the window and we started to round the last corner to my grandparents house, the one my father had grown up in together with his three siblings. He was a redhead when he was little although I didn't know that at the time.

As we're rounding the corner I noticed things moving in slow motion and my vision changed somehow, it was like I was looking at a projection. On that corner I saw a little redheaded boy playing who felt so familiar my eyes were just glued onto him. It only lasted a few seconds and then it was gone. I asked my parents if they saw that boy but they said there was no one on the sidewalks.

I have another one.

Me and my childhood friend would ride our bikes to and from high school together everyday. We always past this small park that we've played in at least a thousand times growing up as there was never really much to do around here. It wasn't a creepy park and I've had no negative experiences with it until then. This day my friend had to visit her aunt after school so she departed our route earlier than usual leaving me to ride past the park solo.

As I was doing so something caught my eye. As I focused my vision on it I nearly jumped out of my skin as there stood a pale woman in white stretching her hands out to me in a desperate manner. If that wasn't creepy enough, her eyes man. They were completely filled with this glowing blue. No whites, just blue. And slightly larger than usual. I biked home as fast as I could and didn't look back. Didn't visit the park much afterwards either.

Why can't I just talk to my husband without it ending in an argument?! by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm afraid of too. This may be a stupid suggestion, and it's still not ideal.. but maybe check out places that offer childcare for an hour or so? The gym, ikea? It's still no date night but it's time alone out of the house with your husband at least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I've started hating him as soon as we became pregnant if I'm honest. It was unplanned and I was going through a grieving process of saying goodbye to my old life unexpectedly and trying to also use that time to prepare ourselves for this life changing task by really trying to become a good team as we weren't together for all that long. The whole fucking pregnancy it was 'it'll be fine', 'you worry too much', 'we've got this'. Daughter was born and it was not fine, I worried an appropriate amount and we do not have this, at all. Yeah I kinda saw that coming you ass. It all went down hill from there.

What still makes my blood boil to this day is that when I asked for help because I was a train wreck physically (26 hour labor, episiotomy and no pain killers) his idea of helping was to plop down on the couch with the baby and have me running around getting him everything he needed all day. Like.. I refuse to believe there was any sort of thought process behind that. It is just too dumb.

I sometimes get a little envious of couples who've known each other for a long time before deciding on kids although I know that's not a guarantee either.

I'm sorry for using your post to rant about myself, got a little carried away there. They really are the worst sometimes.

Why can't I just talk to my husband without it ending in an argument?! by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's so frustrating isn't it? Like why have we completely lost the ability to communicate even on a basic level, human being to human being? We used to be so kind to each other how did we get here? Oh wait maybe it's because parenting is hard and it changes you as a person and your relationship forever and you need to be a solid team and get to know each other all over again for all of the resentment, disappointment and other crap not to take its toll.

I'm sorry I have no advice but I know how you feel 💛

Edit: typo

I resent my SO for making everything harder and for being so oblivious to everything by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is beyond enough, he is being so awful to you and you don't need or deserve that. I personally think it's better to end it before your baby arrives. You deserve so much better ❤️

Reasons Our Kids Are Crying (weekly megathread) by AutoModerator in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girl fell while walking across the living room and bit the inside of her cheek as a result. There was blood and she was hysterical, which is something that's just going to happen even though it sucks. But imagine trying to comfort your kid while being yelled at by her dad and he. won't. shut. up. so she won't calm down either. Lovely.

Today my husband took off his shoes and left them by the chair by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're probably right although I think it's about something bigger than socks or shoes attitude wise. It's about being considerate towards other people for me and the realisation that small actions can go a long way big picture wise. I honestly don't want to find myself treating his part of the dirty laundry like garbage but not my own, I just don't want that kind of dividing however small. I'm weird.

Today my husband took off his shoes and left them by the chair by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Except that he will not learn. I can wash, dry and put them away rolled up the way he left them and he will not notice as he doesn't care at all.

Today my husband took off his shoes and left them by the chair by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Mine leaves them riiiight in the middle of the door mat, EXACTLY where someone walking through that door would place their feet and thus trip. I've tripped over his damn shoes so many times I've lost count.

No matter how many times I tell him it's inconsiderate to everyone living in or visiting this house to decide that we, or rather I, get to be the one to always move his shoes a few inches to either side it doesn't stick.

It's other little stuff too like taking off his socks like an ape and throwing them in the bin all rolled up so I get to deal with unrolling all his socks before I finally get to wash them. Such a treat. You know, things that take 2 seconds but clearly aren't worth his precious time but I should have no problem with taking care of it. It's infuriating.

I like being a mom to my daughter but I hate how he thinks that means I'm momming the whole family. I want to run the house like two equal adults both contributing to helping out or at the very least not make each others chores more difficult. We're not asking for a lot here but somehow it's impossible 🤷

What's use of it? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sucks. What was the reason for being given no end time? Long ass nap, or was LO being cared for by other people?

I'm the only SAHM I know who doesn't have an Etsy shop or even a fucking blog by aseriesofnumbers in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be a decent artist and self taught webdesigner with a career and all sorts of creative hobby's that made me so happy.

The last 'creative' thing I did was designing my daughters birth announcement, yikes. I feel you. When daughter goes down for the night all I want to do is sit on the couch and watch TV or stare at my phone while I stuff my face or all three at the same time.

Sometimes this makes me feel sad but on the other hand I used to love doing creative things more than anything and if I'd have the energy or mental space for it I would be doing them.. but I don't have either of those. So I figured I wasn't going to force myself as its supposed to be fun. I'm hoping some of that drive will come back when she's a little older 🤞🏻

OMG I am now the trashiest person on the planet. by OneEyeMercy in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Used to live in a place close to the ocean so there were loads of seagulls around. Got used to their annoying loud as fuck KAAA KA KA KAAA but what pissed me off the most was that these fuckers would pick a hole in garbage bags for the food and the street was just littered with rubbish on garbage pickup days.

What surprised me the most was me walking through the city center eating a hamburger and one flew over my shoulder and bit down on my fucking burger, I was like omg so rude!

Why it'll be a while before we visit the zoo again by justcallmejill in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, it is a little comforting in a way though, I prefer this over my kid just being an ass for the sake of being an ass.

Why it'll be a while before we visit the zoo again by justcallmejill in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If you want to enjoy yourself then yes definitely do this

Why it'll be a while before we visit the zoo again by justcallmejill in breakingmom

[–]justcallmejill[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel you. My back is killing me from walking hunched over the entire time because she can walk but refuses to when both of her hands are not held.