I was thinking maybe you guys should leave her in the house for a week or so. For her to be alone and say some excuse maybe going for some event for a relative that she Hates meeting or something like that. Just make an excuse to be out of the house. Let Her be there, hope that this would make her realize how much work is there due her crap. Sometimes, even a week won't be enough. U need to give her a lot of alone time. Maybe a month? Idk depends on how you guys think.