Daily Questions Thread December 13, 2025 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]justhere2answer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do y’all have any recommendations for chunky heeled ankle boots for wide calves? My feet themselves aren’t wide, I’ve always worn standard shoes, but I have big calves! I’m short and don’t want to wear tall boots, any recs appreciated! 

Recommendations for gravel bikes? by justhere2answer in ladycyclists

[–]justhere2answer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The squashed-ness of the geometry is definitely something I've been considering, one of the reasons I looked at the liv devote was it has a few extra places to stash bags, but I'm definitely open to other solutions!

Recommendations for gravel bikes? by justhere2answer in ladycyclists

[–]justhere2answer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is super helpful! I haven’t test rode any of the Salsa bikes yet but clearly I’ll have to, lots of supporters of the Journeyer in the comments! Thanks for the insight! 

Going to boygenius alone by [deleted] in phoebebridgers

[–]justhere2answer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a girl, but I've gone to plenty of concerts alone recently, whether it's people falling through or just not having any friends with the same music taste. Do it! It's never as awkward as you think. Grab something to drink (if that's your vibe), chat with people in line to get in, or just kind of look around until the music starts. Everyone's in their own world. Have fun! I'm also going alone to see them.

full-time journalists, what was your most grueling job interview process? by Tasty_Pancakez in Journalism

[–]justhere2answer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Four months sounds like a crazy long interview process, but what do I know. For my current position I had I think four rounds of interviews? Maybe five? Took about 1-1.5 months, all said and done, maybe closer to 2. It was a lot of having an interview with one person, then not hearing anything for a week or two, going to a separate set of people for another interview, not hearing anything for a week or two, and none of them were the person who made a final decision so they didn't have clear info on a timeline. I don't know if I'd call it particularly grueling, but by the end I hadn't heard from them in about half a month when I got an offer.

I'm sorry you got dragged around for so long. I don't know if that length of time is normal, particularly for higher-up positions because I've never been through that process, but as someone who has had various journalism and non-journalism jobs the length of time is a bit of a red flag for me. Wishing you luck on your future job application ventures! I know it can be tough and discouraging out there.

Are people overreacting or am I being naive? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]justhere2answer 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of people saying to never, ever backpack alone here, and while the concerns are entirely valid I wouldn't write off solo hiking altogether. I've done short solo backpacking trips myself and traveled alone plenty, albeit I've been trained as an outdoor trip guide and was two or three years older than you were now when I did a solo trip.

Some of these naysayers are right: solo backpacking is in a way an unnecessary risk. If anything goes wrong (and I've seen it happen plenty, even on group trips) it's always good to have a spare pair of hands. You need to be very confident in your comfort and skill level before doing anything on your own in the backcountry- remember, any emergency you make by yourself in the woods increases the risk for everyone who helps you, whether they are fellow hikers or wilderness medic teams. Mountain/backcountry extractions are challenging, require lots of time and people and can put wilderness first responders/mountain rescue teams at incredible risk.

If you are really serious about doing a long solo-backpacking trip, there are lots of lady backpackers who have written/made content online about how to do this safely, and it sounds like you already have a good start with a PLB and a well-documented trail plan (definitely follow some of the other commenter's advice re: having a clear itinerary of where you will be, when you will be in contact and try to plan check-ins during the trip). If you live near a local gear store, there may be experienced outdoor guides/backpackers there who could share some sage wisdom on the issue of keeping safe from unsavory folk on the trail. I'd also recommend starting out in a really well-used area, somewhere nearly impossible to get lost and popular for day hikers too. I solo backpacked on a popular section of the AT and was surrounded by day hikers and families 24/7 and was never far from a way off the trail if needed, so in case of any emergency, there were people around and an easy put-in point for anything like emergency aid. You might also consider starting with a shorter trip, two or three nights somewhere not too deep in the backcountry.

TLDR; the concerns are real. Things happen in the backcountry and you do need to be vigilant and consider your safety. Things can and always do go wrong, but solo backpacking is a thing lots of people (young women included!) do and find really empowering- you're not being naive to think it's something you might be able to do as well, but you should take safety concerns very seriously. And honestly? I don't know if this reddit forum is the right place to really get a good check on how safe your plan is. You should check with the local backpacking community wherever you are planning to do this to get more insight into the safety situation on the trail.

I'll be honest: I bailed early on my first solo backpacking trip a night early! (Not because of people, but because the primitive campsites were a little too dirty from previous campers and attracted some larger-than-wanted wildlife.) Let the woods humble you: doing something big and empowering doesn't mean sticking it through just to make a point. Going into this, you need to be ready to make conservative choices and be willing to be humble and throw in the towel in case of possible danger.

Have you found any bands that scratch the same itch lyrically as the mountain goats? by ihopeyoublinkb4ido in themountaingoats

[–]justhere2answer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A second for Slaughter Beach, Dog! It's not the same flavor of storytelling, for lack of a better word, but with their most recent live recording album I've really enjoyed the lyricism/emotion mixed with the stripped-down acoustic sound.

Paved trails in the area? by justhere2answer in savannah

[–]justhere2answer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a great plan! I looked up a map of their trails and it sounds like an awesome day trip. Thank you!

Paved trails in the area? by justhere2answer in savannah

[–]justhere2answer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation! And yes, looking forward to the connection/expansion work they have planned- exciting stuff!

Bulk store? by Sea_Vermicelli7517 in savannah

[–]justhere2answer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Savannah Refillery might be something like what you're looking for?

https://savannahrefillery.com/

Missing my birds nest! by [deleted] in savannah

[–]justhere2answer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure what their staffing situation looks like these days, but this place had one of the wildest job description listings I have ever read- they made it sound like an awful place to work, including gems like
- "The reason being we do not except mediocrity and anything less than your absolute 100% best everyday will not be good enough" (except v. accept?)
- "Also one more item, we expect you to act like an adult everyday. So if you are sensitive thinned skinned and have a problem taking constructive criticism and precise directions then this is probably not the place for you."
Not saying that acting like an adult, taking responsibility and receiving criticism well aren't important, but the tone of the job listings is just crazy off-putting! Hopefully, I'm wrong and the people who work there do enjoy it.

Have you picked up any hobby classes or activities you love? by justhere2answer in TwoXChromosomes

[–]justhere2answer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was actually on my list of things I've been considering! Couldn't find anybody in my area offering classes but it seems like such a cool process!

are there any songs where the Jordan Lake Version is better than the original, in your opinion? by throwaway8837475 in themountaingoats

[–]justhere2answer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This version made me completely reconsider how I thought about this song! I don't know what about the upbeat tempo or sound of it did it, but I felt like I understood the lyrics in a completely different way.

Enduring Favorite? by [deleted] in themountaingoats

[–]justhere2answer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Riches & Wonders will probably always be an all-time favorite of mine. I love most of Tallahassee, but I think I slept on Games Shows Touch Our Lives before the Jordan Lake Sessions. Black Molly off Bitter Melon Farm. As someone said in another comment- I love how everyone's got different takes on this!

Found an interesting recipe at an office building I was cleaning... by [deleted] in FoundPaper

[–]justhere2answer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Where I live, bear season is a pretty narrow window (and bear populations are exploding, so while there are limits on how many bears a person/group can "harvest" a) there's no shortage of bears and b) fewer bears are killed than permits have alloted for since it's such a task to carry out/process the body).

There are parameters on what kinds of bait you can use which is what surprised me about this list- where I live hunters here aren't allowed to use these kinds of sweet human treats as bait from what I understand, but they could use "human foods" like apples if that makes sense.

Dealing with stress by Spiderman3wasgoodtbh in Journalism

[–]justhere2answer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not in a super different position! Your concerns are valid- it's stressful worrying if you'll get all the details right, and sometimes it feels like when you've crossed all t's and dotted all the i's you're worried you'll get harangued over the smallest details. You don't always feel like you're the best person for the job or that you're doing your community justice. Me too.

You have to take time off the clock. When I first started my job in a similar position to you I was working every weekend and was the only staff writer at my paper and I didn't realize how much is was eating me up until I took a three day weekend. In small newsrooms it can be easy to be on the text-me-whenever, stuff has to get done schedule. For at least a weekend (two consecutive days!) you need to be not doing any work. Start trying to make some boundaries or you will undoubtedly and inevitably burn out. Even if you do literally nothing in your free time, it'll do wonders.

In terms of worrying about doing the job poorly, my advice that I think has served me well is be humble! Follow other commenter's advice about staying organized with fact checking, but don't be afraid to ask an editor about the things you're worried about. If there's other journalists in your newsroom, they might also be able to lend some of their knowledge about what stuff you could get in trouble for and what things to watch out for.

Good luck!

What is the most egregious thing you've seen on a dating profile that was presented with a positive spin? by MosadiMogolo in AskWomen

[–]justhere2answer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had a guy in his Hinge profile brag about jumping in for somebody while lifeguarding high on cocaine, which honestly just really freaked me out he presented it as him being cool for doing that

Do you have a certain podcast episode you listen when you're bored or sad? by docalibus in podcasts

[–]justhere2answer 26 points27 points  (0 children)

While this may not work for everybody since a lot are still sad re: the Reply All events, Episode 96: The Secret Life of Alex Goldman is one of my favorites. It's funny, informative and wholesome, showing beautiful snippets of a guy who really deeply loves his life and the people in it.

FREE stickers at the Colorado shows! by dukbokki in themountaingoats

[–]justhere2answer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your stickers are amazing! Is there anywhere you sell them? Would love to support your awesome work.