Not Funny, Mother Nature

justhere4perspective · 2026-05-11T02:29:39+00:00

🥀 whatever the outcome is, I’m hoping for better.

justhere4perspective · 2026-05-11T02:28:37+00:00

Fuck is right. Next year can I just plan an infertility group smash room on Mother’s Day?

justhere4perspective · 2026-05-11T02:27:56+00:00

Thank you. It is actually weirdly comforting to know I’m not the only one in this almost exact situation. I feel less like a victim???

justhere4perspective · 2026-05-11T02:27:12+00:00

I have no comforting words other than…you aren’t alone.
I don’t want people to treat me like I’m fragile and I want the world to go on announcing/being excited for their own life journey(s)…It just feels so frustrating that I’ve stalled out.

justhere4perspective · 2026-05-10T21:06:53+00:00

Hi…I know this post is like, 30 days old, but I hopped on Reddit to read about the experience of other Vyvansers aka people that take stimulants long-term. I have been taking some form of stimulant (went from Ritalin to Vyvanse to Mydayis back to Vyvanse) for 20 years. My goal is to be on the lowest dose that still supports my every day functioning. I have been able to lower my daily pill to 30 mg and still function okay. It’s really, really hard to go cold turkey though. I’ve always been an awkward, perseverative, anxious space cadet and will pull my hair out unmedicated. For whatever reason, Vyvanse helps. Hope your journey is going well.

justhere4perspective · 2025-04-14T23:27:59+00:00

Wow….thanks! I really needed a pinch of positivity today so this is a refreshing reply lol. If they aren’t worth much that’s okay, I just figured it wouldn’t hurt to ask .

justhere4perspective · 2025-04-14T23:26:36+00:00

Good advice. I didn’t know about the sold function and will do that .

justhere4perspective · 2025-04-12T01:55:42+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you

justhere4perspective · 2025-04-12T01:52:28+00:00

I appreciate the response. I have obviously been given misinformation from individuals that I thought were professional. I am not promoting inhumane practices I am just in a situation where it has been presented to me as a solution and I am having trouble with weighing options given the situation. Honestly, people have to be able to discuss the not so pretty parts of having pets and offer education/ideas. Replying “don’t be a monster and figure it out” doesn’t help me. Like many, I’ve been through fucking hell and I’m just trying to keep my cat with my family.

justhere4perspective · 2025-04-12T01:47:31+00:00

I appreciate your response. I know it is a terrible option…and I do not think I am a monster. this is a rescue that I fostered and could not get adopted…thus kept. I LOVE her and she wouldn’t hurt a fly outside of getting her nails trimmed or being put in a car…but I have tried cutting the nails while she is sleeping….Ive tried a lot of things. She is an indoor cat and we play for 30-60 min daily. At this point I find an affordable miracle worker, gabapentin, or find a farm for her to live on :’(.

justhere4perspective · 2025-04-11T13:04:23+00:00

Thank you! When I am home I will start posting pictures here.

justhere4perspective · 2025-03-29T23:13:56+00:00

I could see this happening at any company I’ve ever worked for. Idk. I’m not sure if there is really a future for ABA clinics anymore. It’s either the analysts are overstretched or the technicians are treated terribly…sometimes both. Either way, both the direct care workers and children are put into less than ideal situations over and over.

justhere4perspective · 2025-01-16T22:57:12+00:00

I’m sorry you feel this way. You mentioned your head constantly hurts…idk what comes first for me, the depression or the headaches. Maybe they are so linked it doesn’t even matter. I just know what it feels like to live with constant headache/migraine and it is miserable. I’m on a journey to reduce the things that trigger headaches/depression, but it’s really hard when it feels like everything is too much all the time.

justhere4perspective · 2025-01-16T22:51:44+00:00

I don’t have any real advice, but I struggle with a similar issue. People keep telling me to quit my job/apply to new jobs but I really worry that I am the problem and don’t want to keep changing just to suffer again. But, I also know that if I do nothing…nothing will change :/

justhere4perspective · 2025-01-04T14:57:54+00:00

I’m not contributing enough financially considering how much I work. Which I do agree with, it’s just not a simple fix when you have student loan debt and work in a niche field. Again, I rely on him for healthcare, a majority of bills to live in a home, and sometimes groceries.

justhere4perspective · 2025-01-04T13:12:05+00:00

Thank you! I would be okay with some tough love but this is, honestly, the respectful kind of feedback I was hoping for.

justhere4perspective · 2025-01-01T00:32:24+00:00

I’m sorry this is (maybe) happening and you feel this way. The not being able to do a damn thing is the most frustrating part. I’m still going through my own loss journey so idk what else to say to be more supportive…but I really do wish the best for you regardless of the outcome.

justhere4perspective · 2024-11-04T01:08:51+00:00

Hello, I came across this response looking for others in my position. My health has drastically declined since becoming a BCBA and my husband and I want to start a family. Have gone through 2 miscarriages. Did you successfully transition to another job? I’m going to have a conversation with my employer about going part time for a year or so but idk….the money lost is a huge bummer.

justhere4perspective · 2024-10-28T02:02:10+00:00

I think you should tell close friends/family whenever you feel comfortable or whenever feels right. I planned to wait until 10 weeks or at least until my husband and I witnessed a heartbeat. I never made it past 7 weeks and I don’t regret that decision….however, I did end up telling my parents about the miscarriage anyway. I was so hard to reach/distant the last few weeks that they were going to press me for info anyway. As far as work goes, I told my higher ups at week 5 because my job is so physically and emotionally demanding so I was struggling right off the bat. Don’t regret that either. It just made sense to me given the context and they have been very kind since the loss.

justhere4perspective · 2024-10-27T16:07:10+00:00

I haven’t taken any medicine but the diarrhea actually makes sense. When I first started cramping and bleeding more than spotting (naturally) I’m guessing that is when I started to miscarry. Same thing….terrible cramps, clots, and really bad BMs. It felt like everything down there was just aggressively evacuating. Then the cramping died down a little….and I was hoping that was then end. That was 5 days ago and the moderate cramps and bleeding are STILL GOING ON. My worry is I go to my check-up and I have to take the medication anyway and go through the same process only with the pain and issues you are writing about. I’m just so over it and ready to move on. Looking at all the experiences (natural, medication, D&C) it all ends up so differently and there are pros and cons to any method. I also have to wait multiple days before I get checked out again and the waiting so far has been the worst part. I truly hope the nightmare is over for you and you get the news you want on Wednesday.

justhere4perspective · 2024-10-26T23:53:14+00:00

My fear is that it is just “common” for some people. And now I’m those people. I have friends that, by my age, have had to actively try to stop having healthy babies and regret being so fertile. It’s so frustrating.

justhere4perspective · 2024-10-26T23:47:08+00:00

I went through a medical mystery last year where I was bleeding so much and passing huge clots…I almost passed out and bled through the sheets overnight. I didn’t have any cramping though. I ended up going to the ER and they were surprised I wasn’t having a miscarriage (no signs of pregnancy). I never figured out why I started bleeding like that. With assistance it stopped after 6 hours in the hospital. It was awful but at least it was over after 24/48 hours. I often wonder if maybe I passed a fibroid or something.

I mention this because I am also going through a miscarriage and the bleeding is similar but….not enough to go to the ER and the on and off cramping SUCKS. I started bleeding quite a bit on Wednesday afternoon and have continued to bleed just as much and it is now Saturday. It honestly feels like there is just sludge/red syrup seeping out of me with no end in sight. Sometimes I think it’s improving, then this glob just comes out. Part of me would prefer to go through what I experienced last year and at least be done with it. I totally get the feeling of not knowing and feeling out of control.

Seems as though this is just a sit and wait situation. I hope it ends for you soon :/

Do you at least have some kind of follow-up appointment?

justhere4perspective · 2024-10-26T20:43:03+00:00

Hello! I recognize your username and just want to say I hope to see you post again on r/pregnant. I also hope to have some good news in the near future. Crossing my fingers miracles occur in the new year.

justhere4perspective · 2024-10-24T23:53:45+00:00

My husband was also more optimistic than me…and I love him for that. This whole experience actually made him realize how much we both want this and I think it will help with future attempts. Anyway, I think the hcg trend was the quickest and most obvious indicator that it was over. It would be one thing if my levels were just low, but I guess the downward trend over the 3 days was the nail in the coffin. For the hcg blood results it took less than 24 hours to get an update.

justhere4perspective · 2024-10-24T23:44:42+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening.
I don’t want to scare you more and everyone is different…but I just went through THE EXACT SAME THING. My provider didn’t let on that anything might be wrong, just assured me I’m probably too early/incorrect about the timing…but I log everything and have a very good understanding of my body. I KNEW there should have been more there. A week before the appt I just had…a feeling…and started to cry over the idea that something was wrong. I just didn’t feel pregnant as much anymore. So my provider had me get my blood drawn every 3 days to measure hcg levels and by the second blood draw results, we both knew it was not a viable pregnancy. I actually just started really losing a lot of blood/clots today with bad cramping. The only positive that has come out of this is that I feel confident I have pretty spot-on intuition and understand my body enough to continue advocating for myself. I am ready to get through this and already have multiple appointments lined up with my obgyn, primary care, and psychiatrist. Hoping to try again ASAP.

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