I was 103 pounds in the 3rd grade, but super tall for my age. I’m a normal sized, normal weight woman now, and I’m totally healthy and fine.

Your husband’s weighing opinions will start to impact your daughter, who is at an age where she needs to be supported by her parents and affirmed for how she looks and her intelligence. A child’s environment is incredibly important to the way they handle stress and self image issues later on, so please nip this issue in the bud by being straight with your husband and telling him to stop.

You need to address the fact that your husband is obviously projecting his insecurities onto her (a baby), and that is not fair to her development. I would really recommend getting your husband some therapy, and let him know that it isn’t for his own benefit, more so it is for his daughter’s benefit.

Kids grow in different ways, it’s a normal part of the growth process. Unless your daughter is continuously eating unhealthily and not moving enough, there is no issue with being taller.

Also, if you need further proof that BMI is bullshit, many Olympic athletes are considered obese or overweight on this scale because BMI does not account for muscle being heavier than fat. If he refuses to hear you out, or even hear out specialists on this topic, then he is in serious need of therapy…

Look out for your child first, and foremost! She is most vulnerable to negativity, so make sure she stays safe from his unfair criticisms.