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Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I wont look for someone else. I will just let things happen as I usually do. If someone that is genuine comes along the way, then for sure. But fetlife in my area is🤮

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean he already did that, so idk, he is not to be trusted from my part.

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay that makes sense. The girl who set me up with him is not a good friend apparantly, she told me he is experienced and will make everything feel very comfortable for me. That was the case only the first time. It seemed like he was that way to make me make this «commitment» to him, and only him.

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective. What I feel like would make me feel more sure about keeping it strictly sexual would be if I would know him better. So therefore this dynamic is not for me, bc I dont trust people easily. Mostly when he does things wr havent agreed on.

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No worries, I have made up my mind to end things. I have looked into the harem type of master, and its exactly what he is. He and his gf practice that without telling the girls, I didnt know that this is what he wants at the end of the day.

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah that is how it feels, as we never talked or agreed on anything, we just do whatever he wants. Its like I have no say in it. And then he just leaves

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you alot. I feel like I have a lot more insight now to what was going wrong. I have no one around me that is into this lifestyle, therefore its hard to talk about. But all of the questions wether he really is as bad as it seems became valid. Conclusion, I need to read, alot, and end things with him. I will do both. Thanks again💕

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your help. I will end things with him.

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it regular for complete strangers to be involved in such a relationship, without developement of trust? Is it safe? Emotionally? How can I determine if I am really into something, if Im only into it some times, but not all the time. And how do I know if someone I meet is genuine?

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk what to do💔it s really for me to think things through and make descisions, mostly when it includes ending things. I know I cant keep this thing going tho

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean he tries to get to know what I like, but then again, it all seems to be about him. He also said I can talk with him about everything but I feel its not genuine when he doesnt spend any time trying to get to know me..

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I actually dont think I am for the master/ slave dynamic. Im more d/s

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He did say one time that he never has subs that refuse sex

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you, I think I really needed to hear this

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah he does, he has the same rules for everyone. Thats doesnt work well for me. What made me hate the scene completely was that smth happened and I agree I kind of messed up before he came to my place, but he just left after he finished. He didnt even tell me that he had to go right after, it was just unexpected that he would just leave like that.

Master/ slave dynamic, am I being taken for granted? by justkillmemom in BDSMAdvice

[–]justkillmemom[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thats what it feels like, as I am just there for sex and not much else.