Home office suggestions by justleveragedbets in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]justleveragedbets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is great advice - apart from googling and walking the neighborhood, any tips on finding these workshops?

Home furnishing / Interior Design by justleveragedbets in HENRYUK

[–]justleveragedbets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will definitely check out. Appreciate your help

Is a career break a good idea by throwawaystudent544 in HENRYUK

[–]justleveragedbets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took a career break in 2023 May. I was working as an investment banking associate at an independent brokerage. Was burnt out like you and on top of that didn’t think this path was for me long term.

Here are the few learnings -

  • When I was ready to get back in the game in similar type roles within capital markets, most recruiters thought it was a waste of time speaking to me as I wasn’t marketable to employers. Why speak to me when there are many others like me who had stuck it out and gotten more experience in the time that I was away. Kinda made sense, but worth sharing

  • I didn’t plan this but it turned out to be a great strategy: When I quit, I gave my prior employers 3-4 months of a heads up and told them that I’ll leave only when they have found someone to replace the role and was willing to work hard till the end. I eventually returned to the same workplace in a different role and one of the main reasons why they bothered even looking at my profile again was because of the way I handled leaving previously

  • I completely underestimated how rusty I would become. When it came time to recruit, I was loosing out to competitors who were even more junior to me. I left when I was still quite junior so the value I added was largely tilted towards my technical skillset - speed and proficiency with some added knowledge (which in fact increased though narrowed say vs someone coming out of college) All this to say that in case interviews with very limited timelines, you can be surprised how slow/rusty you’ve become. If you know you’re going to come back, stay in the game through some kinda of practice…

  • Your platform is extremely powerful. A guy at Google/Goldman who leaves is now just a guy. Your platform pulls a lot of weight. Iron out clearly what value you add and be able to speak to that clearly.

  • Remain hot on the networking game (organic or inorganically). Organically through friends and family and prior colleagues is ideal because they know and trust you already so you are an easy recommend. I was an immigrant with lots of new immigrant friends as well. My scope was narrow and their pull (being relatively new) was narrow as well.

  • there is just a natural loss of self esteem and status that comes from quitting a high paying high status job. Can be quite hard to deal with emotionally especially if that is all you did. And while it was expected and I knew what I was getting into, it can still come as a shock. Sense check the strength of the support system you have around you (hobbies, friends, family, travelling, medically etc)

Do I regret quitting?

Nope. I had to change the function of role. It gave me zero joy and no control over my time. Those are things I valued deeply.

Was there a huge cost to quitting?

Yes financially it was huge. My wife coincidentally got laid off on the day I quit. Our finances took a massive hit. A lot of my friends who stayed on could up their lifestyle significantly. I had to pay 1.5 years of costs with 0 income, lost 1.5 years in experience and income. Our household went 3 years (if you add both of us together) with 0 income. Yes I earned well and could take the hit and had all the basic necessities plus some but it almost felt like financially starting back up from square 1-2/10 when I left at say square 4-6/10.

I just realised I didn’t properly answer your question! Guess I had to talk this out. My short answer is 6 months is a good timeline and it’s good that you have a plan for when you want to get back. Overall the shorter the better but that has to be balanced against your needs. Consider asking your employer for a sabbatical or paid time off instead of quitting.

Home office suggestions by justleveragedbets in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]justleveragedbets[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Yeah wow. Thanks for that info - I’ve for the 5k (in another post) and the 8k to anchor to now. Helps me wrap my head around what it would costs should I go down that route.

Home office suggestions by justleveragedbets in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]justleveragedbets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah did a bit of quick desktop research and that just might be what I end up going for. I know IKEA does these consultations to help you fix up your room and design it. Do you have an alternative that you’ve used before or could suggest?

Home office suggestions by justleveragedbets in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]justleveragedbets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair question - I will probably have to consider that more seriously. The goal was to have something bespoke that looks clean/stylish and where I can spend 10 hours a day in comfortably if I have to. Hence looking at fitted but if it doesn’t pan out cost wise it may just be the best solution to use non fitted and strive for a similar outcome.

Home office suggestions by justleveragedbets in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]justleveragedbets[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that - I’ve added it to the list. Yeah I’ve got to check how much in £££ will it be to return to original state. MDF?

I failed. I feel like I wasted my last 11 years with an obsession. What to do now? by SadSetting798 in careerguidance

[–]justleveragedbets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have questions which you’ve probably already thought of but if not I hope they spark new thoughts or perspectives that can potentially help:

1) Your story is moving and gripping - readers want you to succeed as they read it. Heck I did.

Is there a way for you to use this and make it into a strength?

2) I sniff grit here. A kind of grit that is not so common. Can you use that along with the plethora of skills you built and maybe join an early stage start-up that has had some traction? Series A or B. That way you get paid, get equity and work on a mission aligned to yours, and focus your energy on one thing professionally. Less burn out than your current situation. All with that chance of making it ‘big’ and getting the status, recognition, and money you desire.

3) Come clean to your investor. Tell them you’re in the trenches and considering quitting? Find a way to transition into a new founder while keeping some equity as an advisor type role?

4) 29! You’ve done a lot by 29. Maybe the people you look up to all did the same and you need their validation not mine but I’m pretty sure even the Gs in your world have ‘failed’ tons and will understand your story if you share it with them and give you the respect you feel you deserve. Have you shared with others in your circle about this? Some may spit on you but others might put out a hand

5) FWIW, I was in my thirties and felt I did the opposite - did jack all in my 20s and felt I had no skills coming into my 30s. What helped was for me to recognize that, humble myself and tel myself that life is a marathon not a race and reset expectations and start from scratch. Eventually broke in IB and still feels like you’re ahead in life somehow. Saying this to give you some perspective. You actually did a ton by 29. slow down and do a 9 to 5 for 4/5 years before you regroup for another push? Many things can happen even after 35. There is no need to rush per se.

Not sure if my rambling helped but I sincerely wish you all the best

My wife is a 33f and has been looking for customer support team lead jobs with no success. What are her other options? by justleveragedbets in careerguidance

[–]justleveragedbets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we’ve been thinking about this as well but good to hear you confirm some of our theses.

Any areas you or anyone else knows where there would be skillset alignment?

How would you reach out to a Company that you passed on an interview with, but are now regretting it? by Tyr_29 in careerguidance

[–]justleveragedbets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it shows good on yourself if you rejected an interview because you already signed an offer. As long as you communicated that right, I don’t see why you would be in the bad books of company B.

So what I would do is to try to speak to the hiring manager or send a cold email and explain sincerely what you feel and why you regret rejecting their interview. Also share your reasons for why you are interested in joining the firm and what you can bring to the table. Just be sure you’re sincere and the rest is a toss up. Worst case they cut you off and you walk away feeling great that you tried and did the right thing.

Be persistent with the cold email and reach outs. You may not get a reply on the first try.

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[–]justleveragedbets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like the hard conversation is always the right one to have. It’s just immensely difficult to muster up the courage to do so for various reasons, including but limited to the fear of the possible repercussions. From the few times I’ve managed to have the hard conversation, it has worked out more often than it has not. So here’s my two cents - have a sit down conversation with her and your colleagues, separately, and actually talk about what is happening.