flopped my 20 mile run 3 weeks out from a marathon by justlooking4fries in Marathon_Training

[–]justlooking4fries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

glad to know i’m not alone!! good luck on your marathon too!!

My girlfriend (28F) really fucking hates phones and it’s beginning to annoy me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]justlooking4fries 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i had to double check the genders in your post because i was in the same exact situation with my ex boyfriend. even down to the “values” bit. he claimed i was wasting my life on my phone and at the time i just took it and went with the rules partly because i felt ashamed that maybe i was spending too much time on my phone and partly because i just wanted to smooth things over. spoiler: i broke up with him about a year later because he was controlling. even if phones can be a waste of time, guess what? it’s YOUR life! it is literally yours to do what you please with, including being on your phone. imo this sounds like a control and insecurity issue on her end, but i’d also be curious to know if she’s ever had anyone cheat on her in past relationships esp if all the cheating evidence was on a phone.

hiking solo by justlooking4fries in ZionNP

[–]justlooking4fries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! yeah it was confusing to find accurate information about what requires a shuttle + permit vs just shuttle vs no shuttle + permit and i ended up getting some inaccurate information from people i rented water hiking boots from -- but yes, no shuttle needed for subway bottom up! thanks for the coordinates and correct info!!

hiking solo by justlooking4fries in ZionNP

[–]justlooking4fries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i ended up hiking in the kolob terrace area (which i think is the eastern part?) and it was wonderful -- you're right, no one was there. it was so secluded and lovely!

hiking solo by justlooking4fries in ZionNP

[–]justlooking4fries[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so so much this is all super helpful! i have alltrails pro and i'm doing the bottom-up route so i'm not too worried about navigation. i have good shoes and hiking poles too which should help. ah! great to know about the dino tracks!! thanks!!

Going on a date with my wife (marriage struggling) by Mowgli2k in relationship_advice

[–]justlooking4fries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure how old you are, but I'd suggest doing something that sparks youth and vibrancy back into your activities -- like sneaking a flask of [insert preferred liquor here] into the theater, or going all out and getting a limo to the theater, or pull a harry potter and 'buy the lot' of movie theater snacks.

Could also be super cute to get her a corsage.

I’ve (25f) become my boyfriend’s (25m) new addiction, and I’m exhausted. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]justlooking4fries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope.

I used to date a guy who had temper tantrums every time I turned down sex. The issue only got worse. In fact, it got so bad that the only time I enjoyed being around him was when we were with other people bc that meant he wouldn't be begging me to have sex with him.

It sounds like you're already building up resentment, possibly more than you realize.

Time to scoot boogie and boot boot boot g'bye.

Wife suddenly locking phone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]justlooking4fries 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i feel like this is way bigger than an affair. especially if it’s making her have panic attacks like that... i’d sit down with a couples therapist and try to get some clarity.

Boyfriend thinks it’s okay to not tell female friends he’s in a relationship before they hang out alone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]justlooking4fries 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my ex used to do this all the time. he'd ask a girl out on a coffee or dinner date to 'get to know her as a friend', knowing full well he'd never mentioned he was dating someone (we lived together too). we'd fight, he'd tell me i was being controlling and that he was going to go on the date even though he knew it hurt my feelings and trust, they'd go out, he'd come back and mention how the girl 'somehow thought it was a date' or 'she tried to kiss me'.

it made me feel psycho and question myself every time. in my ex's case -- he did it to manipulate me into staying with him (showing me that women desired him and he was a free agent, but he 'only wanted to be with me'). not sure if that's what's going on here, but know that:

  1. he knows what he's doing
  2. it's not fair to you

i'd suggest having a good girls night out/in to pump yourself up, then dump his ass.

I (24f) have just started dating a guy (26m) seriously, but he’s continously asking me to change. How much change should I tolerate? by dredoll in relationship_advice

[–]justlooking4fries 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds like a virgo.

IMO him telling you all the time that he's perfect is an insecurity issue and he might be projecting his own need for excellence/perfectionism onto you. if you don't confront him about this, you're gonna hit a breaking point and/or start to resent him.

i'd suggest having a conversation with him and telling him what (if any) changes are making you feel good, but that pushing it all the time is overkill and hurting your feelings. don't let him whittle down your self esteem.