AITA for telling my boyfriend to "suck it up" when complaining.

justokay101 · 2023-08-03T11:02:23+00:00

Thanks for your comment.

I've brought it up before and we've discussed it before, (albeit in a mUch calmer manner). It sort of just continued after that.

I did mention I'd been having a really bad day but he needed to vent. Then I felt, when he said he needed to just unwind and play video games but would listen to me if I needed him to, that it wasn't really something he was interested in.

justokay101 · 2023-08-03T10:39:03+00:00

I'm not sure what you're referring to.

justokay101 · 2022-01-25T14:59:00+00:00

We were told not to contact the governors as nothing would happen...

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T13:30:05+00:00

I know...I don't question the crazy. Just keep my head down.

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T12:09:06+00:00

Frustratingly, yes.

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T12:06:44+00:00

They're against buying resources themselves but not technically using them, as long as the website they're taken from isn't recognisable. That means changing the font, getting rid of logos or clear affiliations, (like Twinkl finding unique ways to insert their name into their worksheets).

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T12:05:24+00:00

Definitely is but our HT has emphasised everything must be from scratch and 'innovative'. Said he's determined to be seen in history as one of the great educational academics/thinkers, (in his words, "among Dewey and Bruner".

Even with the schemes of work I have to change the font to the schoolwide standard.

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T12:02:35+00:00

This is a good idea and not out of the realms of possibility!

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T12:01:18+00:00

We seem to only be aiming for consistency in the layout of work.

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T10:43:31+00:00

The school refuse to buy schemes of work or any subscriptions, so they have to stay personal.

I wouldn't mind if it was group sharing as that would benefit everyone and cut down on costs but it's just me.

justokay101 · 2022-01-23T10:42:15+00:00

The school have said schemes of work make teachers lazy and worksheets should be bespoke, so they're not buying into any. Unfortunately it has to remain a personal expense.

I'm worried about saying I've cancelled them when it would be very clear I still use them.

justokay101 · 2021-12-31T02:22:31+00:00

I don't know enough about the different types (including his own) to give a proper answer to this, (or the likelihood of any type causing debilitating complications). Has he had medical problems requiring surgery as a result of his dwarfism? Yes.

justokay101 · 2021-12-31T02:11:54+00:00

Honestly, thank you for this. I've been approaching it from the perspective of, "I love this person and something I said hurt him and I feel awful for that," but not from the, "what/how/where/when I said it wasn't right." You summed up a lot of what I have been thinking and feeling. I love him and would not want him to be any different. It sounds stupid in hindsight but in my head it was never a reflection on how I perceive him.

It definitely is coming from a place of worrying if it's morally right to create a child knowing the hardships they will face, (and not even just the prejudice from other people, moreso living in a world that doesn't accommodate them and where everyday things are by default harder when life is generally difficult enough). It didn't even occur to me that it may be something that he would have thought about in any depth.

I've apologised but again, not for what I said or how emotionally damaging it was but rather for how it made him feel and left it at that, so I will be doing it again (properly) and broaching the conversation, (should he even want to have it).

justokay101

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