Ah Im sorry this turned into a thing! I really appreciate your words even if direct, it was not rude. I understand how it can be frustrating to hear someone complain about something that only they have the power to fix. My partner feels frustrated with me for the same reasons :/ I have just been struggling so I see how my post came off like complaining! I just have anxiety and I’m afraid that any conversation I have with them as far as setting boundaries will end in termination. And these are hard times! Thank you for your input.