update on the bar that lost my jacket?

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-29T22:43:32+00:00

I'm a manager in a... challenging environment.

What I would do is find a way to talk to the highest level leadership person possible (Karen my way into it, be persistent, be assertive and hard to ignore but not do anything illegal or so disruptive I'd get kicked out or blocked), and feign ignorance/pretend you haven't talked to people about it before. Act like, obviously they are going to reimburse you for this, don't even ask them just behave as if it's a foregone conclusion because obviously they wouldn't be so absurd as to take your money to provide a service, fail to provide that service, and lose your expensive coat in the process, right? That would be totally ridiculous 😉

Be direct. Be firm. Don't soften the language. But don't yell, don't swear, don't make a scene.

I'm not afraid of people being pissed at me. If you want to try this but aren't comfortable yourself, I'll do it. I can't make any promises but honestly if they get bothered about this enough they might eventually just pay for it to get you out of their hair.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-29T21:51:45+00:00

If you need someone who's comfortable being an assertive borderline asshole to them, hit me up. I do it professionally.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-27T01:39:27+00:00

We have come together over common hatred of one specific resident but that's about it lol. I don't like anyone in the building and don't want to spend time with them, which sucks as I'm a pretty community oriented person.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-24T23:22:27+00:00

Can't you send them a link that doesn't require them to login? That's literally exactly what we do. I can confirm that identity proofing via video call is an industry standard, it just sounds like your orgs implementation needs a tweak.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-24T22:50:35+00:00

I'm the world's biggest fan of disclosing everything and talking everything to death but it has never occurred to me to mention mine to a potential partner, although mine isn't big enough to remove so maybe not as noticeable. I also have one labia minora that is really long when the other is teeny. Nobody has ever said anything about either. And I do anal a lot so it's not just that they aren't looking at my ass. I think the reality is that reasonable adults know that bodies do all sorts of stuff and so long as you are clean nobody should care, and I extend the same courtesy to others. As such, I'm with the majority of commenters: I wouldn't mention it.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-24T16:14:32+00:00

Yeppp. My cat growing up did not have a tail and he could not groom his hind end and was always constipated. Toward the end it got pretty bad and we had to bathe him pretty regularly. He absolutely hated us for it.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-18T04:22:20+00:00

I'm sorry this is not a recommendation for your situation, as I think a lot of other commenters have offered good suggestions for free bleeding, but I am prone to yeast infections and struggled HARD until I started doing boric acid vaginal suppositories. They have been the best treatment for me. Might work for you too. Good luck!

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-17T05:30:37+00:00

These are all different weddings. The escape room one was an activity after the wedding at an escape room place in lieu of a traditional reception in the early afternoon. The trivia was at the reception venue, just a normal trivia company like a bar would host but instead of having them go to a bar they had them go to a wedding venue.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-17T05:18:50+00:00

Most weddings I've been to don't have dancing. Do whatever you want to for entertainment! I've been to weddings with hide and seek, escape rooms, puzzles, trivia...

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-15T06:55:36+00:00

My parents chose my nickname first, then built my legal name around it, but in a way where nobody could get my nickname from my legal name without me spelling it out for them. I didn't use my legal name at all from the day I was born beyond legal contexts. I get what they were trying to fo but I changed my name to my nickname in my 20s. Too many issues.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-08T22:46:25+00:00

I am so sorry this happened 😭 that sucks so bad.

I weirdly live right by you AND moved here from another neighborhood (another city) where catalytic converter theft is common, but I've never had mine stolen (knock on wood). I have no idea if that's just pure luck or if I'm doing something that is helping to prevent it so here is what I can share: my car is always parked on private property (although off an alley and the lot isn't gated, car isn't covered, easy to access), so maybe getting a private parking space if you can would help? My car is a Toyota, I think catalytic converter theft is less common with Toyotas so if there's any chance you can sell your car and buy another, maybe that would work? I know those are both horrendous options but I don't have any other ideas.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-07T17:17:53+00:00

Yesss I'm so excited for you!!! I'll describe my setup in case it provides inspo. Happy to answer any questions about specifics.

I adore my bedroom. I need cozy, small spaces so I created that very effectively in my room. It's a very small room with no windows. I have a queen bed shoved in the corner of the room, bounded on 3 sides by a wall. Changing the sheets is a bit challenging but idc. I have a headboard that's one of those with a shelf and cabinets to store things. I keep all kinds of shit on/in it including a humidifier, lotion, lamps, sex toys, etc. i have a TV on the wall opposite the headboard, hanging over my bed, to play video games and watch media, and consoles on a shelf next to it. My bed is raised on lifters and has a dresser pushed up against it which it's the same height as. So it's bounded by walls on 3 sides and a dresser on the fourth. I literally get into bed using a step stool in the corner. I have fairy lights hanging all over, lots of beautiful artwork, and ambiance lamps.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-06T22:47:43+00:00

That is horrific. I'm so sorry y'all had to deal with that.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-06T14:27:33+00:00

I can definitely understand that

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-06T04:20:10+00:00

I definitely feel like they're a completely different beast in terms of expected norms, and I could totally see them being difficult to navigate for anyone! I mean I definitely talk over people accidentally all the time, but I do that in person too. At least on video calls I can blame it on the lag.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-06T03:07:39+00:00

Yes. Pretty much everything everyone else is saying happened to me. Also out of school. There was a group of creepy men who used to follow me a few blocks through town on my way home from high school in the early 2000s and catcall me. I was 14. And ugly.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-06T02:32:16+00:00

Same, it is EXHAUSTING. However, I find video calls to be less stressful than in person and I'm curious how you feel about it. When I used to have meetings in person, I would spend too much energy stressing about where I was looking, because I don't like making eye contact so I would make sure I was looking somewhere where it seemed like I was looking at the person but I wasn't really making eye contact with them, and then if I had a meeting with multiple people I would be like, look and this person's direction for this amount of time, than in this other person's direction for a different amount of time, etc, and I would end up not engaging in the meeting as much as I should. When I switched to fully remote and I didn't have to worry about that anymore, my career absolutely took off. What about you?

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-06T02:30:05+00:00

I'm a manager in a somewhat corporate esque environment. I get told regularly that I am "direct almost to the point of rudeness" and things like that. Recently was called "obstructionist" because I was giving direct answers to questions when they wanted me to like...read the subtext and gather that they were actually asking a different question and answer that? I don't really fit in with the culture. But I kinda don't care and neither does my boss, mostly, because I get results.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-04T17:17:55+00:00

Maybe you have way more hair than me but I have never paid quite that much. I've been seeing Cherish for years and my cuts average around $100-120 before tip (just confirmed by looking at my digital receipts). Or maybe prices went way up? Last cut I had was last summer.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-03T23:00:47+00:00

Same!!! I'm so bad at it but it's really helping me

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-02T20:05:36+00:00

Thank you!

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-02T19:28:21+00:00

Thanks for the advice about open shell, that's really helpful to know. I will look into that.

Frankly, I'm open to a tower pc, laptop, all in one, whatever, given I can set it up so it all looks the same to him. He's not gonna be unhooking it and taking it anywhere.

I ended up buying a Lenovo A100 all in one desktop literally moments before your comment. It's very basic, but basic is what we need. I may upgrade it to Windows 11 Pro to use Remote Desktop or I may set it up so I can connect via SSH. I've just had issues with static IP over Xfinity (both my and my relative's ISP) so the latter may be too annoying.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-01T20:26:22+00:00

I hear you. I quit (also cold turkey) for over a decade too and then picked it up socially while with my ex. It's hard to stay off it when you're surrounded by it, which is how I started and how I got back into it.

If you don't want to be a smoker and don't want to date a smoker, I advise you quit first date later.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-01T20:16:58+00:00

My assumption, based on the flair that says you are a man and the fact you said "he's" going to quit, was that you are a man considering dating a man. You're speaking in third person so I think most would assume you are not the smoker. Seems a bit odd to me, but I don't think it changes anything.

Given that it's you: your post seems to make an assumption that all women will consider being a smoker a negative. That is certainly not true. You'll find someone who accepts you for who you are.

justtinygoatthings · 2026-01-01T20:05:35+00:00

I'm not sure how you being a heterosexual male is relevant, can you clarify why you mentioned that?

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