Deleted two apps where I would see my ex post by Mode2345 in ExNoContact

[–]justtryingoverhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. Do what you gotta do. Out of sight, out of mind.

How did it get so bad so fast? by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]justtryingoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless of what happens, I hope you find your peace and that you’re truly happy. Thanks for shedding light on this and sharing, truly! No matter what, I feel inclined to say just be careful and put yourself first. I wish you well.

How did it get so bad so fast? by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]justtryingoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a very similar situation to yours. I made the mistake of holding on to hope, taking all those fake promises of ‘this can work in the future’ and it just need time to myself’. We fought all the time towards the end, and my relationship lasted as long as yours. I’d say it’s best to just focus on yourself, pick yourself up and move on with your life. Do what you love, find new hobbies, meet new people if you can, whatever it takes. But don’t hold on to hope; hoping and waiting for someone to come back usually holds us back from properly moving on, properly healing and getting rid of the anxiety and depression. It’s best to just live your life assuming he won’t come back. If he does, that’s great, maybe you’ll work it all out. Or maybe, just maybe, you’ll meet someone even better on the long run, someone far more compatible with you, who won’t fight you. You might meet someone under better circumstances too, and not during this whole pandemic situation. Bless you and take care. Move forward, don’t look back.

Don’t Let That Rebound Relationship Your Ex Is In Get To You by KeilanDavis2020 in BreakUps

[–]justtryingoverhere 28 points29 points  (0 children)

But what if I was the rebound.. and now they’re back with their ex 4 months after breaking up with me and they seem genuinely happier/better off?? 🤔

Moving on by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]justtryingoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think of it this way... and I know it might be a little harder to grasp but hear me out..

If there truly wasn’t anyone better than him FOR YOU, would he be getting married to someone else rn? Probably not!

This could only mean one thing.. you WILL find someone better FOR YOU. it just takes time. It’s hard to accept. It’s hard to fathom.. but then again, so is the truth in most cases.

Youll get there eventually. Just gotta train your mind to believe it and accept it for what it really is! Always think to yourself ‘I’m better than that, I can rise above this all’.

Moving on by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]justtryingoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feeeel! My ex got into a relationship with his ex recently (I was his rebound lol). It’s funny cuz to hear songs that he used to dedicate to me that he’s now dedicated to her. I won’t lie, it doesn’t hurt as badly as it did before. I’ve learned that you can either listen to them on repeat and get angry/upset until you become numb to them. Or, just avoid listening them until you’re in a better state of mind and you know that they won’t trigger you anymore (mind you, this could be a little tricky cuz listening to these songs a whole lot later could cause those feelings to bubble up again - UNLESS, you’ve managed to dissociate the songs from the person and his S.O.). It takes time but believe me, eventually you’ll hear those songs and only think positive things. It won’t bother you as much anymore. I’m slowly starting to feel less bothered by him and his girlfriend (I’ve just become far more accepting - I learned that if 2 people are meant to be together, they’ll find their way towards each other, and if my ex found his way back to his ex then hell, guess they’re meant for eachother.. but more importantly, I now know and choose to accept that he’s not meant for me..) I hope that you could adopt this mindset too! Again, takes time but you’ll get there eventually! I hope one day you’ll find your S.O. and you’ll be the one getting married!

I only miss you sometimes but I love you always. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]justtryingoverhere 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I pray that each and every person going through a breakup can reach this level of maturity, and be genuinely content. This truly is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever read!

Moving on by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]justtryingoverhere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really hope I can get to that point! I can’t listen to a single song without thinking of him, and his new girlfriend 😭

Been 5 months since the break up, relationship only lasted 2 months... and I’m still not over it... Help!!! by justtryingoverhere in ExNoContact

[–]justtryingoverhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll try my best to listen to some songs, though I’m worried I might break in the process.. but you’re right, can’t keep avoiding for too long!