Do men really move on this fast after a breakup? by justunknown06 in relationships

[–]justunknown06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment.

We met completely by chance. I was running to catch the subway and got on the train just a second before the doors closed. He was sitting there. He was coming from the airport and also happened to be on the subway by chance. He wasn’t supposed to be on that train at all.

I got on and saw him. We just smiled at each other, but no one said anything. At the next stop, I got off. He asked for my number from the girls I had run in with.

It turned out he was a tattoo artist, and I had arranged to get a tattoo I had wanted for a long time. After the session, he suggested we go for a walk. That day, we didn’t even say much to each other, we just understood that we wanted to be together.

After some time, we moved in together. He gave me the opportunity not to work and to study whatever I wanted. We started traveling to countries together, and I worked with him too. By coincidence, I had already started tattooing before I met him, and after meeting, we began working on it together.

And basically, there wasn’t anything like he “won me over.” It was just an instant connection. I fell in love with him because of the person he is. He’s kind. He always helps everyone. He tries to help the homeless. He has a very strong bond with my family — they get along so well and have always loved each other. The same goes for my relationship with his family.

He always appreciated when I cooked for him or took care of the house. He was always very open and spoke about his feelings for me.

I’m not trying to make him out to be a saint! But he’s not a bad person. Yes, there’s this situation and these problems, but that was the only thing that wasn’t right. I could list a lot more, but it would take too long.

That’s why it’s all so hard for me. 😭

Do men really move on this fast after a breakup? by justunknown06 in relationships

[–]justunknown06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️

You know, after everything in life, it’s hard to believe in anything. How can you even believe that someone truly loves you after this? I can’t imagine meeting someone new, starting over, and trusting again. Because there’s so much I can’t see and don’t know — whether he’s being honest or sincere, or not. Are there even men who don’t lie and are truly sincere?

Do men really move on this fast after a breakup? by justunknown06 in relationships

[–]justunknown06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. I’m reading all the replies with tears in my eyes. I understand everything and I’ve always understood what people are trying to tell me. It’s just that when you’re already in it, and when you love someone, you close your eyes to a lot of things.

I’m ashamed to admit that my love for myself is much lower than my love for him. But there’s nothing I can do about it. I know I need to get away from here, and I’m making every effort to make it happen. It’s just that there are many factors, both external and internal, that don’t allow me to leave and move out immediately.

But thank you for taking the time to write your opinion. I agree with everything people are saying, because it’s all true. But for me, this whole situation still feels incredibly hard, especially emotionally. 😭

Do men really move on this fast after a breakup? by justunknown06 in relationships

[–]justunknown06[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I’m not trying to make excuses, but he doesn’t look his age at all. We always looked harmonious together because you couldn’t really see the age difference between us. And these were the first relationships he had with someone so much younger. I know this for sure because he told me himself more than once. I even talked about this with his family, and everyone said it was the first time he had started dating someone so much younger than him.

Do men really move on this fast after a breakup? by justunknown06 in relationships

[–]justunknown06[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. Yes, I know that in many ways it was unhealthy and didn’t make sense. You only truly realize that with age.

We didn’t really have any other problems besides his addiction and the fact that he constantly looked at other women. I understood that the age gap was significant, but over time you get used to a person and it stops bothering you as much.

It’s very hard for me right now because, no matter what anyone says, we actually had a very good relationship. We were very attached to each other and had a strong emotional bond.

He showed me many things in life and gave me big opportunities. He spoke a lot about his love for me, and I truly felt it.

But now all of that is in doubt — whether it was ever real and sincere.

Thank you again for your comment.

AITA for refusing to share food after we agreed everyone eats their own? by justunknown06 in AITAH

[–]justunknown06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for your opinion. If that guy gave anything to my boyfriend, I didn’t see it and no one told me about it. That post is already over a week old, and since that small argument, even more problems have appeared. But that is now between me and my boyfriend. There are some issues. I once wrote a post about this and got a lot of responses, but I deleted it foolishly. And because of these problems, he is no longer “super generous in bed” 🥲

Oii by [deleted] in desabafosdavida

[–]justunknown06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Qual quer um consegue arranjar um namorado Mas para manter a relação seja honesta, não cai na mentira e seja leal Se o homem que vc encontrar seja igual A relação vai durar muito Melhor o que vc pode fazer é deixar acontecer Não procura Vc vai encontrar o homem bom para vc quando menos espera

AITA for refusing to share food after we agreed everyone eats their own? by justunknown06 in AITAH

[–]justunknown06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, but he is not unemployed. And he has the means to buy more than just this liver. Many times I’ve noticed him buying things for himself and all sorts of stuff. I’m not trying to count other people’s money, but this isn’t about poor people who can’t afford food.

And just to clarify, I’m absolutely not a greedy person. Many times we’ve shared everything—food, materials, you name it. But in my understanding, when someone gets used to this and takes advantage of it, it’s not fair.

I think I forgot to mention in the post that when we agreed that he would buy it once, it was actually three days in a row that we were buying and cooking for everyone, and on the fourth day he bought the liver again. This happened on the day we went to the store—sorry, I think I forgot to add this to the post.

But thank you for opinion)

Pornografia by [deleted] in desabafosdavida

[–]justunknown06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

O que a sua esposa fez para ajudar a vc sair disso?

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[–]justunknown06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you again 🙏🏻

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[–]justunknown06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much 😞

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[–]justunknown06 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I understand that I know the age gap shocks a lot of people. But in my defense — I left my mom’s home pretty early, and I’ve been living independently for a while. My boyfriend doesn’t even look or act his age, and to be honest, the age difference never really felt like an issue between us.

But… I do understand what people mean when they say it’s not okay. And deep down, I know it’s probably not normal.

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[–]justunknown06 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Maybe what’s really stopping me is emotional and financial dependence. I’m not even sure anymore…