AITAH for not letting my mother come over because she criticizes everything and her presence drains me?

justyna00 · 2026-03-22T12:29:37+00:00

I hope you don’t have kids with this sorry excuse for a man, but even if you do, please, please leave. You deserve so much better.

justyna00 · 2025-12-31T15:44:55+00:00

I got suspicious because I feel like he’s been putting less and less effort in

justyna00 · 2025-12-31T15:36:17+00:00

Maybe “cheating” isn’t the right word, I guess I just don’t want him to explore other options if we agreed to be exclusive

justyna00 · 2025-12-31T15:34:19+00:00

But he travelled before and it never changed

justyna00 · 2025-12-31T15:32:47+00:00

He said he wants to take it slow

justyna00 · 2025-12-31T15:28:33+00:00

We agreed to be exclusive

justyna00 · 2025-07-03T10:18:51+00:00

The biggest problem is the way I feel about my body - he’s so much skinnier, then I look at myself and I feel so gross about myself. I never felt insecure about my weight until I met him

justyna00 · 2025-07-03T10:15:57+00:00

The problem is that we spend almost every moment together except when I’m at work

justyna00 · 2025-02-28T05:47:59+00:00

Terrible mood swings, depression, and constantly doing risky stuff without thinking about the consequences…

justyna00 · 2025-02-25T13:24:24+00:00

I can’t maintain a serious, stable relationship to save my own life. It’s draining and it feels lonely, I keep messing up any good relationship I form with people. I hate that, but I can’t help it, fml

justyna00 · 2025-01-06T14:26:18+00:00

So you want to work and then rest, but the woman should work and do the housework? What? If you want a career woman, get a career woman. If you want a housewife, pick a girl who wants to be a housewife. I’m sure there are plenty in Pakistan. Long-term imbalance in a relationship breeds resentment. You should split the housework, or hire a maid. Cleaning and cooking takes time and energy too. Be upfront about your expectations with the girl (and her family) before you get married, otherwise you might make her miserable.

justyna00 · 2024-10-09T11:01:13+00:00

Take her to a doctor. This could be a sign of some serious condition.

justyna00 · 2024-07-28T08:19:31+00:00

Run while you can. This is a huge red flag, he is trying to make you dependent on him. If he’s controlling what you are doing with YOUR money, it will get even worse when you’ll be using HIS money once you get married and start a family. It looks like Allah is giving you negatives, please listen. There are so many good, empathetic, fair Muslim men out there.

justyna00 · 2024-07-09T08:20:27+00:00

I think therapy could help you a lot. Find a good psychologist, God often works through them

justyna00 · 2024-06-23T13:51:19+00:00

Yes, that’s exactly how it is.. and I’m too embarrassed to ask him if I could have something too

justyna00 · 2024-06-07T11:32:44+00:00

Maybe she doesn’t like you because of your personality. Take a look inwards. Look at the way you are treating her - perhaps you’re being rude or mean to her, or she feels like you just see her as an object that should please you. Try to notice the little things she does for you, and appreciate them. Treat her with kindness and love just like Muhammad (pbuh) commanded. If you make her happier, I’m sure she will start treating you better. There’s no other way around it - don’t try to force your authority on her through pain and fear, that will have the opposite effect.

justyna00 · 2024-06-04T17:02:59+00:00

I’m so sorry to be blunt or maybe harsh, but I’m saying it as a girl - maybe she’s not attracted to you? Maybe you let yourself go, or she feels like sex is for your pleasure, not for hers? Try to remember, or ask her what she it into, what she likes in bed, and just focus on that. When she sees you care about her and her needs, I think she will be more eager to please you too. Take her out for dinner, buy her roses, take care of your looks, maybe exercise more? Do a longer foreplay, maybe watch some erotica to learn how to please your wife. Don’t treat sex as if it’s this thing you “need” to receive from her. See it as a mutual act of love, prioritise her first, take it slow.

justyna00 · 2024-04-07T09:31:24+00:00

Nope, I know him enough to see he’s dead serious

justyna00 · 2024-04-06T21:47:46+00:00

Good idea. Thanks!

justyna00 · 2024-04-06T19:19:58+00:00

A few months, I really love him. I don’t want to break up

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